anyone ever feel guilty

[tuc biscuit]

when you buy nice things for yourself? like a nice car, or nice clothes or go out to eat or drink and spend plenty of cash when that money could have gone to people who struggle day to day via charitable organisations?



like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?



or should you just say, I earned it and worked hard for it so I deserve a treat

 

[tinytank]

when you buy nice things for yourself? like a nice car, or nice clothes or go out to eat or drink and spend plenty of cash when that money could have gone to people who struggle day to day via charitable organisations?



like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?



or should you just say, I earned it and worked hard for it so I deserve a treat

hell no , i spent 150.00 pounds on drink last week and i just feel kinda stupid about it. not guilty, why should i ? im a grown man, i work for my money i shouldnt feel guilty over something like that.

 

[jaded]

Yeah, I do sometimes... I think, 'I didn't really NEED this...' and feel guilty about it.

 

[silverfish]

Sometimes, but the feeling passes quickly enough.

 

[Spanky11]

wait until MTSW response on ths one....

 

[bigmann245]

the problem is we spend too much time as a country helping 3rd world countries that dont want helps instead of taking care of our own people because we are stuck on the "get a job" kick, but its not that easy for some people. some people cant work due to injury and social security dont pay shit believe me. but we have billions to spend on a war that this country didnt want in the first place but our soncial security system is in jeapardy. i know we are the land of oportunity but that is a false front. you have to be given and oportunity in order to get somewhere. you cant just walk in and say i want this job i saw it first, they have to give you the job if they want YOU. not everyone can be a doctor. they might be smart enough but not have the money to go to college. or they might have the money but not be smart enough.

life is about choices but sometimes our choices are made for us due to others needs. it is a shame though that we dont help our own first before we help other countries.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Wow!
OK, I do feel guilty sometimes, but yeah, I do spend money freely on myself, or the wife. It took me long enough to get here, so I think, "I worked for it, I deserve it."
I'm tired of all the phone calls for charity. I feel guilty every time I turn them down. But I get sick of the calls, 5 or 6 a night, between 17:30 and 21:30. So I only give to 2, plus United Way.
I kow first hand what bad luck, tiiming & health can do to a man. I have a Good Bro, (Bor?) living with me, his fucking family won't even take him in. He's on a pension & in line for an apartment, but he'd be on the street if it weren't fo my wife & I.

As far as helping others. There is a young kid I see around town 18-20 yrs old. Usually with a girl around the same age & with a big dog. I've seen them at off ramps from the express routes standing at lights & stop signs. Carries a placard saying, my G.F. is pregnant & needs meds, or our mother died & we need bus money to get home. IMO there is no reason they can't work. I started out on unemployment 20 yrs ago, got a trade & worked my way to were I am today, saddled with rediculous debt .
Anyways, I don't mind helping those that can't do for themselves. But I resent capable people wanting help from me, if they are not helping themselves.

 

[Big Rick Rock]

I feel that way after I visit Colombia. Some family there lives well on $400usd per month, one of my aunts pays $95usd in rent per month for a 4 bedroom house... She almost had a heart attack when I told her I spent $1,200usd on a Paintball gun.

A chick I met there got a little embarrased after we ate at a restaurant and the bill was about $35usd... I told her I spent 3x that much on dinner for two at "Cheese Cake Factory" she almost cried, I told her I wanted to find a good Colombian wife to bring back to the USA, I fucked her that night, I never called her back.

Yeah I feel bad, then I come back to the US and forget about it.



-BRR

 

[bigmann245]

I feel that way after I visit Colombia. Some family there lives well on $400usd per month, one of my aunts pays $95usd in rent per month for a 4 bedroom house... She almost had a heart attack when I told her I spent $1,200usd on a Paintball gun.

A chick I met there got a little embarrased after we ate at a restaurant and the bill was about $35usd... I told her I spent 3x that much on dinner for two at "Cheese Cake Factory" she almost cried, I told her I wanted to find a good Colombian wife to bring back to the USA, I fucked her that night, I never called her back.

Yeah I feel bad, then I come back to the US and forget about it.



-BRR

when i went to ecuador with the navy i met this woman. she was a single mom and i was set up with her because 2 friends of mine met her and her 2 friends and needed a 3rd guy so i went. now yes i was married and still am but we didnt do anything, she just didnt want to feel out of place so i went to accompany her. my wife told me i could when i asked her in an email. she said she trusted me and to go ahead. well anyway, we went out to a really nice restaraunt. she always heard of this restaraunt but never went due to it was very high class (well to them) and when we got the bill she looked at it as i paid for all 6 of us myself and said "Muy Espensioso" i looked at her and said not to worry. the bill for all 6 was only $120 and that was for a huge dinner with lots of drinks, outside dining in an atrium setting. the look of shock in her eyes when i pulled out cash and paid for the entire meal for all of us was unbelievable. i felt bad for her. but she ended up meeting another sailor and got married to him and now lives in texas. i stay in touch with her and yes my wife knows about her and vice versa. it would be nice to see her again.

