no cindy, dont get me wrong here. i dont condone hitting your kid to make them act right. there is more than one way to skin a cat. like i said before, the punishment has to fit the crime. like when my son raised a dish at me and i said dont do it , he threw me a dirty look and threw it anyway.. i can count on 1 hand the amount of times i hit my son, and never HIT him, just enough to sting him so he got the point. i avoid hitting him but dont cancel it out entirely. boys are also much diff than girls. we are stubborn and full of balls.. my dad used to hit my sisters... i could never hit a girl.. daughter, random ect... i got the shit beat out of me growing up, for my son, i never could, but i do believe it can be used as a tool if need be... key word is need!...
i use it as the ultimate last straw.. 99% of the time i find another way. if misused it can induce violent behavior. i would never let it go to that point. ive seen what it does to kids.
i used the plate as an example, thats the least ive hit him for... the other was spitting on his mothers face cause he was mad... after it happened the third time, he wasnt getting the severity of it...
idk where your from, in these schools here now days, you spit on someone, its considered assault... true story i shit you not. i dont need to pick my kid up at a police station at 13 years old because he spits, hits, kicks, scratches, and doesnt listen and acts out.
i adore my son... he is my world and my love couldnt be any more pure for him.. i would die in a half a mili second for him. and he knows that... my good with my son FAR exceeds the bad... so tell me i do it because i care, not because i lie to myself about why or convince myself its ok. i cried everytime i heard him cry after i did it, but me and my girl also know it needed to be done because my son didnt listen and was way out of control. we made ourselfs his friends for 4 years and not his parents and it was showing through the ballsy things he was doing towards us.