Need Some Honest, Genuine, and Neutral EF'er Opinons (and soon if possible)!

[serendipitygirl]

Just had a chance to look over these opinions and i appreciate the honest responses. I don't think there is really any "right" answer, but I will say that even though I was ready to go through with it, I changed my mind at the last minute and gave him a call and asked if he would mind if I invited some friends and co-workers to join us (guys and girls mix) as I didn't think I was up to par yet for a solo venture. It turned out to be a pretty fun evening and it stayed really light and breezy with the group factor present. Prob not what he was hoping for, but it really isn't about him, now is it?

 

[javaguru]

Eh, honestly, I feel kind of weird asking this but not really something I wanna ask my family and friends cause they don't really like to talk about his passing as it is.

Some of you know my husband (who I met from chatting on Elite Fitness in 2004) of 5 years passed away in May of this year unexpectedly. Not to re-hash all that and be EF's official Debbie Downer, but in your honest opinion, is it innapropriate and/or too soon to accept an offer to go out after work for a Happy Hour Date with a guy that I know through a work connection or am I making a big deal out of nothing? I have went out to happy hours and even dancing since his passing, but it was only with friends and never as a romantic thing but this however would definitely be a real "date" and I know he likes me.

It's kinda weird, cuz it doesn't seem disrespectful for some reason to say post a sexy avatar pic of me up on EF, but this whole "going out on a date" thing has me unsure.

My mantra in life has always been to keep smiling and living life to the fullest with joy no matter WHAT but still, I am conflicted. Opinions??????? (and THANK YOU! )

Not to seem harsh, he's dead and you're alive. If he genuinely loved you then would he want you to be unhappy or happy?

 

[inkspot]

Just had a chance to look over these opinions and i appreciate the honest responses. I don't think there is really any "right" answer, but I will say that even though I was ready to go through with it, I changed my mind at the last minute and gave him a call and asked if he would mind if I invited some friends and co-workers to join us (guys and girls mix) as I didn't think I was up to par yet for a solo venture. It turned out to be a pretty fun evening and it stayed really light and breezy with the group factor present. Prob not what he was hoping for, but it really isn't about him, now is it?

You made the right call

 

[bigpokey]

Not to seem harsh, he's dead and you're alive. If he genuinely loved you then would he want you to be unhappy or happy?

great post there obviousguru

 

[canadianhitman]

5 years is too long IMO...get on with living your life already! Go on the date.

 

[*ebony*]

Go on the date.

+1
go out and have fun!

 

[mustang_00]

if i was married and my wife was goin out on a date 4 months after i passed. i'd haunt her phucking vagina! just sayin.

on the serious side you gotta look at it as a date is just a date. it doesn't mean you gotta have sex with the dude. that's your choice. and it also doesn't mean you're getting remarried on the 2nd date or moving him in. gotta live your life chick.

 

[digimon7068]

I always figured that I would never date again. I would use cats to keep me company and hookers for other services.

i don't relish the thought of the whole "dating" thing but, i know that i would...i actually really enjoy having a woman in my life...i enjoy the companionship and the synergy...and, i just dig women. the anniversary of our first date...21 years ago...is coming up on october 22nd (or maybe it's the 21st...i gotta check my calendar...at any rate, i/we celebrate it every year) and the years since then have been the happiest and most fulfilling of my life.

 

[OMEGA]

Sorry for your Loss and your Duaghter.

If he passed this Year, Id say its VERY too soon.

But Im like a Swan though lol

 

[Sub-Zero]

great post there obviousguru

lmao