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BIKINIMOM said:
i'm not. . .my wife is MUCH more sensible than me. . .i fully intend to let her take care of that stuff and i will support her. . .period. . .
Any Parents Only Teach Abstinence?
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i'm not. . .my wife is MUCH more sensible than me. . .i fully intend to let her take care of that stuff and i will support her. . .period. . .
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NEWSFLASH!!!
The American Journal of Medicine documented an alarmingly high rate of children as young as the age of TEN with venerial diseases present in THEIR THROATS.
OK... where do you think these little girls learned to give head and to whom do ya'll think they were giving it to?
And no, this wasn't *just* in the inner city.
WAKE THE FUCK UP PEOPLE.
The American Journal of Medicine documented an alarmingly high rate of children as young as the age of TEN with venerial diseases present in THEIR THROATS.
OK... where do you think these little girls learned to give head and to whom do ya'll think they were giving it to?
And no, this wasn't *just* in the inner city.
WAKE THE FUCK UP PEOPLE.
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jh1 said:
crude, simplistic and extremely effective. . .i'm all about that. . .
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I told my boy to be a good boy and keep his penis to himself. Of course, he's in the womb, so it isn't to difficult for him to comply with mom's wishes...lol.
Gosh, I don't know. I used to tell my warn my little sister (12 years younger) that boys mature later and that they will say anything to get in your panties, etc. I never told her to be abstinent. I just told her to make damn sure she knew the boy's motives. I also didn't tell her to go out and do it.
Gosh, I don't know. I used to tell my warn my little sister (12 years younger) that boys mature later and that they will say anything to get in your panties, etc. I never told her to be abstinent. I just told her to make damn sure she knew the boy's motives. I also didn't tell her to go out and do it.
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Arming a child male or female with accurate information about how their bodies work (this includes the FEELINGS that come with the onset of puberty) and about sexually transmitted diseases and accurate information about contraception IS NOT the same as saying, "Now go out and doink anything that will let you - there are ZERO consequences."
I am happy that they teach about these topics in school as it has been a long time since I had to deal with these things and I have forgotten certain tiny details, not to mention all the new and improved SCARY SHIT the kids today have to deal with.
The problem is that NO ONE is talking openly and honestly to these children without shame and embarrassment. For fuck's sake - HOW DID WE ALL GET HERE?
I was also very uptight the first time I had to talk about sex with my children. My oldest was about 4 and I was very pregnant with her baby sister. She wouldn't give up asking me HOW the baby got "in there" until I broke out the baby book and told her accurately and without too much detail HOW a baby is made. I swear to God, I aged like 10 years in 10 minutes. But when it was over, the earth didn't open and swallow me whole, neither was my child damaged from it.
TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN - AND WHEN THEY TALK BACK - LISTEN!!!
I am happy that they teach about these topics in school as it has been a long time since I had to deal with these things and I have forgotten certain tiny details, not to mention all the new and improved SCARY SHIT the kids today have to deal with.
The problem is that NO ONE is talking openly and honestly to these children without shame and embarrassment. For fuck's sake - HOW DID WE ALL GET HERE?
I was also very uptight the first time I had to talk about sex with my children. My oldest was about 4 and I was very pregnant with her baby sister. She wouldn't give up asking me HOW the baby got "in there" until I broke out the baby book and told her accurately and without too much detail HOW a baby is made. I swear to God, I aged like 10 years in 10 minutes. But when it was over, the earth didn't open and swallow me whole, neither was my child damaged from it.
TALK TO YOUR CHILDREN - AND WHEN THEY TALK BACK - LISTEN!!!
The problem is that people are depending on the school to teach the children what should be a parent's decision to teach abstinence or not.
People are never going agree on what the school should teach because its an opinion. No one is ever going to agree on an opinion. People are going to bitch about their tax dollars being spent on programs they dont agree with ; that goes both ways because obviously people dont like abstinence only programs.
The children whose parents dont teach about these things should have some sort of a program AVAILABLE to them however. but all that costs money you know.
And I dont think that abstenence only is a bad thing to teach kids, but you have to be realistic about the children you have. Some kids it works, some it does not. You have to know the kid.
