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Wife wants more kids - fml

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So we have two kids already. Wife really wants four and I don't. She started her period today and was crying (lol i still use protection so don't know really why she was shocked), and I am all excited. Then she gets upset that I am so excited, like wtf. I don't want anymore.

My youngest is 1.5, and life is finally starting to feel normal. I get to actually sleep straight from 10-6 every night without waking up. I hate baby stage but love this stage where I get to go do things with them.

Plus kids are expensive. I am not a 1% er, so it's tuff. She is a nurse, and I'd rather see her work full time in a few years once our kids are in school, than have more of these things.

Will this desire to want more ever go away
 
yes smurf

and lmao sd ur single right - hard attitude to have if you want a happy healthy long term marriage.

wtf is diggy
 
WoodyO said:
You're going to lose this fight
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+1

You're screwed, ER.

I had a buddy who's wife waited until she knew she was ovulating, got him drunk, and convinced him to have sex without protection.

So he's fucking her, and right before he's about to cum she locks her heels on his ass and won't let him pull out. 9 months later they had their 3rd daughter.
 
Go get your self fixed and don't tell her. Then you can just "keep trying" ;-)

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ppgfreak said:
Go get your self fixed and don't tell her. Then you can just "keep trying" ;-)

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Great in theory but three things would give him away:

1.) Recovery time after surgery.
2.) Scar on his sack.
3.) Drastic reduction in ejaculate volume.
 
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i don't think i can just get the surgery without my wife being ok with it also. i already tried to get together with chris for steaks and have him do it quick
 
what else is cool is you don't need her consent to get it done, and there is no co pay from most insurance companies..

and think of all the good times. a couple months down the road when you guys are "trying all the time" to get prego...

sorry it didn't work out for you, but at least you have the kids you have now..
 
ER, did you guys talk about how many kids you wanted when you got together?

This thread is disturbing to me. On a personal level ER. Nothing to do with you. Just had to get that out.
 
secret vasectomy time!!! :D
Im kidding, why does she want four, does she not uderstand the economic burden? is she aware you dont want anymore, when you said you didnt want any and whiy what did she say?
 
yes Cindy we did talk about this before we had kids. I always wanted two and she wanted 2-4. Well I thought she was done after our second one. But it's starting to come back again. Plus she works in the got damn baby unit at the hospital so I am sure that doesn't help.

why does this disturb you?
 
nangiggles said:
secret vasectomy time!!! :D
Im kidding, why does she want four, does she not uderstand the economic burden? is she aware you dont want anymore, when you said you didnt want any and whiy what did she say?
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well i did say she started her period, so lets say pissed off nan

yes of course she knows i don't want anymore. she knew i was happy when she started her period

plus we just miss carried and I am worried it may keep happening
 
EarthRider said:
yes smurf

and lmao sd ur single right - hard attitude to have if you want a happy healthy long term marriage.

wtf is diggy
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You have two kids, its pretty simple math. Tell her no more and thats the end of it.

Have you ever just made a decision for your family and told your wife "Thats the way its gonna be". ?

Men who are true head of the family dont unreasonably get pushed around like you do. When their wives are making unreasonable demands they put their fucking foot down and thats the end of it.
I dont have to be married to know that.
 
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-SD- said:
You have two kids, its pretty simple math. Tell her no more and thats the end of it.

Have you ever just made a decision for your family and told your wife "Thats the way its gonna be". ?

Men who are true head of the family dont unreasonably get pushed around like you do. When their wives are making unreasonable demands they put their fucking foot down and thats the end of it.
I dont have to be married to know that.
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Why do you assume shes the one being unreasonable?
 
-SD- said:
You have two kids, its pretty simple math. Tell her no more and thats the end of it.

Have you ever just made a decision for your family and told your wife "Thats the way its gonna be". ?

Men who are true head of the family dont unreasonably get pushed around like you do. When their wives are making unreasonable demands they put their fucking foot down and thats the end of it.
I dont have to be married to know that.
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yeah well she is a human being too, and I can't just tell her to get over herself. that is the way she feels and i have to figure out how to make this all work.
 
smurf2 said:
Why do you assume shes the one being unreasonable?
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Because she knew he didnt want anymore and they already have two.
Its not like they dont have any kids and she is just wanting one and hes refusing.
 
Its not unreasonable to want more children especially since her last pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I'm sure you two will come to a resolution that works for your family.
 
