Depressed

[dawg4life]

I haven't been on Ef in a long time anyway.. Ive been in a rut ever since my Dad passed away on 01-02-08.. I don't have any motovation (sp) anymore..Its effecting my job,my home life and my working out..I haven't been to the gym since December of last year..My wife says its depression any one ever had a similar exp.?? My body has changed alot since the first of the year, fit to flab is creeping up on me..Oh well enough of the poor me boo hooing..Anybody got any ideas on how to get my ASS back in gear.?? Thanks ahead of time

 

[calveless wonder]

the passing of your parent can be a pretty impactful thing.....

have you seen a therapist/psychiatrist?

I'm not a huge advocate of antidepressants but i think they're good in certain instances.

after awhile psychological(cognitive) depression has on impact your entire physiology and sometimes anti depressants are needed to restore that balance.

5 months is a long time and your actions have become a habit. you need to take baby steps...luckily muscle memory will probably kick in and you'll be ok.

just get to the gym ONE time, and you'll automatically gain some momentum.

one day at a time. you're not gonna just jump back into things full speed. just start slowly creating a positive habit again. in 30-60 days if you keep making strides you should be back in your routine

 

[wootoom]

Been there...still there....time heals wounds...you will be ok.

 

[rykertest]

the passing of your parent can be a pretty impactful thing.....

have you seen a therapist/psychiatrist?

I'm not a huge advocate of antidepressants but i think they're good in certain instances.

after awhile psychological(cognitive) depression has on impact your entire physiology and sometimes anti depressants are needed to restore that balance.

5 months is a long time and your actions have become a habit. you need to take baby steps...luckily muscle memory will probably kick in and you'll be ok.

just get to the gym ONE time, and you'll automatically gain some momentum.

one day at a time. you're not gonna just jump back into things full speed. just start slowly creating a positive habit again. in 30-60 days if you keep making strides you should be back in your routine

+1 - good advice here.

 

[dawg4life]

Thanks Bros..Its crazy Ive never been like this before so I guess that makes it hard to accept.. I'll try what you said calveless wonder.. Try to get to th gym and call a Dr..

 

[velvett]

+2

the passing of your parent can be a pretty impactful thing.....

have you seen a therapist/psychiatrist?

I'm not a huge advocate of antidepressants but i think they're good in certain instances.

after awhile psychological(cognitive) depression has on impact your entire physiology and sometimes anti depressants are needed to restore that balance.

5 months is a long time and your actions have become a habit. you need to take baby steps...luckily muscle memory will probably kick in and you'll be ok.

just get to the gym ONE time, and you'll automatically gain some momentum.

one day at a time. you're not gonna just jump back into things full speed. just start slowly creating a positive habit again. in 30-60 days if you keep making strides you should be back in your routine

 

[javaguru]

I haven't been on Ef in a long time anyway.. Ive been in a rut ever since my Dad passed away on 01-02-08.. I don't have any motovation (sp) anymore..Its effecting my job,my home life and my working out..I haven't been to the gym since December of last year..My wife says its depression any one ever had a similar exp.?? My body has changed alot since the first of the year, fit to flab is creeping up on me..Oh well enough of the poor me boo hooing..Anybody got any ideas on how to get my ASS back in gear.?? Thanks ahead of time

Honestly, it sounds like you need to see a professional. Good luck, it's tough losing a parent.

 

[Dial_tone]

Go on HRT, seriously. My mental outlook and energy were much improved.

 

[eddymerckx]

I haven't been on Ef in a long time anyway.. Ive been in a rut ever since my Dad passed away on 01-02-08.. I don't have any motovation (sp) anymore..Its effecting my job,my home life and my working out..I haven't been to the gym since December of last year..My wife says its depression any one ever had a similar exp.?? My body has changed alot since the first of the year, fit to flab is creeping up on me..Oh well enough of the poor me boo hooing..Anybody got any ideas on how to get my ASS back in gear.?? Thanks ahead of time

sorry for your loss--i would like to say that it goes away, but it really turns into something good--good in that i miss my mom almost every day (7 years in July) but just thinking about her makes me smile.

it will get better bro--i promise--but if you did not feel this way you would not be human. depression? yea--but it is part of the grieving process--but if you get stuck either push yourself through it--working out is a good way--talking to someone about it is good too---

force yourself to workout and get on with life---fake it until you make but do not be afraid to reach out---

-eddy

 

[dawg4life]

Thanks again everyone now a question HRT.?? Whats that I know I should know but I can't recall...

