Should adult children who still live with their parents pay room and board?

[redshirt27se]

Ball

lol

 

[Arcon167]

if the parents can afford it, and the kids aren't fuckups, then yeah, pretty much.

+1

 

[puddlemonkey]

The more we coddle children, the more of a sense of entitlement they have in their adult life-leading them out of reality

This one is pretty smart for being a female. And Canadian.

 

[Arcon167]

This one is pretty smart for being a female. And Canadian.

lol...

 

[trex74]

This one is pretty smart for being a female. And Canadian.

you are pretty sharp yourself for noticing

 

[Smurfy]

Enough people on this board are in the under 20 age range that they have experience with it or know someone who has: Let's say the kid in question is 20, goes to college part time and is steadily employed part time with variable hours, say minimum of 20 hrs. but never more than 35, at $9.20/hr. Kid is still living at home and has a room, food, use of all utilities, but pays for all personal stuff (i.e., clothes, all car related expenses including insurance, all college expenses, etc.).

What, if any, is a reasonable monthly charge?

Follow up question, does the parent have any responsibility, assuming they are financially able, to be putting a portion of the "rent" aside with the intent of giving it back to the kid when they finally do move out?

I don't think they should have to pay rent at that age, or when they are in college. I never did. I also moved back into my parents' house when I was 30 (with my 2 yr old son) and I lived there for 4 yrs rent free. I think that unless the parents need financial assistance from their son/daughter, then they shouldn't be paying rent. In my family that's just how it is and will be for my son when he gets older.

 

[Smurfy]

These are all good responses, but since when is 20 a child? My understanding is that childhood ends at 18.
The more we coddle children, the more of a sense of entitlement they have in their adult life-leading them out of reality IMO.
I would be ashamed of myself to be a great big 20 year old and still having Mummy take care of me. For shame...

Yeh but you were 16 and living on your own which in my world, is completely absurd.

 

[Smurfy]

These are all good responses, but since when is 20 a child? My understanding is that childhood ends at 18.
The more we coddle children, the more of a sense of entitlement they have in their adult life-leading them out of reality IMO.I would be ashamed of myself to be a great big 20 year old and still having Mummy take care of me. For shame...

This isn't always true. My parents have financially supported me until I was done with college and I have also gone to them on more than one occasion as an adult for financial help. I have zero sense of entitlement, however. Just because they have provided support when I needed it, doesn't mean they didn't also teach me from a very young age about work ethic. I was forced to start working at age 15 and I always had a job. Even though they gaev me everything I needed (clothes, car, college education, food, car insurance, etc), I still had to work. I even once got grounded for not having a job and I was grounded until I found a job. So, working was very serious business in our family. I'm als not ashamed but rather proud that I have parents who will always be there to support me if I need it, no matter the age. But, they also raised us not to be slackers.

 

[RottenWillow]

20 is not a child by any means and I agree, kids today are terribly coddled and can't even function on their own.
I don't think that has anything to do with allowing kids to live at home though, it has to do with teaching kids responsibilty at a young age.
Even though I came from some money, my parents were dirt poor growing up, so they taught my sisters and I how to be responsible. No free rides, I had to work at 16, do my own laundry, clean my room, clean the house and my sisters and I took turns doing the groceries. I was doing the family groceries at 16.
My friends who's parents kicked them out before 18 all turned out to be troubled, all my friends who stayed at home all turned out to be well adjusted. So hard to judge really!

I had to drive a team of sled dogs 65 miles, one-way, across the frozen tundra when I was your age, missy!

 

[samoth]

+1

TITCR, with added conditionals:

1) Bachelor's or higher. If you want an associate's degree in plumbing, you can work while studying toilet mechanics.

2) Non-toilet university within financial reach. That shitty, non-accredited private art school for $30k/year is out.

3) Non-fluff major. I don't care if you think a fucking degree in 19th century african-american transgender studies is "interesting" or "important", it's not.

4) Real-world potential. Unless you're on the PhD track and have a realistic chance of a top grad school, that BA in psychology is shit, pure shit. Same with poli sci unless you're going to a top law school.


I agree that part of a non-shitty parent's job is raising the child, regardless of how things were "back in [my] day". However, parents should not encourage blatantly idiotic actions like above.

HTFH