"CHEATING" on girlfriend!!

[Dieselgoku23]

Okay bros I totally fucked up!!!!!!!. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 years now, I have never ever cheated on her. But I have gotten online and talk to few chicks mostly it was for boredom and was horny. So I have a webcam and send few pictures of me and they would send pictures back or whatever it was mostly like watching porn if anything. Anyways some how she got hold of my password of my email and she saw the pics I sent to these chicks. And she call me crying!!!!!! and doesnt want to deal with me ever again. I personally feel like shit I love this girl soooooo much. she doesnt believe anything I say is like my words dont count. I dont want to loose her I actually wanted to have kids and married this girl. I'm so lost right now is crazy!!!!. And yeah at 250lbs I did cry because it hurts that I was sooo stupid for even doing that. Any guys have any advice on this??? help bros!!! also on PCT so clomid doesnt help

 

[karde]

Okay bros I totally fucked up!!!!!!!. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 years now, I have never ever cheated on her. But I have gotten online and talk to few chicks mostly it was for boredom and was horny. So I have a webcam and send few pictures of me and they would send pictures back or whatever it was mostly like watching porn if anything. Anyways some how she got hold of my password of my email and she saw the pics I sent to these chicks. And she call me crying!!!!!! and doesnt want to deal with me ever again. I personally feel like shit I love this girl soooooo much. she doesnt believe anything I say is like my words dont count. I dont want to loose her I actually wanted to have kids and married this girl. I'm so lost right now is crazy!!!!. And yeah at 250lbs I did cry because it hurts that I was sooo stupid for even doing that. Any guys have any advice on this??? help bros!!! also on PCT so clomid doesnt help

Try telling her the truth of why you did it, and what you just told us.

Can't promise that it will work, but at least its out there.

 

[Gymgurl]

Just tell her the truth...make sure to mention that you never met these girls.......but I would be a little mad that that she is nosing around looking for your password...she didn't trust you to begin with for some reason

 

[Dieselgoku23]

well thank you for the imput guys!!!!, I have told her the truth but she doesnt want to hear it from me!!!!. She says thats all mine (my pics). I was pretty upset about her going thru emails but in the case look what she found. She was right going thru my stuff. Just feel upset this sucks. Well thanx anyways guys!!!

 

[karde]

well thank you for the imput guys!!!!, I have told her the truth but she doesnt want to hear it from me!!!!. She says thats all mine (my pics). I was pretty upset about her going thru emails but in the case look what she found. She was right going thru my stuff. Just feel upset this sucks. Well thanx anyways guys!!!

If she wants to be reasonable and work through it, then try. If she resists a lot, but you manage to convince her to stay with you, then this will be ammo whenever she gets pissed, loses confidence etc. Pain in the ass in the long run, and just plain unhealthy.

Be objective...you fucked up, you got caught, your relationship WILL be different now. Is she the kinda girl that can put this behind her and grow? And anyway, you were doing this shit for a reason, maybe it's time to cut your losses and move on. This experience can help you, or hurt you more.

 

[Dieselgoku23]

Karde thanx for the advice man I was a fucking idiot guess paying for it!!! there is no such thing as a free lunch!!!. Yeah she answer my calls or emails or test messages I guess I would give her some time till her fury is gone!!. Going to keep on trying though!! Thanx bro!

 

[CrazyRussian]

She found your password and looked through your e-mail?

Unless I'm missing something (is she SUPPOSED TO know your password?), she's been doing this for a loooooooong time. Trust me, she didn't just so happen to get into your email the day you sent those pictures. She's probably been doing it for weeks, if not months, if not years. Maybe you should ask her how/why she's been snooping through your private stuff? You have a right to be angry here too...I bet if you snooped through all of her e-mail, you'd find some not so savory shit.

From your post, I can almost guess that she's been LOOKING for something to bust you on so you can end the relationship. 4 years without marriage/engagement is a very long time, and she could just be tired of it and looking for a way to end it. Once again, I dont know the situation so I could be totally wrong, but this is from the top of my head.

GL man

 

[buffer1]

the truth is best

 

[~Lexy~]

Just tell her the truth...make sure to mention that you never met these girls.......but I would be a little mad that that she is nosing around looking for your password...she didn't trust you to begin with for some reason

Reading his story, her nosing around seems a little justified I am affraid. People get the red light in relationships and it is up to us to react to make it better or make it worse or totally dismiss it. I wish everyone goodluck in this situation.

 

[karde]

Reading his story, her nosing around seems a little justified I am affraid. People get the red light in relationships and it is up to us to react to make it better or make it worse or totally dismiss it. I wish everyone goodluck in this situation.

I would think that maybe asking, and two way communication would be justified, not her nosing around. This girl broke trust on a suspicion that trust was broken. In their own way, they both commited the same faux pas.

