anyone ever feel guilty

[tuc biscuit]

when you buy nice things for yourself? like a nice car, or nice clothes or go out to eat or drink and spend plenty of cash when that money could have gone to people who struggle day to day via charitable organisations?



like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?



or should you just say, I earned it and worked hard for it so I deserve a treat

 

[tinytank]

when you buy nice things for yourself? like a nice car, or nice clothes or go out to eat or drink and spend plenty of cash when that money could have gone to people who struggle day to day via charitable organisations?



like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?



or should you just say, I earned it and worked hard for it so I deserve a treat

hell no , i spent 150.00 pounds on drink last week and i just feel kinda stupid about it. not guilty, why should i ? im a grown man, i work for my money i shouldnt feel guilty over something like that.

 

[jaded]

Yeah, I do sometimes... I think, 'I didn't really NEED this...' and feel guilty about it.

 

[silverfish]

Sometimes, but the feeling passes quickly enough.

 

[Spanky11]

wait until MTSW response on ths one....

 

[bigmann245]

the problem is we spend too much time as a country helping 3rd world countries that dont want helps instead of taking care of our own people because we are stuck on the "get a job" kick, but its not that easy for some people. some people cant work due to injury and social security dont pay shit believe me. but we have billions to spend on a war that this country didnt want in the first place but our soncial security system is in jeapardy. i know we are the land of oportunity but that is a false front. you have to be given and oportunity in order to get somewhere. you cant just walk in and say i want this job i saw it first, they have to give you the job if they want YOU. not everyone can be a doctor. they might be smart enough but not have the money to go to college. or they might have the money but not be smart enough.

life is about choices but sometimes our choices are made for us due to others needs. it is a shame though that we dont help our own first before we help other countries.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Wow!
OK, I do feel guilty sometimes, but yeah, I do spend money freely on myself, or the wife. It took me long enough to get here, so I think, "I worked for it, I deserve it."
I'm tired of all the phone calls for charity. I feel guilty every time I turn them down. But I get sick of the calls, 5 or 6 a night, between 17:30 and 21:30. So I only give to 2, plus United Way.
I kow first hand what bad luck, tiiming & health can do to a man. I have a Good Bro, (Bor?) living with me, his fucking family won't even take him in. He's on a pension & in line for an apartment, but he'd be on the street if it weren't fo my wife & I.

As far as helping others. There is a young kid I see around town 18-20 yrs old. Usually with a girl around the same age & with a big dog. I've seen them at off ramps from the express routes standing at lights & stop signs. Carries a placard saying, my G.F. is pregnant & needs meds, or our mother died & we need bus money to get home. IMO there is no reason they can't work. I started out on unemployment 20 yrs ago, got a trade & worked my way to were I am today, saddled with rediculous debt .
Anyways, I don't mind helping those that can't do for themselves. But I resent capable people wanting help from me, if they are not helping themselves.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

I feel that way after I visit Colombia. Some family there lives well on $400usd per month, one of my aunts pays $95usd in rent per month for a 4 bedroom house... She almost had a heart attack when I told her I spent $1,200usd on a Paintball gun.

A chick I met there got a little embarrased after we ate at a restaurant and the bill was about $35usd... I told her I spent 3x that much on dinner for two at "Cheese Cake Factory" she almost cried, I told her I wanted to find a good Colombian wife to bring back to the USA, I fucked her that night, I never called her back.

Yeah I feel bad, then I come back to the US and forget about it.



-BRR

 

[bigmann245]

I feel that way after I visit Colombia. Some family there lives well on $400usd per month, one of my aunts pays $95usd in rent per month for a 4 bedroom house... She almost had a heart attack when I told her I spent $1,200usd on a Paintball gun.

A chick I met there got a little embarrased after we ate at a restaurant and the bill was about $35usd... I told her I spent 3x that much on dinner for two at "Cheese Cake Factory" she almost cried, I told her I wanted to find a good Colombian wife to bring back to the USA, I fucked her that night, I never called her back.

Yeah I feel bad, then I come back to the US and forget about it.



-BRR

when i went to ecuador with the navy i met this woman. she was a single mom and i was set up with her because 2 friends of mine met her and her 2 friends and needed a 3rd guy so i went. now yes i was married and still am but we didnt do anything, she just didnt want to feel out of place so i went to accompany her. my wife told me i could when i asked her in an email. she said she trusted me and to go ahead. well anyway, we went out to a really nice restaraunt. she always heard of this restaraunt but never went due to it was very high class (well to them) and when we got the bill she looked at it as i paid for all 6 of us myself and said "Muy Espensioso" i looked at her and said not to worry. the bill for all 6 was only $120 and that was for a huge dinner with lots of drinks, outside dining in an atrium setting. the look of shock in her eyes when i pulled out cash and paid for the entire meal for all of us was unbelievable. i felt bad for her. but she ended up meeting another sailor and got married to him and now lives in texas. i stay in touch with her and yes my wife knows about her and vice versa. it would be nice to see her again.

 

[JayC9]

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