Define cheating.

[nangiggles]

Is this somthing u can forgive and get past?

Unfortunately u wont find the answer to that question here because #1 most are amused with you and dont care and #2 we dont love you, we dont know you, we dont know how you are in real life therefore we dont know if you can be forgived, we're probably say no because we have no attachment to you, someone who does though might forgive you, but as per her email it seems she didnt so you should really move on, dont contact her for a week or two and see if she comes around.

 

[gstacker]

Unfortunately u wont find the answer to that question here because #1 most are amused with you and dont care and #2 we dont love you, we dont know you, we dont know how you are in real life therefore we dont know if you can be forgived, we're probably say no because we have no attachment to you, someone who does though might forgive you, but as per her email it seems she didnt so you should really move on, dont contact her for a week or two and see if she comes around.

K fair enough... Ima wait till valintines day I guess, seems like a ok day ya? Anyways I'm sure she will have some handsome guy take her out an I'll be lookin hella stupid but idk I fucked up I deserve it... I swear I'll never ever cheat again!!!

 

[nangiggles]

K fair enough... Ima wait till valintines day I guess, seems like a ok day ya? Anyways I'm sure she will have some handsome guy take her out an I'll be lookin hella stupid but idk I fucked up I deserve it... I swear I'll never ever cheat again!!!

Do NOT wait til Valentine's as you said some dude's probably gonna as her out, wait until first days of Feb and then try a "Hi, Im alive, how u've been" message, if there is a place you are certain to bump in to her even better...

 

[AztecWarrior]

No comment. :C

 

[OMEGA]

i think its cheating when thought become physical interaction

you may be tempted but its a whole other thing to touch

 

[nangiggles]

i think its cheating when thought become physical interaction

you may be tempted but its a whole other thing to touch

TITCR!!!!!!!!!!!!

(Not to be confussed with CR tits/not mine at least)

 

[AztecWarrior]

TITCR!!!!!!!!!!!!

(Not to be confussed with CR tits/not mine at least)

Don't tease me, please me.

 

[sardonicone]

It's not cheating if she doesn't wind up pregnant.

 

[*ebony*]

cheating is pretty much a betrayal of trust. physicality is usually the biggest indicator, but i agree lies can play a big component as well, especially if the intent is to deceive.

Cheating is horrible and of low character either way, but IMHO it's worse when it's more emotionally driven than physical. Women tend to be cheat more emotionally (and probably eventually physically) than guys who are often more physically motivated. Not excusing the behavior or limiting it to 1 sex, but emotional cheating is worse...and tends to be more common with women.

Intention is everything. If I have a girlfriend and some girl comes up to me and tries to make out with me or grab me and i wasn't on guard or willing, then that doesn't constitute cheating. So the physicality aspect alone doesn't neccessarily mean anything. same as if your girl gets her ass grabbed at a club just walking by when shes out with friends

totally agree.

as for forgiveness, i do forgive. its pointless to carry around all the hurt and resentment and anger that usually follows such an event. to my knowledge i have never been cheated on, but if it were to happen then it would be over. a book closed on that part of my life, yet that is not to say i'd rather not have diffrent, less intimate relationship with said person.

i also consider it cheating myself and the person i'm with if the relationship fizzles out and the only reason its continuing is for selfish reason. i used to be with an awesome guy who made feel so cherished, so valued and beautiful. and that was the only reason i was with him because at that moment in my life i needed so bad to feel that and i didn't want to be alone and he was always there, so dependable and solid and good to me. i couldn't stay with him like that, i couldn't live in such a selfish relationship, not when he offered so much and i was unable to give him what he wanted. i felt guilt and i felt shame. so i told him. i've never cried so much as i did that night, never felt so sad as i did that night. i couldn't continue cheating him out of a chance with someone else better.

 

[gstacker]

totally agree.

as for forgiveness, i do forgive. its pointless to carry around all the hurt and resentment and anger that usually follows such an event. to my knowledge i have never been cheated on, but if it were to happen then it would be over. a book closed on that part of my life, yet that is not to say i'd rather not have diffrent, less intimate relationship with said person.

i also consider it cheating myself and the person i'm with if the relationship fizzles out and the only reason its continuing is for selfish reason. i used to be with an awesome guy who made feel so cherished, so valued and beautiful. and that was the only reason i was with him because at that moment in my life i needed so bad to feel that and i didn't want to be alone and he was always there, so dependable and solid and good to me. i couldn't stay with him like that, i couldn't live in such a selfish relationship, not when he offered so much and i was unable to give him what he wanted. i felt guilt and i felt shame. so i told him. i've never cried so much as i did that night, never felt so sad as i did that night. i couldn't continue cheating him out of a chance with someone else better.

That's a deep post, gettin a lil off topic but ya I've stayed with women for selfesh reasons too.... Pretty jacked up, nothing to feel good about.