I doubt he would be upset if she did wind up pregnant. Besides, he knew she wanted 2-4 kids so why is he surprised?
 
smurf2 said:
I doubt he would be upset if she did wind up pregnant. Besides, he knew she wanted 2-4 kids so why is he surprised?
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well I don't mind having more kids, just not right at this minute. i would like to get a little more financially stable. My wife takes 3 months off work, and we need $2,000 for our midwives. well I have a new business and would like to have some stability before I have to come up with all that.

I unfortunately don't make 200,000 a year and own six homes and ten dogs like most of elite. I kinda need her income right now.
 
I would put myself on permanent HRT and get that sperm count to -1.
 
digimon7068 said:
i'm technically not a kid, but i am extremely childish and immature...you could adopt me...that wood cure her...
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i don't need a kid in my house constantly trying to get down my wifes pants. fuck i can see all the convos at night already. so i'll pass diggy
 
smurf2 said:
Its not unreasonable to want more children especially since her last pregnancy ended in miscarriage. I'm sure you two will come to a resolution that works for your family.
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This..
She's probably more upset about the miscarriage than wanting more kids honestly.
Making sometimes reproduction seem like its in jeopardy makes people do/think weird shit.
 
shirlene29 said:
This..
She's probably more upset about the miscarriage than wanting more kids honestly.
Making sometimes reproduction seem like its in jeopardy makes people do/think weird shit.
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you can say that again.. it's been almost 5 yrs and i'm still not back up to snuff..

I joke but it sucks after a while when the wife wants to have sex because it's "time" or everything is right for fertilization, it's not a good thing at all..

we did get prego, but not til i took things into my own hands with clomid..

but i got a reversal to get her prego, and another vasectomy after 6 months he was healthy and has been a great addition to our life.

he's #3 for me and i have 4 grandkids too..
 
Women don't think logically about stuff like having kids like us men do. When they want babies that is IT! Good luck! A buddy of mine had THREE unplanned kids with his wife. She conned him each time. Claimed that she had developed an allergy to condoms and refused to go on the pill because it made her feel messed up.

Try to get her to see that you can provide double the quality of life for 2 kids than you can afford for 4. Say the financial sacrifices aren't fair on the kids you have now.
 
lmao, i guess i can't just tell my wife shit and she is like "oh yeah great point"

if she wants something she goes for it. why cant she be motivated to make me money, lmao
 
yes i agree pick3, which is a big reason why I don't want anymore.

If we had a big ass garden and food didn't cost so much it would be a tad easier
 
EarthRider said:
i don't need a kid in my house constantly trying to get down my wifes pants. fuck i can see all the convos at night already. so i'll pass diggy
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i do walk around with half a chub most of the time and i'm never far from full missle lock...i think that's one of the things that my wife finds kind of annoying sometimes...eh...she'll miss it when it's gone...not :lmao:

but, your wife?? no way! bro's before ho's, yo! i wood never violate that creed...especially if i have full access to the fridge and the slushy machine! don't shit where ya eat, son!
 
When I got a vasectomy, they made me bring my wife in to prove she agreed to it. I don't know if thats normal procedure or what, but if so, I'm sure you could somehow convince them you were divorced. (If you say single they will tell you not to get one because you will someday find a new mate etc etc)

Anyway, if you did get one you could probbly hide it from her. It would be like a week of soreness and no sex, and shaved balls (if you don't shave them already she might notice that). The scar shouldn't be very noticable unless she's really looking for it.

Another option is maybe get her a puppy. I'm not kidding. She might be so in love with the puppy, plus be so busy taking care of it, she won't be thinking about babies.

What won't work is logic: the cost of kids, taking away opportunities for the other 2, etc. Don't even bother.
 
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they only made sure my husband was well aware that it was considered a permanent procedure...AND that it could reverse itself..haha

hell the scar from the ball operation (not the vasectomy) isn't even noticeable in the rugae
 
shirlene29 said:
they only made sure my husband was well aware that it was considered a permanent procedure...AND that it could reverse itself..haha

hell the scar from the ball operation (not the vasectomy) isn't even noticeable in the rugae
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ruga (ˈruːɡə) — n , pl -gae ( usually plural ) anatomy a fold, wrinkle, or crease

:)
 
cindylou said:
Stop helping her out at home and let her get frazzled and overwhelmed.
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lol, well i do work 55 hours a week, so isn't that being alone enough.

but i figure if i help her out, more sexy time for me
 
Headholio said:
When I got a vasectomy, they made me bring my wife in to prove she agreed to it. I don't know if thats normal procedure or what, but if so, I'm sure you could somehow convince them you were divorced. (If you say single they will tell you not to get one because you will someday find a new mate etc etc)

Anyway, if you did get one you could probbly hide it from her. It would be like a week of soreness and no sex, and shaved balls (if you don't shave them already she might notice that). The scar shouldn't be very noticable unless she's really looking for it.