 

[pappad]

Hormone Replacement Therapy! I agree at 40 I was very dpressed and had no real motivation. I can tell a big difference in my outlook. I lost my dad and I know what you are going through. All I can say is it is a process and it WILL get better!!! If you ever need to talk, just hit me up!!!!

We're here for ya bro!!!


Now, GET BACK IN THE GYM!!!

 

[the_alcatraz]

Time heals everything...

 

[eddymerckx]

Hormone Replacement Therapy! I agree at 40 I was very dpressed and had no real motivation. I can tell a big difference in my outlook. I lost my dad and I know what you are going through. All I can say is it is a process and it WILL get better!!! If you ever need to talk, just hit me up!!!!

We're here for ya bro!!!


Now, GET BACK IN THE GYM!!!

+1 hrt is a life changer--

 

[the_alcatraz]

Time heals all wounds...slowely but surely

 

[Dial_tone]

Thanks again everyone now a question HRT.?? Whats that I know I should know but I can't recall...

low dose test, 100mg'ish weekly year round. I get by on less sleep, feel more energetic, easier to maintain weight, more frequent wood.

 

[Spartacus]

wellbutrin

 

[musclemom]

Depending on how close you were with the parent, you need to give yourself six months to a year and a half to feel normal, seriously. But here's the switch, if you were close with your parent, you will take less time to get over the loss, seriously.

My husband and I lost our parents within a year of each other. I was VERY close with my mother, he was cordial to his parents. I was utterly devastated when my mother died (unexpectedly) and basically not sane for six months but then it was like, okay and over. HE was seriously fucked up for close to two years. I honestly would have expected it to be otherwise but my observation is the worse the relationship is, the longer you take to recover from losing the other person in it.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Depending on how close you were with the parent, you need to give yourself six months to a year and a half to feel normal, seriously. But here's the switch, if you were close with your parent, you will take less time to get over the loss, seriously.

My husband and I lost our parents within a year of each other. I was VERY close with my mother, he was cordial to his parents. I was utterly devastated when my mother died (unexpectedly) and basically not sane for six months but then it was like, okay and over. HE was seriously fucked up for close to two years. I honestly would have expected it to be otherwise but my observation is the worse the relationship is, the longer you take to recover from losing the other person in it.

Hi Sweety

 

[myway]

I haven't been on Ef in a long time anyway.. Ive been in a rut ever since my Dad passed away on 01-02-08.. I don't have any motovation (sp) anymore..Its effecting my job,my home life and my working out..I haven't been to the gym since December of last year..My wife says its depression any one ever had a similar exp.?? My body has changed alot since the first of the year, fit to flab is creeping up on me..Oh well enough of the poor me boo hooing..Anybody got any ideas on how to get my ASS back in gear.?? Thanks ahead of time

You may need a temporary antidepressant. If u usually don't have these types of problems and this is caused by ur father's death, ur primary care Dr. might be able to give u something to get u going. Cymbalta works great for stuff like this.
Another idea: Make urself get outside and get some sunshine. Go outside and play. Seriously.

 

[dawg4life]

Hormone Replacement Therapy! I agree at 40 I was very dpressed and had no real motivation. I can tell a big difference in my outlook. I lost my dad and I know what you are going through. All I can say is it is a process and it WILL get better!!! If you ever need to talk, just hit me up!!!!

We're here for ya bro!!!


Now, GET BACK IN THE GYM!!!

Thanks I'll get my doc to run test to see if I can get it...Thanks again everyone one who replied

 

[dawg4life]

Depending on how close you were with the parent, you need to give yourself six months to a year and a half to feel normal, seriously. But here's the switch, if you were close with your parent, you will take less time to get over the loss, seriously.

