A Friendly Reminder

[caligirl]

Of course there will be random lame replies to this, but overall most of you will get it.

So Caligirl has had a couple a seriously messed up months. All started with my Dad being diagnosed with cancer last month.. he's okay right now. Then it went on to a close friend dying in a freak helicopter accident. Then, two days later ANOTHER friend died when she got lost in the clouds and hit power lines in NYC (helicopter). argh... enough you'd think... well no....

Sunday 05/06/07 I lost another friend, this time in a motorcycle accident. He lost control on a curve and died instantly. This one really has made me think and has affected me pretty badly. I feel sick in the pit of my stomach. He was kind, was a good Dad, had a very dynamic personality and had great energy, he will be missed by many and dearly by me. His loss has made me think long and hard about my current place in life and has made me question my own existence. He was 39.
And then the friggn mack daddy of them all... a day later almost to the hour my Grandfather died, Monday 05/06/07. I don't think I can take anymore death. I feel sad, sick and a little hopeless today. In time I'll be fine.

I just wanted to remind all of you to appreciate your loved ones, every minute spent is a gift... appreciate life.. don't ever wait for ANYTHING. tell the people you love how you feel. live YOUR life the way YOU want to. Time goes by too fast, you never know when someone you love may be gone.

 

[jerkbox]

sorry to hear about all that.....and you're absolutely right.

 

[party_booye]

holly fuck. how the hell do you cope >?

 

[puddlemonkey]

Sorry to hear about all the losses

 

[caligirl]

holly fuck. how the hell do you cope >?

well, today I canceled my clients and instead went on a field trip with my sons school and then ate lunch with his class, went to semester awards, where he received two academic awards himself, it was pretty cool... at lunch I learned how to play 5-square and I got my ass kicked by a third grader in Teather ball.

I just try not to think too much, but this afternoon its caught up to me.

 

[velvett]

I just wanted to remind all of you to appreciate your loved ones, every minute spent is a gift... appreciate life.. don't ever wait for ANYTHING. tell the people you love how you feel. live YOUR life the way YOU want to. Time goes by too fast, you never know when someone you love may be gone.

Well said.


I'm very sorry for you losses.

 

[stilleto]

i'm sorry to hear all of that.

(where in NY was your friend killed?)

 

[Cutiebaby]

damn, sorry to hear about your losses and bad news that you have received regarding your father.
Life is often too short, and should be appreciated..Because in a flash of light, life could be destroyed,over, and/or devastating.
Again, sorry.

 

[vixensghost]

well, today I canceled my clients and instead went on a field trip with my sons school and then ate lunch with his class, went to semester awards, where he received two academic awards himself, it was pretty cool... at lunch I learned how to play 5-square and I got my ass kicked by a third grader in Teather ball.

I just try not to think too much, but this afternoon its caught up to me.

It's sad that it takes such tragic events to put the wonderful things in our lives into perspective.

Sorry to hear that you are having to go thru all this sadness in your life, Lady.

Keep your spirit strong and lean on those you love.

 

[H_T_]

no one is guaranteed tomorrow. and a lot of people love to draw attention to themselves by saying "omg!, i know a dead person!" but not you, i'm jus sayin'....

 

[Powerbuilder333]

I'm sorry for your losses. That's a lot to take in a short period of time. I know you're strong and will endure all that life unleashes. Anything I can do to help - I'm not far away.
God Bless.

 

[AAP]

Sorry to hear about so many you have gone through. Wishing you the best.

 

[digimon7068]

sorry

 

[Raptorex]

Sorry Cali, seems like we have had the same luck...best friend killed in car wreck, closest uncle diagnosed brain cancer same week...I fully agree with what you said, and started immediately.

Good things are coming your way.

 

[feisty11975]

I am very sorry to hear about your losses.

 

[INNOCENT]

sorry to hear that

 

[caligirl]

Thanks guys for all your kind words.
I just REALLY wanted to remind everyone (not that everyone needs it) how fragile life is. You don't get time back, there are no "do-overs" ( learned that word yesterday in tetherball) I regret not saying some things to a couple of those whom I listed that passed. I'll never get another chance.

My son and I went up to the site of the motorcycle accident last night at sunset. We put some flowers beside the makeshift cross someone had put up for our friend. There were motorcycle parts still all over the side of the road, spray paint from the cops investigation, pieces of the bike were strewn for at least 50 feet. I found half of a shift lever and a foot peg, damn.... It was clear where he landed, about 15 feet from the road, the outline of his body was still in the sand, right next to the cross. What a trip, it all seems surreal.

