is it ok for your spouse to (smurf and chris need not apply)

[zwhit]

Wait a minute....whos got fucking nudes!!??






As per the original question. My mrs. doesnt feel the need to snoop. I wouldnt care if she did(except my EF, its the only privacy i have left). I delete anything that might raise questions anyways.

I've got nudes. Want em?

 

[pdaddyII]

Hell fucking no...maybe on some things but I think everyone has to have a little of their own privacy...I would never go through my girlfriends phone..why would I? I have no reason to. I think the only time you start snooping is when a trust issue broken. And yes, from personal experience

This

 

[burnthiscorpse]

I've got nudes. Want em?

I'll pass. Thanks for thinkin' of me though bro.

 

[SpyWizard]

I know...and he uses your account!!!! fire him!


you didn't have to take it down spy...just saying, theres shit on the interwebs that I know can be taken out of context and taken too seriously and thats my own personal line I don't want crossed...interogated for shit that really legitimately has no meaning behind it

thanks but it was time... not sure why but i respect your opinions and person enough to see that the joke could be taken the wrong way.. and thus time marches on..

 

[jackangel]

Boredom and curiosity are all the reasons I need.

 

[burnthiscorpse]

Boredom and curiosity are all the reasons I need.

Yeah.....works for me.

 

[wootoom]

I don't snoop my wife's shit and she doesn't snoop mine because there no reason to. She's seen some of my posts here that she was less than happy about though but because my dumbass left the ipad logged in

Imagine what she thinks of wootoom?

 

[zwhit]

Imagine what she thinks of wootoom?

probably the reason she told me this site is full of sick fucks

 

[musclemom]

My ex snooped on me, didn't trust me, eventually I started doing what he suspected me of It's weird, it became a self-fulfilled prophesy. Him I hid shit from, because I felt like he was invading my privacy and didn't trust me, loooooonnnnng before I ever thought about (much less did) anything that warranted him feeling that way.

My current husband and I have a basically open door policy, and the fact that we have such a policy is what drives the fact neither of us would ever dream of going through those doors (or drawers, or internet caches or what have you's) if that makes sense.

So, to get back to the real crux of your question, i.e., when does snooping cross the line? I think snooping crosses the line the minute someone feels compelled to snoop constantly. Because that compulsion to snoop is the red light something is wrong. Of course, the question then becomes is that something purely a problem of the person who wants to snoop (insecurity) or an actual relationship problem (the small still voice that whispers "they're cheating on you," being a witchy person I do not discount the powers of intuition, particularly coupled with those of perhaps subconscious deductive reasoning)?

 

[caligirl85]

for my own shit Ive asked my husband to stay out of EF ...which I think he has respected because something like your sig spy would completely set him off
he'd go apeshit about how inappropriate I am and how freely I talk to people publicly about things
our values on this differ

I know the context of the sig he doesn't

How do you work that out as a couple?? Not necessarily specifically you but generally speaking? If you don't have similar values when it comes to things like what's ok, does that always breed suspicion??

Very interesting discussion!!