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Advice on dating people from your work place

SoreArms

SoreArms

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OK., nothing has happened yet, but I want to get advice incase it seems like something will.

I'm going to start a new job in a restaurant this weekend. I went for some training yesterday and saw a lot of hot waitress chicks working there and I saw a few of them checking me out. This is a part time gig for me since I already have a full time job in the day, and one of my criteria when I started looking for a second job was to find a place that looked like it had a fun environment and cool looking people, so it wouldn't feel like too much of a drag working/giving up my nights and weekends.

Questions
1. Do you guys think it would be OK to fool around with some of these chicks, if the opportunity arises? I know dating people from the workplace isn't generally a good idea but that kind of falls into my "fun work place" criteria, doesn't it?

2. I assume most of these chicks are 21-25 and maybe a couple 18-20 host chicks, I'm 27. Are they all fair game or should I have some kind of age limit?

3. If you think I should have an age limit, where should it be?

Thanks in advance playas!
 
I would say don't do it, but if it is warm and has a heart beat, why the hell not... sure you will suffer for it and probably regret it, but hey, any chick has equal probablity of becomeing a psycho stalker anyways, so why worry about it....

and as for the age limit thing... the younger the better... meeting em at work beats getting caught by your buddies crusing the local HS parking lot....
 
SoreArms said:
Do you guys think it would be OK to fool around with some of these chicks, if the opportunity arises? I know dating people from the workplace isn't generally a good idea but that kind of falls into my "fun work place" criteria, doesn't it?
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SoreArms I have worked in restaurants and bars for the better part of 10 years. It is all fun and games tell you start dating one of these people trust me on this. It ain't worth it. I did it once and only once it was pure drama. I don't know about you but the last thing I want is extra drama when I am working. Flirting is fine but make it clear that your just flirting.
 
superqt4u2nv said:
SoreArms I have worked in restaurants and bars for the better part of 10 years. It is all fun and games tell you start dating one of these people trust me on this. It ain't worth it. I did it once and only once it was pure drama. I don't know about you but the last thing I wont is extra drama when I am working. Flirting is fine but make it clear that your just flirting.
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I was afraid someone would tell me this, even though I already knew it.

Well, how about dating their friends, is that cool or is that still too close to home?

And has anyone had luck with obtaining a drama free F buddy, with no strings attached out of the workplace?
 
onerepmaximum said:
That was the best 47 seconds of my life.
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Sorry to hear that! LOL

Seriously, this guy totally came on at the end of the interview. I asked him, "So does this mean that I have the job?" Guy was like, "You're too good for it." I was confused. "Does this mean that I DON'T have the job?"

He smiled and said, "Absolutely not, I want you for myself."

It took him 6 months more before I actually consented to go out with him though.
 
SoreArms said:
I was afraid someone would tell me this, even though I already knew it.

Well, how about dating their friends, is that cool or is that still too close to home?

And has anyone had luck with obtaining a drama free F buddy, with no strings attached out of the workplace?
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Yeah this could happen in your DREAMS!
 
SoreArms said:
I was afraid someone would tell me this, even though I already knew it.

Well, how about dating their friends, is that cool or is that still too close to home?

And has anyone had luck with obtaining a drama free F buddy, with no strings attached out of the workplace?
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I've also danced and tended bar - NEVER dated a bouncer/manager/DJ/co-worker of any sort and especially never a customer.

The only drama free workplace experience was with the aforementioned guy who came onto me at the end of a job interview about 3 years or so ago.
 
Be a man.
Do it. It's not like you are making a career out of that place.
You need stories in life that make you smile.
Having hot steamy sex in the freezer will give you many a smile in the future.

Just make sure and wash your hands before you bring me my water.
 
screw people from your workplace, but don't date 'em.
 
Werd said:
I've also danced and tended bar - NEVER dated a bouncer/manager/DJ/co-worker of any sort and especially never a customer.
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Word however I have dated a few customers.
 
Take suprq`s advice bro. But I`ll add this... Work there for a few months first. You`ll get to know everybody very well, you`ll probably have a different view of them after that. Not saying good or bad, just different. Then you can decide if you want to pursue anything.

I`m sure they`ll be a "work party" at some point where you`ll be drunk and tell us a good story... it`s inevitable. lol
 
superqt4u2nv said:
Word however I have dated a few customers.
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I guess it would be different if we are talking waitressing/bartending in "regular" establishments. But the whole dancing scene... The second a guy walked into any club I ever worked at, there was no F-ing way I would date them. Seriously... I know it may sound strange, but I wouldn't want to date a guy who first saw me as a pure fantasy. I just get the impression that they would be attracted to not *me* - but a pretty girl in a sexy costume whose job was to provoke and elicit something that was not real... the better I was at my job - the less *me* that man would be seeing. I was there to work - not socialize. PERIOD.

Maybe I am wrong, but this is my thinking and it works for me.
 