 

[jackangel]

fine, i e-like you again. thanks for smacking me out of my pettiness. sorry for your heavy losses. it does sound like a strange, tragic trip.

but smile for me.

 

[jnevin]

Sorry caligirl. Wow, I'm speechless.

 

[Sassy69]

Life seems to go in waves at times and we sit at the intersection of the lives of all these other people. It is what it is and you are truly correct - animals have no sense of time or anticipation really - we do - that can be good or it can be bad sometimes. Oprah said something interesting on the radio (god help me, i listened to Oprah & Friends on my XM radio.. gaaaaah) - but it made sense - she says she isn't a big holiday celebrater - she said she tries to celebrate Christmas every day - interesting view. We all have the choice to perceive things relative to whatever we want - classic half full / half empty discussion. I think, however, before you can apply logic and "uplifting" "happy" discussion, when something traumatic happens, you need to let your body and mind go through the process of absorbing the news or occurrence, processing it ,let those primal feelings happen and then try to put some logic around it to make it make more sense and "fit" some place in our perception of the world. Its when you feel that tailspin / loss of sense of control, purpose, time & place that it gets particularly humbing.

Eh, hope that didnt' sound preachy - I'm goign thru a lot of very introspective moments these days and this is where my view of how things work sits right now. Doesn't make it easier, better, whatever - it just is what it is. This is our place in the universe, but its what you make it and keeping a good and positive point of reference that helps you stay moving forward instead of getting caught underneath things that are tragic, but nevertheless, part of life.

It is good to be reminded of the good things in life tho.

 

[bw1]

Sorry to hear about all this

 

[caligirl]

Life seems to go in waves at times and we sit at the intersection of the lives of all these other people. It is what it is and you are truly correct - animals have no sense of time or anticipation really - we do - that can be good or it can be bad sometimes. Oprah said something interesting on the radio (god help me, i listened to Oprah & Friends on my XM radio.. gaaaaah) - but it made sense - she says she isn't a big holiday celebrater - she said she tries to celebrate Christmas every day - interesting view. We all have the choice to perceive things relative to whatever we want - classic half full / half empty discussion. I think, however, before you can apply logic and "uplifting" "happy" discussion, when something traumatic happens, you need to let your body and mind go through the process of absorbing the news or occurrence, processing it ,let those primal feelings happen and then try to put some logic around it to make it make more sense and "fit" some place in our perception of the world. Its when you feel that tailspin / loss of sense of control, purpose, time & place that it gets particularly humbing.

Eh, hope that didnt' sound preachy - I'm goign thru a lot of very introspective moments these days and this is where my view of how things work sits right now. Doesn't make it easier, better, whatever - it just is what it is. This is our place in the universe, but its what you make it and keeping a good and positive point of reference that helps you stay moving forward instead of getting caught underneath things that are tragic, but nevertheless, part of life.

It is good to be reminded of the good things in life tho.

not preachy sassy, right on the money.
it is what it is. I appreciate you taking the time to reflect... you always have insightful, meaningful things to say when it comes to serious issues.

thanks again

 

[needtogetaas]

Of course there will be random lame replies to this, but overall most of you will get it.

So Caligirl has had a couple a seriously messed up months. All started with my Dad being diagnosed with cancer last month.. he's okay right now. Then it went on to a close friend dying in a freak helicopter accident. Then, two days later ANOTHER friend died when she got lost in the clouds and hit power lines in NYC (helicopter). argh... enough you'd think... well no....

Sunday 05/06/07 I lost another friend, this time in a motorcycle accident. He lost control on a curve and died instantly. This one really has made me think and has affected me pretty badly. I feel sick in the pit of my stomach. He was kind, was a good Dad, had a very dynamic personality and had great energy, he will be missed by many and dearly by me. His loss has made me think long and hard about my current place in life and has made me question my own existence. He was 39.
And then the friggn mack daddy of them all... a day later almost to the hour my Grandfather died, Monday 05/06/07. I don't think I can take anymore death. I feel sad, sick and a little hopeless today. In time I'll be fine.

I just wanted to remind all of you to appreciate your loved ones, every minute spent is a gift... appreciate life.. don't ever wait for ANYTHING. tell the people you love how you feel. live YOUR life the way YOU want to. Time goes by too fast, you never know when someone you love may be gone.

to long of a read.put tit pics between paragraphs to keep people entrusted.

 

[jnevin]

to long of a read.put tit pics between paragraphs to keep people entrusted.

Way to go.