 

[kristie_doll1980]

Are you sure she even broke into your password? Maybe you left it open? But forget about that part. If you complain that she didn't trust you and read your emails then you are just asking for it. After all, you did mentally cheat. Just own up to it, apologize, and wait it out. She's either going to forgive you or leave you. But it might take her time to work it out in her head.

And I would expect her to cheat back. Its just natural for her to feel unwanted now so she will find someone to make her feel sexy again. Hope you can handle it. At least it will give you a taste on how she feels.

Good luck.

 

[karde]

Are you sure she even broke into your password? Maybe you left it open? But forget about that part. If you complain that she didn't trust you and read your emails then you are just asking for it. After all, you did mentally cheat. Just own up to it, apologize, and wait it out. She's either going to forgive you or leave you. But it might take her time to work it out in her head.

And I would expect her to cheat back. Its just natural for her to feel unwanted now so she will find someone to make her feel sexy again. Hope you can handle it. At least it will give you a taste on how she feels.

Good luck.

Heh, which is why at this point, I would cut my losses and learn from this.

 

[velvett]

Anyways some how she got hold of my password of my email and she saw the pics I sent to these chicks.

I hate to point this out to you - but the fact that she *stumbled* (yah O K )
on to your password and did some snooping means that she stop trusting you prior to this event.

Uh yah, you're pretty fucked.

All I can say is be honest, plead like hell, and maybe you could start praying.

Or get ready to be single.

GOOD LUCK.

 

[Scotsman]

I hate to point this out to you - but the fact that she *stumbled* (yah O K )
on to your password and did some snooping means that she stop trusting you prior to this event.

Uh yah, you're pretty fucked.

This is what I was thinking too.

Besides there is obviously a lack of trust in your relationship if she is prying into your e-mail to keep tabs on you. IMO you are probably going to be better off without her since this will only lead to her completely controlling your life if you grovel to get her back.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[jeepboi]

thats why i tell my wife when im going to the StripClubs, She understands i need Guy time.

An Understanding wife/girlfriend is worth their weight in Gold.

 

[Dieselgoku23]

Well finally I understood things are made for a reason so going to move on I live in Miami and believe it or not incredible hot looking girls out here yet large majority of them you wouldnt want them as wifey material but its all good thanx guys for the input!

 

[PaganPunkstress]

Hope all gets better for you.
You've learned your lesson you naughty boy.
*hugs*

 

[needtogetaas]

If she wants to be reasonable and work through it, then try. If she resists a lot, but you manage to convince her to stay with you, then this will be ammo whenever she gets pissed, loses confidence etc. Pain in the ass in the long run, and just plain unhealthy.

Be objective...you fucked up, you got caught, your relationship WILL be different now. Is she the kinda girl that can put this behind her and grow? And anyway, you were doing this shit for a reason, maybe it's time to cut your losses and move on. This experience can help you, or hurt you more.

ther isent a girl on this earth that will forget anny thing you have don rong.they may say I forgiv you but they will never ever forget it.you owe her something and you will owe it to her for the rest of youre life.

 

[artrius]

Well finally I understood things are made for a reason so going to move on I live in Miami and believe it or not incredible hot looking girls out here yet large majority of them you wouldnt want them as wifey material but its all good thanx guys for the input!

That's a good way to look at it, bro, just move on the best you can and don't worry about it, there are plenty of fish in the sea! good luck bro

 

[Cutiebaby]

some girls think that even looking at photos or chatting with another female is cheating...if you love her tell her the truth...be with her and maybe commit to not do it again but also have her regain trust in you....and yes girls do forget!!!! as long as you dont continue to do it.....

 

[artrius]

some girls think that even ... chatting with another female is cheating

*gulp* maybe I should fess up....

 

[Cutiebaby]

lol....depends on what your girl thinks and wants...girls are different like i said so that is between you and your girl

 

[PaganPunkstress]

yup very true

 

[Sub-Zero]

Okay bros I totally fucked up!!!!!!!. I have been dating my girlfriend for about 4 years now, I have never ever cheated on her. But I have gotten online and talk to few chicks mostly it was for boredom and was horny. So I have a webcam and send few pictures of me and they would send pictures back or whatever it was mostly like watching porn if anything. Anyways some how she got hold of my password of my email and she saw the pics I sent to these chicks. And she call me crying!!!!!! and doesnt want to deal with me ever again. I personally feel like shit I love this girl soooooo much. she doesnt believe anything I say is like my words dont count. I dont want to loose her I actually wanted to have kids and married this girl. I'm so lost right now is crazy!!!!. And yeah at 250lbs I did cry because it hurts that I was sooo stupid for even doing that. Any guys have any advice on this??? help bros!!! also on PCT so clomid doesnt help

wait untill shell let u talk to her- if u care keep trying, leaving her notes sending her flowers and watch her without her knowing so she dont bang other guys o rsomething.

once shell listen to u then explain to her ur situation, why u did it, why u thought it was ok, how far u went, that ull never do it agian if she dont want etc etc

 

[AllSwoleUp]

Draino injected directly into the neck works wonders.