Another option is maybe get her a puppy. I'm not kidding. She might be so in love with the puppy, plus be so busy taking care of it, she won't be thinking about babies.

What won't work is logic: the cost of kids, taking away opportunities for the other 2, etc. Don't even bother.
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If the woman wanted to get her tubes tied would they bring you in for approval?
 
I have four girls. They are now old enough to be fun.
Whatever anyone tells you, they are liars. Four kids sucks. Its a ton of freakibg work and i only have them 1/2 the time. You should go get your balls cut and dont freaking tell her. Just for the best believe me.


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lol, qt you want to go to coffee with my wife

woot, lmao - u didn't really thought right

christian stfu
 
Her "logic" is probably telling her that she had #3 on the way and you were ok with it, unfortunately you lost it but she may think #3 was gomna happen one way or another so she might as well make it happen again... Just a thought

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nangiggles said:
Her "logic" is probably telling her that she had #3 on the way and you were ok with it, unfortunately you lost it but she may think #3 was gomna happen one way or another so she might as well make it happen again... Just a thought

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Fuck yo logic
 
yeah i get all that.

i love my wife and love to give her anything she wants. but kids isn't the same as buying her some flowers
 
Make a decision and tell her thats the end of it. Quit allowing yourself to be miserable on account of pleasing her.
 
you owe it to society to have more kids, to help keep up with all the worthless pieces of shit who are breeding like rabbits
 
lmao nimbus

yes pdaddy we do wear a rubber while she is ovulating. I have not worn a rubber three times in our marriage during her fertile times, and I have two kids and 1 miscarriage. So we are breeding machines. Also I am against her using birth control, so that is not a option.

I would like to have a third child, just not right at this moment.
 
EarthRider said:
lmao nimbus

yes pdaddy we do wear a rubber while she is ovulating. I have not worn a rubber three times in our marriage during her fertile times, and I have two kids and 1 miscarriage. So we are breeding machines. Also I am against her using birth control, so that is not a option.

I would like to have a third child, just not right at this moment.
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I'll take one for the team and give her a little pdaddy brah
 
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zwhit said:
have you ever been in a relationship over 3 months rob?
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that's what i was thinking :worried:

i actually like wearing a condomn, cause it makes it that much more awesome when I go without one. plus i don't have any other options except not having sex which actually is not a option
 
EarthRider said:
lmao nimbus

yes pdaddy we do wear a rubber while she is ovulating. I have not worn a rubber three times in our marriage during her fertile times, and I have two kids and 1 miscarriage. So we are breeding machines. Also I am against her using birth control, so that is not a option.

I would like to have a third child, just not right at this moment.
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Well then dont fucking have one. Easy.
 
EarthRider said:
lmao nimbus

yes pdaddy we do wear a rubber while she is ovulating. I have not worn a rubber three times in our marriage during her fertile times, and I have two kids and 1 miscarriage. So we are breeding machines. Also I am against her using birth control, so that is not a option.

I would like to have a third child, just not right at this moment.
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Why are u opposed to her using BB? Hormones mess her up?
I've been using the exact same BC for 10 yrs, LOVE it!

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zwhit said:
have you ever been in a relationship over 3 months rob?
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Try over 4 years and engaged before, rob.
I dont take any shit from them, and im not afraid to jettison if its not right.
And im not divorced or stuck with a wife nagging me about wanting more kids when i dont want them.

Stay with any woman long enough before getting married and she will give herself away in some form, the signs are always there. Have the balls to leave instead of staying out of convenience.

I did and im happy and sane for it lol
 
-SD- said:
Try over 4 years and engaged before, rob.
I dont take any shit from them, and im not afraid to jettison if its not right.
And im not divorced or stuck with a wife nagging me about wanting more kids when i dont want them.

Stay with any woman long enough before getting married and she will give herself away in some form, the signs are always there. Have the balls to leave instead of staying out of convenience.

I did and im happy and sane for it lol
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you're saying he should leave her because she wants another kid? ER may get run over by his wife but its pretty normal for women to want children. I'm not saying he should give in and knock her up but you sound like you're trying to get him divorced
 
NAN BC has many terrible side effects and isn't good for your body, that is why. I am glad you love it, but it's not a option for our family. Also, the BC that you love so much might be another reason you have a hard time losing weight. It can do that to you.

lmao at myself being miserable. we have a great marriage and things like this come up. I have a feeling you will be single as long as you have those feelings SD. I agree men should be head of house hold. but women are still human beings and don't need to be controlled into the woman you expect her to be. My wife is her own person. She never gave up her rights to me when we got married. We decided to join lives together and make decisions like this together.
 
