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How To Make Your Relationships Succeed...Or Fail!

I'm young and I'm obviously not in a long term committed relationship right now, but I have noticed people's communication problems usually aren't due to a lack of communication. In my experience, they happen because the two people involved don't communicate the same way.

You might think you're doing it well, but if that's not how the other person likes to communicate, they won't agree. All humans communicate. I would think its more important to learn to understand how your partner communicates than to be lazy and assume they aren't or try to retrain them to communicate like you want them to.
 
I'm young and I'm obviously not in a long term committed relationship right now, but I have noticed people's communication problems usually aren't due to a lack of communication. In my experience, they happen because the two people involved don't communicate the same way.

You might think you're doing it well, but if that's not how the other person likes to communicate, they won't agree. All humans communicate. I would think its more important to learn to understand how your partner communicates than to be lazy and assume they aren't or try to retrain them to communicate like you want them to.

what do you mean "different ways of communicating"? my wife hates me lately and I admit I'm a terrible communicator.

school me with your smarts
 
I'm young and I'm obviously not in a long term committed relationship right now, but I have noticed people's communication problems usually aren't due to a lack of communication. In my experience, they happen because the two people involved don't communicate the same way.

You might think you're doing it well, but if that's not how the other person likes to communicate, they won't agree. All humans communicate. I would think its more important to learn to understand how your partner communicates than to be lazy and assume they aren't or try to retrain them to communicate like you want them to.

How old are you?
 
I'm young and I'm obviously not in a long term committed relationship right now, but I have noticed people's communication problems usually aren't due to a lack of communication. In my experience, they happen because the two people involved don't communicate the same way.

You might think you're doing it well, but if that's not how the other person likes to communicate, they won't agree. All humans communicate. I would think its more important to learn to understand how your partner communicates than to be lazy and assume they aren't or try to retrain them to communicate like you want them to.

I'm sorry, I didn't catch any of that. What were you saying?
 
I'm young and I'm obviously not in a long term committed relationship right now, but I have noticed people's communication problems usually aren't due to a lack of communication. In my experience, they happen because the two people involved don't communicate the same way.

You might think you're doing it well, but if that's not how the other person likes to communicate, they won't agree. All humans communicate. I would think its more important to learn to understand how your partner communicates than to be lazy and assume they aren't or try to retrain them to communicate like you want them to.

It's true that men and women communicate in different ways. But the comminication I think most are talking about here is honest, open, direct communication.

Most people are afraid to bring up touchy or delicate subjects so they dance around them, temper what they say, and give subtle signals (which each sex does differently). When that doesn't work they get frustrated and blurt out their complaints in anger. Or wait until there is a fight and bring up all their complaints then.

It's best to be able to discuss things calmly before they blow up. That's what the buzzword "communication" means to me in a relationship context.
 
It's true that men and women communicate in different ways. But the comminication I think most are talking about here is honest, open, direct communication.

Most people are afraid to bring up touchy or delicate subjects so they dance around them, temper what they say, and give subtle signals (which each sex does differently). When that doesn't work they get frustrated and blurt out their complaints in anger. Or wait until there is a fight and bring up all their complaints then.

It's best to be able to discuss things calmly before they blow up. That's what the buzzword "communication" means to me in a relationship context.

I guess, but that type of communication doesn't always work for me. Even calmly, having a conversation about every single thing stresses me out more than the problem itself.

That's not to say I don't discuss my feelings when I'm hurt or something because I do. But there's still more than one way to have open, honest communication.

If I have a problem I will tell you once, clearly and quickly. That's very different than needing to discuss at length every problem and concern all the time, but they're both open and honest communication...correct? But theyre different and neither one makes someone a better communicator than the other.
 
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