A question that, quite possibly, answers itself

[dirty~d~]

If a woman feels so in love with a man that she is willing to put herself at risk of becoming a fool... is she already a fool?

DO only fools fall in love?

 

[myway]

Wow. That's a good one. I think I need to think about it.

 

[velvett]

Thinking only with your heart often makes one foolish.

 

[Tatyana]

I think in matters of love, it is better for women to play it smart.

That whole 'falling in love' thing is really just a type of biological wiring, and when ours kicks off, we don't really see the man for who he really is.

Usually this happens when we jump into bed too quickly.

It is really primitive, but men prefer a chase and conquer thing.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I think in matters of love, it is better for women to play it smart.

That whole 'falling in love' thing is really just a type of biological wiring, and when ours kicks off, we don't really see the man for who he really is.

Usually this happens when we jump into bed too quickly.

It is really primitive, but men prefer a chase and conquer thing.

Smart lady there Ms Tatyana. Matter of fact I just finished the final edit on my second dating and relationship book yesterday and this is one of the basic themes!

 

[stilleto]

isn't it funny, when we think back to how we acted in the past and we wonder what the hell were we thinking and then we realize that were thinking we were "in love"...

it's not until you can think clearly and with your head that you realize how stupid you were.

 

[Bikini Mod]

isn't it funny, when we think back to how we acted in the past and we wonder what the hell were we thinking and then we realize that were thinking we were "in love"...

it's not until you can think clearly and with your head that you realize how stupid you were.

WERD

Why I always say you don't marry for love. The very notion is ridiculous. We discover what love is along the way if we still look on our mate and we LIKE him and he still LIKES us after all "the life" we've lived...

 

[cindylou]

I could see how an arranged marriage could work as long as the people arranging were not doing so for their own benefit.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I could see how an arranged marriage could work as long as the people arranging were not doing so for their own benefit.

From what I know about arranged marriages, the couple always has the option to say, "No." to whomever their family chooses. It is also my understanding that arranged marriages last longer than those that are based on what the couple believes to be "love".

Couples do not marry for love. How can they? They don't know what it is. Couples marry for HORMONES so yes, HORMONES can very well be blamed for downright foolish and destructive behavior.

... just my .02

 

[blueta2]

I've done the crazier shit when I was in love. That's when it hit me, being in love is a cruel joke the universe plays on you to keep the human race going.
I don't believe in falling in love anymore, I believe in real, true to the spirit love now.
We all get fooled by something

 

[Bikini Mod]

It's HORMONES I tell yaz... all hormones.

If it weren't for hormones we wouldn't care too much about what is between our own damned legs past the point of urination and a few other bodily functions, let alone caring about what is between the legs of others.

 

[dirty~d~]

Wow, I didn't realize that being in love with a man had to be directly related to sleeping with him. Now I'm all confoosed.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Wow, I didn't realize that being in love with a man had to be directly related to sleeping with him. Now I'm all confoosed.

So we aren't talking about passion?

I never really thought of becoming a fool for the love of my father/brother/nephew (don't have a son)/my fellow man (as in standing up for the civil rights of others, etc) as being something that one would be willing to be a fool for.... Doing ANYTHING for the love of these relationships, I feel, is NOT foolish.

... but that is only my .02

So then please clarify. Are we talking about eros, philos or agape?

 

[LadyRaptor]

I "grew" to love my man... we've been together 3 years.... he started me in weight training.... he's my main training partner, my biggest fan, and (unlike the last relationship) we have not fought ONCE. Sure... i get hormonal, he gets grumpy... but because he has had failed marriages... he's learned what mistakes HE made with his previous wives.... and has strived to change himself. he tells me this... I certainly don't try to change him... he's older than I, and I learn SO MUCH all the time.... a plethora of knowledge, experience, understanding and support. So far... so good on the love front here...HAHAHAHA

S

 

[Bikini Mod]

I "grew" to love my man... we've been together 3 years.... he started me in weight training.... he's my main training partner, my biggest fan, and (unlike the last relationship) we have not fought ONCE. Sure... i get hormonal, he gets grumpy... but because he has had failed marriages... he's learned what mistakes HE made with his previous wives.... and has strived to change himself. he tells me this... I certainly don't try to change him... he's older than I, and I learn SO MUCH all the time.... a plethora of knowledge, experience, understanding and support. So far... so good on the love front here...HAHAHAHA

S

Oh I hear you on the "gowing to love" him thing. My husband is so cute... He always says that he loved me before we actually met, silly man. Whereas I did not fall completely and passionately in love with him until we were married for bout 6 months or so I'd say. I had a tremendous amount of respect for him. I trusted him implicetly and I have ALWAYS genuinely LIKED him. But the love stuff... that is a continuing process. We have been through an unbelievably crazy time (outside forces) and have come along better and stronger - united front.

He is THE FIRST MAN that saw me for more than "just an entertaining piece of ass" and invested all of his energy and caring to help me become who I am today... because of this he has my undying devotion.

 

[CRYSTAGAZE]

He is THE FIRST MAN that saw me for more than "just an entertaining piece of ass" and invested all of his energy and caring to help me become who I am today... because of this he has my undying devotion.

That's deep!

 

[tbuzzell]

That IS deep.

I met my hubby at the gym while I was training a client. We've been together for 7 years and married for 4 years. Now, I know this is just the begining of our relationship, but we just work so well together. We don't fight about money or our relationship we mostly fight about his 10 year old ADD son. Believe me, if you experienced half of the crap we endured during his divorce from his herioin addict ex-wife, you would just know that we work. We work well. I thought I was in love before we got married but that was a lie. I love him now and didn't realize what love was until about a year ago. It just hit me all at once. Trust, loyalty, kindness, and compromise. That's was it is all about.

I can say that my previous relationships that I was not the fool in love. I watched my mother, a very intelligent woman, endure the dreaded battered wife bit with my father. They divorced when I was 10. Even at that young age I swore that I would never let a man treat me that way. I've alway kept my guard up and it was my way or the highway and still is. I married my husband as a long-term companion and not for love. Love comes later in your relationship. At least that is how I feel.

 

[localgirl]

I believe that yes, while we may be foolish for being in love..
imagine how empty your life would be if you never took a chance on being foolish...
*Its better to have loved & lost than never to have loved at all*

We are all fools when it comes to our hearts, thats is what gives even the toughest hardest person, a naturally delicate nature.
Believe it or not, men are not all players & dogs..they have also been fooled, by women! It does go both ways.
Unfortunately, because women get so emotional & ( most) have a loving nature, we sometimes give too much of ourselves too the wrong men.

while passion can make a one night stand memorable, compatibility & a true sense of self, can make a lasting realtionship.

Ive seen so many times, strong women hook up & fall deeply in love, & lose themselves in the process. They become part of a "we" without the understanding that there's no WE without ME. Stay true to yourself & your beliefs.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I married my husband as a long-term companion and not for love. Love comes later in your relationship. At least that is how I feel.

May I ask how old you are? Generally this isn't a revelation that comes to us in our youth.

Or maybe I was just a slow study?!