EarthRider said:
NAN BC has many terrible side effects and isn't good for your body, that is why. I am glad you love it, but it's not a option for our family. Also, the BC that you love so much might be another reason you have a hard time losing weight. It can do that to you.

lmao at myself being miserable. we have a great marriage and things like this come up. I have a feeling you will be single as long as you have those feelings SD. I agree men should be head of house hold. but women are still human beings and don't need to be controlled into the woman you expect her to be. My wife is her own person. She never gave up her rights to me when we got married. We decided to join lives together and make decisions like this together.
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Im in no way trying to get anyone divorced. Im saying put your foot down for once and be the man for yourself. Based on your posts you dont have any say in your marriage and basically give off the whole "she wears the pants" attitude when it comes to your marriage. If you like it that way and arent miserable then knock yourself out bro. Theres a big difference between controlling a woman and not taking shit from her. The former is wrong, the latter is what makes men happy. Telling her you dont want anymore kids is hardly telling her to give up her rights, if anything she is telling you to give up your right to not become a parent a third, or fourth time over. LOL at you joining lives and making decisions together, obviously thats not the case as its her way or no way. You just mentioned yourself that you arent able to tell her something and just "have it make sense". She doesnt respect your positions or wants.
 
you sound like you have control issues. I never said my wife wears the pants and does whatever she wants. We make decisions together. She by no means is forcing me to have another kid. But that doesn't mean she isn't hurt over it or sad. Jeez bro, women aren't there for you to trample all over. I love my wife and care about how she feels. I also have a great marriage and great sex life after 5 years of marriage, so i'd say i am doing some things right
 
wearing a rubber isn't cool though. if she won't let you put it somewhere other than in a rubber, maybe she does wear the pants
 
I don't have any desire to have any more children. If I met a guy that loved me enough and knew the sacrifice it was to carry his children I would gladly carry and help raise children with him because I would love him, obviously. You'd be surprised how many men want kids too. Its not just a woman thing. But anyway, its not always about what I want. She has to see that too though, ER> If you are stressed out about the idea of another kiddo, she needs to think more about you than herself, and you more about her than yourself. Following that, I don't see how you guys can go wrong! :heart: I'm sure you will work this one out, you are a good husband ER.
 
SD does kinda have a point but his delivery is all shitty. Someone has to be the one to call the shots on these things. Tell her with compassion and with her feelings in mind, that you are not sure you want any more kids and explain the reasons why. Then, listen to what she has to say and consider it. Then, think about what you really want, what she really wants and then come to a conclusion and tell her your decision pulling your head of household card. Do it with kindness and love, but she'll learn to accept it. Its better than resentment and stressed finances etc. Ultimately, someone has to make a decision about these bigger things...you can change your mind in a couple years. Its not written in stone.

Just tell her how you feel, it might hurt her a little but its better than you being glad when she gets her period and she sees it written all over your face. That might hurt a little more even, idk.
 
cindylou said:
SD does kinda have a point but his delivery is all shitty. Someone has to be the one to call the shots on these things. Tell her with compassion and with her feelings in mind, that you are not sure you want any more kids and explain the reasons why. Then, listen to what she has to say and consider it. Then, think about what you really want, what she really wants and then come to a conclusion and tell her your decision pulling your head of household card. Do it with kindness and love, but she'll learn to accept it. Its better than resentment and stressed finances etc. Ultimately, someone has to make a decision about these bigger things...you can change your mind in a couple years. Its not written in stone.

Just tell her how you feel, it might hurt her a little but its better than you being glad when she gets her period and she sees it written all over your face. That might hurt a little more even, idk.
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I agree with SD's last post. The earlier posts were spoken like a true lifelong bachelor though
 
cindylou said:
SD does kinda have a point but his delivery is all shitty. Someone has to be the one to call the shots on these things. Tell her with compassion and with her feelings in mind, that you are not sure you want any more kids and explain the reasons why. Then, listen to what she has to say and consider it. Then, think about what you really want, what she really wants and then come to a conclusion and tell her your decision pulling your head of household card. Do it with kindness and love, but she'll learn to accept it. Its better than resentment and stressed finances etc. Ultimately, someone has to make a decision about these bigger things...you can change your mind in a couple years. Its not written in stone.

Just tell her how you feel, it might hurt her a little but its better than you being glad when she gets her period and she sees it written all over your face. That might hurt a little more even, idk.
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Yea what she said and shit lol

So seriously bro she seems hell bent on more kids. What happens if you say no? What is she going to do, leave you? Remember no one can force you to be a parent more times than you want.
 