My husband and I lost our parents within a year of each other. I was VERY close with my mother, he was cordial to his parents. I was utterly devastated when my mother died (unexpectedly) and basically not sane for six months but then it was like, okay and over. HE was seriously fucked up for close to two years. I honestly would have expected it to be otherwise but my observation is the worse the relationship is, the longer you take to recover from losing the other person in it.

Thanks I remember you..Good to see you..I'm in your husbands boat on this one.. 2yrs huh.??

 

[Razorguns]

I haven't been on Ef in a long time anyway.. Ive been in a rut ever since my Dad passed away on 01-02-08.. I don't have any motovation (sp) anymore..Its effecting my job,my home life and my working out..I haven't been to the gym since December of last year..My wife says its depression any one ever had a similar exp.?? My body has changed alot since the first of the year, fit to flab is creeping up on me..Oh well enough of the poor me boo hooing..Anybody got any ideas on how to get my ASS back in gear.?? Thanks ahead of time

1) what would your dad want?

2) every second on this planet is precious. from birth to death. don't waste it.

3) if you have no goals to achieve happiness - this is what will happen.

work on those day by day. don't just say it, *live* it.

sorry to hear about your dad. sometimes in life, things are just gonna suck for awhile.

r

 

[wootoom]

Everything is gonna be alright bro..im always here if u need to chat

 

[dawg4life]

Well I went to my Dr last week...Got started on Lexapro which seems to be working and my test levels were LOW...At 200 so Ive been refered to another Dr to fix this problem..Hopefully when all of this is fixed I'll be a Gymrat again..Only time will tell...Thanks for eveyones comments it reminded me why I used to always be on here...

 

[Spartacus]

say goodbye to orgasms

 

[dawg4life]

So I finally find my way back to here..I didn't take my or anyone elses advice and it cost me..A few months after my last post I reached my breaking point. I nutted up big time, now I can laugh at it, my arrest made the local news.. It was bad not Felony bad but bad none the less.Several cops pointing guns at me bad..I did some time in county and now I'm on probation.The good news is my wife didn't leave and supported me through everything..I guess I really want to say to everyone thanks to those that reached out to me.. I hope no one ever gets in the dark place I did and don't let your pride keep you from getting help..So with my new outlook on life I'm ready to hit the gym..I should be back on here more often now, in some strange way when I was active here I had more peace in me..

 

[ortiz34]

So I finally find my way back to here..I didn't take my or anyone elses advice and it cost me..A few months after my last post I reached my breaking point. I nutted up big time, now I can laugh at it, my arrest made the local news.. It was bad not Felony bad but bad none the less.Several cops pointing guns at me bad..I did some time in county and now I'm on probation.The good news is my wife didn't leave and supported me through everything..I guess I really want to say to everyone thanks to those that reached out to me.. I hope no one ever gets in the dark place I did and don't let your pride keep you from getting help..So with my new outlook on life I'm ready to hit the gym..I should be back on here more often now, in some strange way when I was active here I had more peace in me..

drugs get you in trouble?

 

[nangiggles]

Welcome back

 

[dawg4life]

drugs get you in trouble?

Well kinda toooooo much Test, no sleep, tooo many beers , and a rapid respone from local Pd..

 

[Bikini Mod]

While both my parents are still living my children have been taken from me. They aren't dead, true, but I've seen the future (via others' experiences) and it may be bleak. So I understand your pain to some extent.

My advice?

Get yourself some krill oil. It WILL HELP with brain function. It will take about a month or so for you to recognize a difference but IT WILL HELP. You can go to my website to get some information about why it works but I don't have any product for sale.

As for the gym - GO. Just go... Endorphins will be released when you train. Even if you are just going for a walk outside - do it. And once you make the habit (I think it takes like 20 days or something for a habit to be established) you will be so glad when you do go, that you won't want to NOT BE active. It doesn't matter if it is the gym or just a hike or doing whatever other physical activity that you enjoy - just DO IT.

If it weren't for the fact that I've remained active and kept the negative behaviours (ie drinking) in check and surrounding myself with POSITIVE people (which isn't easy to do in my situation) I would have taken my life a long time ago.

 

[Smurfy]

welcome back