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calveless wonder
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this post is living in an idealistic world.
lets be real. this isn't going to stop anytime soon(her having to devote herself 100% to her mother).
they're not married. If they're not going to put her anywhere she's going to need support and care for a long time. could be upwards of years. why is poboy going to make his own life miserable for this woman just to be "supportive?". If this was "the girl" then maybe but it dosn't sound like he has any intention of marrying this one. And even then, it'd be a VERY hard decision. I don't think you truly understand the ramifications of a situation like this.
and yes, sometimes it IS about you. You make decisions in life and they affect the people around you. Her decision is to take her of mother when she's clearly beyond the ability to take care of herself. She's sacrificing her own life and in turn, the life of thsoe around her. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be a part of that. She has other options,she's just not choosing to exercise them.
Until you've actually seen this taken place you can't really speak of it, no offense. I've seen it first hand within my family and while it seems noble, in the end it doesn't do anyone well. I don't see how you can so adamantly berate someone over something you can't truly understand.
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chris302001
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could be the best thing that ever happens to the girl
calveless wonder
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i'm pretty sure any reasonable and caring person with dementia, if they actually had enough cognitive function, would NEVER want to burden their kids in such a manner. it's one thing on your death bed but another to take care of someone for the rest of their life.
As long as they are taken care of well (not just thrown in some 2nd rate home...at least a place where they specialize in these things), and the family comes and visits them...that should be enough.
when you lose your mind, you pretty much lose your entire existence. it's not the same person you knew/know. your mind and memories are the basis for your identity
As long as they are taken care of well (not just thrown in some 2nd rate home...at least a place where they specialize in these things), and the family comes and visits them...that should be enough.
when you lose your mind, you pretty much lose your entire existence. it's not the same person you knew/know. your mind and memories are the basis for your identity
chris302001
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just because somebody says, "Oh no, you dont have to help me," doesnt mean you say, "Oh okay, see ya later fucker."
Some people really care about their family and sticking them in LTAC isn't an option.
calveless wonder
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yeah, way to use a realistic example. it shouldn't be so black and white either.
i'm sure anyone who truly felt that way would be a little more concrete in their expression of it. But again, these people are so far gone they can't even express themselves. As I said, once you lose your mind your basically CEASE to exist. your body is alive but your identity is gone. you don't have to be a philosopher to understand that concept
The ripple affect goes WAY down the ladder. from the children of the demented, to their grandchildren. you're altering the lives of many people for the worse for a distorted view of loyalty
jdynasty
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stop playing devil's advocate and tell poboy he is being a dutch bag like everyone else
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shrimp poboy
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Thanks Cw,Ive been patient and ive gone above and beyond just being a good Boyfriend but she doesnt seem to appreciate a fuckin thing that i do thats all.(cut her grass,bring her mom nice meals,always available for support etc)
jdynasty
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ummm, I would put those all under the list of things a good boyfriend would do, not going above and beyond
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