 

[JayC9]

no

 

[ziggyziggy]

when you buy nice things for yourself? like a nice car, or nice clothes or go out to eat or drink and spend plenty of cash when that money could have gone to people who struggle day to day via charitable organisations?



like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?



or should you just say, I earned it and worked hard for it so I deserve a treat

Thanks tuc, for making me feel like COMPLETE shit.

Zig

 

[nycgirl]

No, I dont feel bad. I do volunteer work (being a mentor or working with free legal aid groups) and donate to charities via races (which I haven't done in awhile) or events held at work (my company is big on charity work). I work hard via school and my profession. There is nothing wrong with celebrating what I have accomplished in life via a nice dinner, going to a spa, nice chocolates, great sex, shoes & clothes, etc.

 

[jack sparrow]

I don't feel bad at all. I hit the road when I was 18 and never looked back. Lots of hard times, but thats life. I say no free lunch for a man able to work.

Enjoy what you have earned...it don't belong to anyone else but you.

 

[silverfish]

I don't feel bad at all. I hit the road when I was 18 and never looked back. Lots of hard times, but thats life. I say no free lunch for a man able to work.

Enjoy what you have earned...it don't belong to anyone else but you.

Exactly, but I ALWAYS help out when unfortunate circumstances occur. House burns, someone's family member dies and they can't provide, disease like cancer or MS etc hit. In small towns we have no choice but to stick together and help those in need.

 

[jack sparrow]

Exactly, but I ALWAYS help out when unfortunate circumstances occur. House burns, someone's family member dies and they can't provide, disease like cancer or MS etc hit. In small towns we have no choice but to stick together and help those in need.

Good man.

I as well give to the Make A Wish Foundation and Purple heart. This year, I'm gonna go through my Brother/Sister-in-laws Church and find a family that I can help out directly....with groceries...X-Mas tree, etc.

My 'no free lunch' policy doesn't apply to those who actually NEED it.

 

[HiDnGoD]

i felt bad for her. but she ended up meeting another sailor and got married to him and now lives in texas. i stay in touch with her and yes my wife knows about her and vice versa. it would be nice to see her again.

That's a really nice story. Great that you stayed in touch.

 

[PBR]

I believe we make and choose our world in which we live- so no, i dont feel guilty...the only thing that i ever feel bad about is gambling money...i dont do it, cause i dont know how..but ive played slots and "21" before...lost several hundred dollars at times and made some back...but for me to gamble hard earned money to throw away, doesnt make sense...that money is lost/gone and cannot be put to use for me or someone else...it made me feel guilty.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Do I recognize the ridiculous of spending $250 on a meal or dropping $150 on an outfit for a night? Yeah, sure. But I don't feel guilty about it. It's my money, I work hard for it. I give to United Way out of every check. I donate money and material things to organizations all the time. I feel bad for those who don't have more but I know that I'm blessed to have what I have.

 

[hamstershaver]

ive never spent $100 on a meal, so i wouldnt know

 

[LattsPrincess]

I only feel stupid when I go out and buy something instead of using that money to pay down my debts.

 

[thelion2005]

Every day I watch people make stupid decisions and doom themselves.
(1) They have children too early without a Dad.
(2) They do not complete their education.
(3) They do not save for the future.
(4) They select mates based on their looks, clothes or car.

I do not feel bad spending my earned money in front of them.

I take care of my family first. However, if I see a true need due to tragedy, I will step in IF WANTED. This holds true especially for children.

Next month I will receive my first Social Security check for $1,400. Do I need it? Nope. Will I take it? Yes! Why? Because I started working at 14 and never missed a pay day for the next 48 years. The Government took the money from me every pay day and now I want it back.

Do I feel bad? Not one bit.

 

[toga22]

like when people go out and spend $100 on a meal when some people have to feed a family for a week on that?

I have sat on both sides of the fence... And unforunately after being on the $100 a month plan for food, I find it VERY difficult to spend $100 on a single meal. Quite possibly, because I still spend money like I don't have it. And I have always seen eating as a neccesity, not as a luxury. When I am hungry, I eat...whether it be ramen noodles 10 bags for a buck or whatever. I really don't crave and get enough enjoyment out of eating to validate spending $100 on a meal. But, at the same time, I don't see anything wrong with people that do either. If you earn it...you deserve to spend it.

I do agree with the statement, It is my money...I will do with it as I want. No one should feel guilty becuase of someone else's misfortune. My only complaint about the whole topic, would not be towards individuals but more towards our gov't. There really aren't any systems set up that actually help people "help themselves"...if that makes sense.

 

[Dial_tone]

I have never really splurged on myself MTSW style because I can't afford to. My idea of treating myself is going to Sizzler then grabbing a case on the way home. I don't feel any guilt, but I might if I was dropping $200 on a dinner date.

 

[newbiebynature]

i donate money to my church why should i feel bad