Anyone here dating a stripper?

[Kroliczek]

Strippers are women just like all other women, they have just chosen to dance. Some of them dance because they like the attention, others because they like the money. I'd say that most of them don't enjoy the men they dance for, but there are always exceptions to every "rule."
If you have a problem with jealousy, don't date a stripper. You're only going to torture yourself.

And no, I'm not a dancer.

 

[Satyricon2004]

lol @ "dancer"

Hate to say it bro but sounds like you are extremely insecure. Rightfully so though. The majority of guys would be insecure as well if in your position. Who on earth wants to see their woman prancing naked and acting like a slut for OTHER men?? Stripping (lol @ "dancing") is as low as it gets imo. One's sexuality is a truly special gift and stripping for other people takes away every last bit of sacredness in that gift. Your choices are either you accept her stripping and lose your mind or she quits. If she quits because you made her there will be problems. Bad situation bro. Good luck.

This is a very black and white statement where its either good or bad and there is no inbetween and most of all, there is nothing better than bad. I understand and know where you are coming from, because most guys when it really comes down to it, are from that planet. Most wants to date one of these lovely girls, but when they get it, they cant take the heat and loose out one way or another.

But there are more aspects, like stated above, if you love someone, you dont give a fuck about their status, it simply dosnt matter. However, insecurity is a personal flaw, not something that can be related to the better half, however, your better half can inflict insecurity on you, if you lack the conversations that will make both parties understand the situation. And i believe being open about stuff, getting to understand the girls way of thinking, reduces the guys she is seeing to moneybags for grabbing.. that is the psychology i try to use when i view things.. however, sometimes the good old brain kicks in with its logic, wich dosnt apply in this environment, because its not logic, it illogic and needs to be dealed with as such...

 

[hardrock]

I personally could never date another stripper. No matter how much you "trust" them, you're always wondering whats going on.

 

[wutangnomo]

This is a very black and white statement where its either good or bad and there is no inbetween and most of all, there is nothing better than bad. I understand and know where you are coming from, because most guys when it really comes down to it, are from that planet. Most wants to date one of these lovely girls, but when they get it, they cant take the heat and loose out one way or another.

But there are more aspects, like stated above, if you love someone, you dont give a fuck about their status, it simply dosnt matter. However, insecurity is a personal flaw, not something that can be related to the better half, however, your better half can inflict insecurity on you, if you lack the conversations that will make both parties understand the situation. And i believe being open about stuff, getting to understand the girls way of thinking, reduces the guys she is seeing to moneybags for grabbing.. that is the psychology i try to use when i view things.. however, sometimes the good old brain kicks in with its logic, wich dosnt apply in this environment, because its not logic, it illogic and needs to be dealed with as such...

My statement is very black and white because your situation is very black and white. You are trying to rationalize your situation (and justify her stripping) in whatever capacity you possibly can to alleviate your insecurity. One thing you don't realize is that you cannot 'not' make yourself insecure because you already are. How can you turn off your 'logic' as you put it? If you were a machine then sure, but unfortunately you are a human being and you will always have your logic (therefore you will always have that insecurity). By reading your reply there is no way in hell you are going to fully accept and not have problems with her stripping. No way in hell. You love her, but you don't love her job/lifestyle. Guess what, her job/lifestyle IS her.

Most guys get with strippers simply because they are fun, hot and good fucks. Period. Most strippers aren't long-term relationship material. Guys want the Madonna-Whore scenario.... a lady in public, but a whore in the bedroom. Problem is, strippers are whores outside of the bedroom in public. You really think you can deal with that?

 

[Satyricon2004]

My statement is very black and white because your situation is very black and white. You are trying to rationalize your situation (and justify her stripping) in whatever capacity you possibly can to alleviate your insecurity. One thing you don't realize is that you cannot 'not' make yourself insecure because you already are. How can you turn off your 'logic' as you put it? If you were a machine then sure, but unfortunately you are a human being and you will always have your logic (therefore you will always have that insecurity). By reading your reply there is no way in hell you are going to fully accept and not have problems with her stripping. No way in hell. You love her, but you don't love her job/lifestyle. Guess what, her job/lifestyle IS her.

Most guys get with strippers simply because they are fun, hot and good fucks. Period. Most strippers aren't long-term relationship material. Guys want the Madonna-Whore scenario.... a lady in public, but a whore in the bedroom. Problem is, strippers are whores outside of the bedroom in public. You really think you can deal with that?

You are scoring big time here, but you are also far out and really missing some points. first of all, whore is a term that has a meaning and has a degrading punsh line. Like someone that sells sex for money would be a whore, someone that does something that isnt with your norms or standards can be named a whore, but dosnt have to be so based on the words meaning. Your personal opinions tells me that you describe the insecurity that everyone sane would have, but there are different ways of dealing with it. No you can never become un-insecure, but you can most of the time look at things in a different way, that makes you cool with it. Something that i manage to do most of the time, but not always, your right.

Madonna picture is somewhat true too i believe, but i do believe that your basic view and opinion of strippers as a stereotyped group is coloring your statements way too much, makes me think you got fucked over or jerked by a stripper at one time and now have been reduced to a bitter pissed of man. Im sure there are loads of humans that are assholes, dosnt mean the human race is assholes tho... =D

Shades.. not just black and white

 

[Dakotah]

jealousy used to be a problem. up until the point i made her quit

MADE who quit?????? better word that better buddy!!!!
the decision ultimatly was mine to quit not yours!!

 

[DIVISION]

Im seeing a girl right now and have been for over 6 months, she is a dancer and the seriousness of our relationship reached engagement in september. I was ok with everything, but now.. things seems to be changing..

It friggin awkward to know that you fiance stands around naked in front of other guys.. even tho she just wants them for their money, its pretty far away from the norm...

I know that this is like a disease, most guys wants this setting, but when they get it, they cant handle it, the fact that their girls are still dancers..

Need to use some psychology on myself to change the ways i think about things... wondering, anyone else dating, seeing, married to or in any way in a relationship with a dancing woman?

Is jealousy a problem? How do you deal with it and is there a way of thinking that will make it all non important...

FUCK NO!!!!!!!!!

Every stripper I've ever met or associated with has had issues out the yin/yang..........I would never date a stripper/dancer/hooker/crooker......

That's asking for drama out the ass, y0'!

Everyone and anyone I've ever known who's dated a stripper has only been drug down by them...........BAD LIFE CHOICE!




DIV

 

[Yarg!]

dun.. dun.. dun...!!!

sad attempt at suspense...

 

[Forge]

MADE who quit?????? better word that better buddy!!!!
the decision ultimatly was mine to quit not yours!!

Ooohh, this thread could get real interesting, real fast!

 

[Devastation]

MADE who quit?????? better word that better buddy!!!!
the decision ultimatly was mine to quit not yours!!

i can always go back to dancing