Do you like kids

[puddlemonkey]

she decided for us after a long discussion about waiting until we are more financially secure and our careers are on track.

I'm not a part in their life I was for 9years for my daughter and 6 years for my son. No I never treated them badly or they didn't do without but I was very bitter and still am.

No she got pregnant after we were married.

k for the honesty.

 

[captainahole]

Dang. Not trying to be an ass, but that seems cold. You never really connected with them? Bonded with them, had love for them?


I didn't want kids or plan it, but I do have a girl and she melts my heart almost daily.

No never really connected with them. I was far to young and far to wild to have kids.
My mom sends me pictures of them every once and a while, just a reminder but gave up on trying to make me have a relationship with them about 10 years ago when I cut ties from her for bitching at me all the time about them. She finally got the hint. So it's something that's not really discussed among us.

 

[jh1]

No never really connected with them. I was far to young and far to wild to have kids.
My mom sends me pictures of them every once and a while, just a reminder but gave up on trying to make me have a relationship with them about 10 years ago when I cut ties from her for bitching at me all the time about them. She finally got the hint. So it's something that's not really discussed among us.

How old are you now?

How old were you when you had them?

 

[Smurfy]

she decided for us after a long discussion about waiting until we are more financially secure and our careers are on track.

I'm not a part in their life I was for 9years for my daughter and 6 years for my son. No I never treated them badly or they didn't do without but I was very bitter and still am.

No she got pregnant after we were married.

weird situation.
i feel bad for those kids.
they didnt ask to be brought into this world
but your decision will have negative consequences for them
that's fucked up

 

[captainahole]

so when they were 9 and 6, you just left them?

on your deathbed, will you look back at your life and feel it was filled with love, or regret and lonliness?

I regret one thing in my life. Sounds stupid but I allowed my peers to influence me once in my life on a decision that has bothered me all my life and will never let anyone have that power again.

loneliness, we all have moments.

 

[stilleto]

No never really connected with them. I was far to young and far to wild to have kids.
My mom sends me pictures of them every once and a while, just a reminder but gave up on trying to make me have a relationship with them about 10 years ago when I cut ties from her for bitching at me all the time about them. She finally got the hint. So it's something that's not really discussed among us.

you're not young anymore.

was your life really great without them? because i bet if you had kept them in your life, they'd be your greatest accomplishment and source of happiness now.

that's really disturbing- both for the kind of character that shows in you, and for your kids who have to know that their father didn't love them.

i appreciate your honesty, so i hope you don't mind mine- i think you've really fucked up.

 

[digimon7068]

our twins (7 year old girls) are in vitro kids. . .miracles of modern science. . .a lot of the shit we went through was not covered by insurance. . .they cost us around $50K. . .out of pocket. . .in hindsight, i'd have paid a cool mill. . .

our son. . .my surprise 41st birthday present (the fertility fairy decided to visit me at 40). . .was a gift from God. . .he was born 3 days before my 41st birthday. . .the best birthday present of my life. . .he filled a hole in my life that i didn't even know was there until he was born. . .my dreams for the future have changed forever. . .

at breakfast with santa december 2006. . .

 

[captainahole]

I'm just about 48, my daughter was born when I was 19 and my son 22.

 

[jnevin]

Some normally non-judgmental people in here swinging the gavel like crazy.

 

[captainahole]

you're not young anymore.

was your life really great without them? because i bet if you had kept them in your life, they'd be your greatest accomplishment and source of happiness now.

that's really disturbing- both for the kind of character that shows in you, and for your kids who have to know that their father didn't love them.

i appreciate your honesty, so i hope you don't mind mine- i think you've really fucked up.

I don't feel that way at all. I have a great wife all the freedom I enjoy and still accomplish new goals of interest every year.
As per character I am a light switch. Hot or cold to people that's a reality.