People are never going agree on what the school should teach because its an opinion. No one is ever going to agree on an opinion. People are going to bitch about their tax dollars being spent on programs they dont agree with ; that goes both ways because obviously people dont like abstinence only programs.
The children whose parents dont teach about these things should have some sort of a program AVAILABLE to them however. but all that costs money you know.
And I dont think that abstenence only is a bad thing to teach kids, but you have to be realistic about the children you have. Some kids it works, some it does not. You have to know the kid.
I am not looking at that video..
I am still debating on how I should speak to my children when they get age appropriate. I want to have an open relationship with my kids where they will know that they can come to me, where I wont judge but I will listen and offer my sound advice..I am not saying that I am going to be a mom that lets her kids run free. I am saying I would rather my kids tell me they are thinking of becoming active so that I can teach them about protection and all the risks..It is sad but in this day and age people are not waiting....I have toyed with the idea of getting my girl on Bc as soon as she turns 13 but then I have thought to myself well isn't that basically giving her a green light....I have severe mixed emotions as to how I will handle it when the time comes. I mean my mom never really spoke to me about much and I went on my own to get bc (of course my mom knew because she worked at the dr's office) but she never spoke to me about any of it. Hell I did not even tell her when I was pregnant at 16 because we did not have that open communication. She read it in my med records..I dont want that with my daughter. I want to talk the talk with her, and be there to listen. I want her to be prepared and to know all that there is to know.And I just pray that all 3 of em will not fall to peer pressure or that curiosity will not get the best of them.
I am still debating on how I should speak to my children when they get age appropriate. I want to have an open relationship with my kids where they will know that they can come to me, where I wont judge but I will listen and offer my sound advice..I am not saying that I am going to be a mom that lets her kids run free. I am saying I would rather my kids tell me they are thinking of becoming active so that I can teach them about protection and all the risks..It is sad but in this day and age people are not waiting....I have toyed with the idea of getting my girl on Bc as soon as she turns 13 but then I have thought to myself well isn't that basically giving her a green light....I have severe mixed emotions as to how I will handle it when the time comes. I mean my mom never really spoke to me about much and I went on my own to get bc (of course my mom knew because she worked at the dr's office) but she never spoke to me about any of it. Hell I did not even tell her when I was pregnant at 16 because we did not have that open communication. She read it in my med records..I dont want that with my daughter. I want to talk the talk with her, and be there to listen. I want her to be prepared and to know all that there is to know.And I just pray that all 3 of em will not fall to peer pressure or that curiosity will not get the best of them.
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cindylou said:
I dont know what it is like in your state but back in NJ when my children got to the age where sex ed was taught (6/7th grade - too late in my opinion) they were all sent home with a note for the parents. If the parents did not give consent for their child to be in the class then the children did not have to attend that class. They offered some sort of alternative. There was also a place in the note that said if the parent had some sort of questions or comments about the curriculum (it was fairly well outlined) then please let them know. The only part of the curriculum I had an issue with was the part where they taught about steriods. I volunteered to come to class to discuss issues associated w/anabolics if the teacher needed help. I didn't want my children and their classmates subjected to the hysterical media proliferated bullshit and taught REAL FACTS.
The teacher called me and thanked me for my comments, said that in all her years she had NEVER had a parent volunteer to come help teach the class.
Abstinence only is foolish IMO.
Just like saying just say NO to drugs. I think it far more effective to show a kid the autopsied degenerated brain of a clubkid and say, "Hey, it's your choice if YOU WANT YOUR BRAIN FRIED... GO FOR IT!"
I believe a better approach would be to have the class have empathy bellies and the babies that cry at all hours unless you hold a key in them a certain way for X amount of time. Not a substitute for "the real thing" but about as damned near close as one can get IMO.
Regardless, there are some kids that just won't listen no matter WHAT you tell them... I think the odds are better though if you take the "arm the kids with valid information then boost their self-esteem to make them feel THEY are in control of their own destiny" approach.
But as I said, purely my opinion and I could be 100% wrong.