-SD- said:
Yea what she said and shit lol

So seriously bro she seems hell bent on more kids. What happens if you say no? What is she going to do, leave you? Remember no one can force you to be a parent more times than you want.
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She can't force him, but accidents just seem to happen in these circumstances.
Your strategy SD, isn't a good one, because a good strategy is win-win, and the only way to get win-win in this situation is if someone changes their mind.

cindylou's approach sounds a little better, because with an open discussion, wifey might really start to see how strongly ER feels.

I would add to cindylou's strategy that instead of pulling rank and making a final decision, I would just say something like "I really just can't see myself agreeing right now. How about waiting a year and revisiting this issue? That way, we don't have this elephant in the room all the time, we can enjoy our lives right now as they are, and then see how we both feel in a year."

Then, you have a whole year to get that vasectomy :FRlol:
 
Headholio said:
She can't force him, but accidents just seem to happen in these circumstances.
Your strategy SD, isn't a good one, because a good strategy is win-win, and the only way to get win-win in this situation is if someone changes their mind.

cindylou's approach sounds a little better, because with an open discussion, wifey might really start to see how strongly ER feels.

I would add to cindylou's strategy that instead of pulling rank and making a final decision, I would just say something like "I really just can't see myself agreeing right now. How about waiting a year and revisiting this issue? That way, we don't have this elephant in the room all the time, we can enjoy our lives right now as they are, and then see how we both feel in a year."

Then, you have a whole year to get that vasectomy :FRlol:
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So going behind her back and tricking her is fine, then having to keep up that lie for the rest of your life lol

1) convince her no more kids, and mean it
2) tell her a vasectomys happening
3) she puts up another fight because a vasectomy means its real and she cant hornswoggle you into more kids
4) refer her to the fact she just agreed to no more kids
5) go get the vasectomy and tell her to stfu about it already
6) have her get you a beer while you ice down your nuts after the vasectomy

Come on guys, this doesnt have to be rocket science
 
she promised she wouldn't trick me into having a kid. plus i kow her cycle and know when to use protection. Zwhit, use the lamb skin condomns, they are awesome

cindy i have already told her how i feel and we had that talk. but she can still seduce me, lol
 
EarthRider said:
she promised she wouldn't trick me into having a kid. plus i kow her cycle and know when to use protection. Zwhit, use the lamb skin condomns, they are awesome

cindy i have already told her how i feel and we had that talk. but she can still seduce me, lol
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Lol pull out. There is still a "chance" enough to make her happy but its so slim that the odds will be in your favor.

Are you even sure its money? Young kids are a lot of WORK and take up all your time. Are you beginning to fantasize about a life without diapers, sleepless nights, and more free time? You work 55-60 hours a week and come home to more work...fug! Does that make you feel selfish? I'm just saying, she will always rationalize how much it costs especially if she is staying at home because she's already home and you don't have childcare costs. It makes sense to do it all now. Plus, I'm sure its hard to do/explain a cost benefit analysis on children to a woman who wants one w/o feeling like an unemotional unfeeling asshole... are you sure its all financial?
 
LMAO WoodyO how did you even find that vid? xD

EarthRider said:
NAN BC has many terrible side effects and isn't good for your body, that is why. I am glad you love it, but it's not a option for our family. Also, the BC that you love so much might be another reason you have a hard time losing weight. It can do that to you.

lmao at myself being miserable. we have a great marriage and things like this come up. I have a feeling you will be single as long as you have those feelings SD. I agree men should be head of house hold. but women are still human beings and don't need to be controlled into the woman you expect her to be. My wife is her own person. She never gave up her rights to me when we got married. We decided to join lives together and make decisions like this together.
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Terrible ide effects like what?
The one I use helps prevent ovarian and endometrial cancer, I've used it for 10 years without a single effect, the weight is because of my poor eating choices and the fact I dont work out anymore, not the BC fault, BC is like any other med, you gotta try several until you find the one right for you.
 
I dont get the impression ER is dead set against having more kids. In fact he said he does want more, just ideallynot right now. This does not sound like a dealbreaker for their marriage.
 
smurf2 said:
I dont get the impression ER is dead set against having more kids. In fact he said he does want more, just ideallynot right now. This does not sound like a dealbreaker for their marriage.
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He will cave once again and she knows it
 
smurf2 said:
I dont get the impression ER is dead set against having more kids. In fact he said he does want more, just ideallynot right now. This does not sound like a dealbreaker for their marriage.
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omg lmao the marriage isn't and will not ever be in question. we talked tonight and she is good. we will wait awhile cause she doens'/t want to push me into something
 
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