*~*~*~*After 2 weeks of dating, he tells me he loves me*~*~*~*

[Bikini Mod]

gwl9dta4 & sk*, damn you guys need to chill out a little bit.

I mean no disrespect, but don't you think your a little outdated in your thinking? This isn't the 1950's.

By your rational, people should just skip the dating process alltogether and go straight into a relationship. Um, where's the logic in that?

Say for example, some cute girl asked you to dinner -- so you go out, have fun, etc (nothing sexual). The next day, another cute girl asks you to see a movie -- so you go out, have fun, etc (nothing sexual). What's the harm in that?

Oh, and I agree that the man should pay for the first date. For successive dates tho, the girl should pick up some of the tab. I don't know about you, but the girls I date (although it's been a while) have jobs and can take care of themselves -- they don't need me for a free meal.

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

Nice in theory but it doesnt work out that way.

For the first date, probably not with most girls. But once you get to know each other, most girls will pay their own way, or will pay for you as well.


Big4life----as long as your jello has carrots in it, Utah will accept any color!

 

[Bikini Mod]

You are just experiencing life, don't let anyone make you feel guilty about that. I know when I was that age, I would not limit myself to dating just one girl unless I was serious about her.

You are upfront and honest with them, so I don't understand why anyone should have a problem with it.

 

[Frackal]

Sk* what does respecting a girl have to do with not letting her pay. If I'm paying for a girl all the time, then she better fuck me after each date becaues there is absolutely NO other justifiable reason for me to have to support her. Women are equal now remember? Give me ONE reason why a man should have to pay for a woman's dates. There isnt fucking ONE.

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

I have gone out with enough girls in the last year (my first year of college), NONE of them have payed for one thing. I RESPECT them too much to allow them to pay, I also expect respect back.

So in other words, your saying that they don't respect you?

 

[starfish]

Sk* what does respecting a girl have to do with not letting her pay. If I'm paying for a girl all the time, then she better fuck me after each date becaues there is absolutely NO other justifiable reason for me to have to support her. Women are equal now remember? Give me ONE reason why a man should have to pay for a woman's dates. There isnt fucking ONE.

Frackal....


I would buy you dinner..

 

[fistfullofsteel]

Sk* what does respecting a girl have to do with not letting her pay. If I'm paying for a girl all the time, then she better fuck me after each date becaues there is absolutely NO other justifiable reason for me to have to support her. Women are equal now remember? Give me ONE reason why a man should have to pay for a woman's dates. There isnt fucking ONE.

Just to be a gentleman. She can open the door for herself but that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it for her. Not saying that you should either.

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

Umm no they did respect me, they didn't go out with other people during this time. At least I hope they didn't, cause that would be cruel.

Yes, that would be cruel to lead someone on which is something I don't do, but I know alot of people do

 

[Bikini Mod]

Okay, MR MORALITY who is also 19 years old!...

I am a single mother of FOUR SMALL CHILDREN with a someday to be ex who is trying like a mofo to get out of supporting us...

I have VERY LITTLE TIME and VERY LITTLE MONEY for socializing. I get approached by MANY MEN. 99% of whom I am not REMOTELY interested in. So I TRY to politely turn their advances down. When it doesn't work, I say, "DUDE - I HAVE FOUR KIDS - GET IT?!" I am NOT someone that you want to be dating. If that doesn't work then I get rude as it is OBVIOUS at this point that they are SURE that MAYBE they will get pussy if they spend 34$ on dinner at CHi-Chis. I ask,"Can you fuck for four hours, nut four times and not lose your erection once?" Because my last lover COULD!... At this point they USUALLY GO AWAY!

But for the 1% that I MIGHT want to allow to get to know ME (NOT my children EVER) I explain - single mother of four little girls - not a lot of time - not a lot of money... do you STILL want to go out? The percentage of second dates so far has been ZERO! GET THAT!

The last man that I LOVED - we were FRIENDS (not even A HINT of sexual innuendo in our conversation) FOR MONTHS! Yes, HE IS GROWN and a single father of a few young children as well! GUESS WHAT?! IT DOES EXIST! See us silly grown ups CAN and DO have "friendships" WITHOUT SEX because it is TRULY RARE when we find a member of the opposite sex that we WANT to spend ANY TIME WITH... AT ALL! If the something more develops and the sex happens - cool! If not, then we will remain friends and consider our lives enriched because REAL FRIENDS are truly rare. Our commitments are MANY and they are SERIOUS.

So, now how does ANY OF this make me immoral in ANY WAY, SHAPE OR FORM?

See your OBVIOUS lack of experience shows your insecurity. How on EARTH could you POSSIBLY use your "percieved" morals to gauge MY BEHAVIOR or the behavior of any else for that matter? See I was once a 19 year old college student... How many times have you been married, had to pay a mortgage, support a family, mold another human being?

Oh yes, I'd forgotten - you have been through sooooooo much. Having loved two girls at once, yadda, yadda, yadda... that is ALMOST as serious as having your wife of several years cheat on you, but taking her back because ou love her and you have a child... or having to be the one to tell your children why daddy is gone in the next morning when you have bruises and scratches all over your face, neck and arms.

Yea - please... preach on brotha. Perhaps I can learn a thing or two.

 

[Bikini Mod]

bikinimom,

THIS IS EXACTLY THE REASON WHY DIVORCE RATE HAS GONE UP IN THE PAST FEW DECADES. Think about it, too much freedom. Freedom=stupidity at times.

Ummmmmmm wrong - freedom equals more choices and options for women to get out of shitty situations. Till you have been married with kids, please don't even go there with me!