Werd said:
I guess it would be different if we are talking waitressing/bartending in "regular" establishments. But the whole dancing scene... The second a guy walked into any club I ever worked at, there was no F-ing way I would date them. Seriously... I know it may sound strange, but I wouldn't want to date a guy who first saw me as a pure fantasy. I just get the impression that they would be attracted to not *me* - but a pretty girl in a sexy costume whose job was to provoke and elicit something that was not real... the better I was at my job - the less *me* that man would be seeing. I was there to work - not socialize. PERIOD.

Maybe I am wrong, but this is my thinking and it works for me.
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Word ... much diffrent places.
 
Werd said:
I guess it would be different if we are talking waitressing/bartending in "regular" establishments. But the whole dancing scene... The second a guy walked into any club I ever worked at, there was no F-ing way I would date them. Seriously... I know it may sound strange, but I wouldn't want to date a guy who first saw me as a pure fantasy. I just get the impression that they would be attracted to not *me* - but a pretty girl in a sexy costume whose job was to provoke and elicit something that was not real... the better I was at my job - the less *me* that man would be seeing. I was there to work - not socialize. PERIOD.

Maybe I am wrong, but this is my thinking and it works for me.
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I've dated a few "dancers", didn't meet any of then through their work, they all hated their customers, specially the regulars that tipped them the most.
 
Sorearms, I say who the fawk cares. Go for it. If you meet a nice girl and you want to date her or fawk her or whatever, then why not? Why does it matter? As long asyou can handle the repurcussions of hooking up with a co-worker. Frankly, jobs such as this (I have a part time bar job also) aren't all that important. Its not THAT serious. It's not like this is your career. So, have your fun :)
 
SoreArms said:
I've dated a few "dancers", didn't meet any of then through their work, they all hated their customers, specially the regulars that tipped them the most.
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A lot of my co-workers were "normal" like me, many were even married with a baby or/two. For them, it was just a job, one that paid helluva better than waitressing (worked with a lot of foreign women who were actually in school as well). Those of us that were normal were NEVER drunk or stoned at work and we HATED how we had to pretend we gave a fuck, just to get those assholes to give up the money... If we were sitting there acting all interested, laughing at their stupid ass jokes then they would have just given the money to the next girl who would tolerate the bullshit. It really was quite pathetic. The "regulars" spent all their money at the go-go bars because they had no other way of "socializing".

I used to go to go-go clubs with my ex. We would enjoy the fantasy for a little while, have a few drinks then go home and fuck like rabbits - harmless adult entertainment. I actually enjoyed dancing for couples.

Any guy who frequents one of these places other than to "just see" what it is like or a stupid bachelor night or whatever .... I am sorry, but there is something wrong with them - definitely NOT who I would want to date.
 
Smurfy said:
Sorearms, I say who the fawk cares. Go for it. If you meet a nice girl and you want to date her or fawk her or whatever, then why not? Why does it matter? As long asyou can handle the repurcussions of hooking up with a co-worker. Frankly, jobs such as this (I have a part time bar job also) aren't all that important. Its not THAT serious. It's not like this is your career. So, have your fun :)
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Now thats what I wanted to hear:D

:high fives:
 
Just accept that there will be drama/gossip and all that bs. That said, fuck it...it's just part-time gig and you might as well have some fun.

Probably not a good idea at your regular job-type job.
 
Smurfy said:
Sorearms, I say who the fawk cares. Go for it. If you meet a nice girl and you want to date her or fawk her or whatever, then why not? Why does it matter? As long asyou can handle the repurcussions of hooking up with a co-worker. Frankly, jobs such as this (I have a part time bar job also) aren't all that important. Its not THAT serious. It's not like this is your career. So, have your fun :)
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uh, Ok, but you're not dating anyone from the restaurant right Smufrs?
 
hamstershaver said:
i would stick to letting them give you bjs only, no dating
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well you have to reciprocate.

Could you imagine a woman giving another woman the same advice?

Well just let your coworkers eat you out, honey.
 
Lumberg said:
well you have to reciprocate.

Could you imagine a woman giving another woman the same advice?

Well just let your coworkers eat you out, honey.
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I find that last statement oddly arousing. :evil:
 
Meh.



I'm dating a woman from work. Nothing major, mind you. Just hanging out, thus far.

I went into this fully aware that it could possibly turn my work-life into a living hell. ;)
 
you talking about a one time fuck and thats it?

I know people who have slept with people at work and than took it nowhere else....I would feel strange around the person other times dealing with them if I know I fucked her on my desk the week before.
 
Personally, I would say don't do it, but as it's been said before, if this is only a part-time job, why worry so much? I prefer to stay away from guys I work with (lessons learned), but that's just me.
 
Lumberg said:
well you have to reciprocate.

Could you imagine a woman giving another woman the same advice?

Well just let your coworkers eat you out, honey.
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what the?????????????? never ever lick the kitty
 
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