Is everything forgivable?

[sterolizer]

Holy fuck I want to donkey punch a lot of people in this thread

 

[cindylou]

I'm talking about serious stuff also, aside from infidelity because I haven't been married and while it sucks, I don't consider cheating in a non-marital relationship to be in the same "serious" category as those various other forms of abuse.

I disagree though. I can't wait to forgive someone until after I've healed, even and especially with the serious stuff. As long as I'm still holding something against the person, I can't heal and I don't see how anybody could, but we're all different I guess.

Not to say I go forgive for the serious stuff immediately, but I have to and do forgive long before I'm done healing. I'll hurt much after I've already forgiven the person for what they've done.

I agree with what you're saying and that's the way it should go ideally, but when it does not happen that way automatically (which is what I think blue was trying to figure out...why can't I forgive person x when I forgave person y) was where I was going. It's not always a decision or an event, sometimes it is a process and for those of us who forgive easily it can be confusing and uncomfortable to not find your way through these things when it does not happen automatically. When you want to forgive and let go, but can't. I was talking about hurt, specifically hurt masquerading as anger. What I guess I was trying to say is that if you are angry and having trouble forgiving and want to let go of the anger, the process of finding the place where you're able to forgive is different when it does not just come, automatically...you have to recognize what you're actually feeling. Sometimes it does not happen as it should, like you are able to do. Sometimes you have to search for that place where you're able to give forgiveness, what comes automatically, or easily to you. That's all I was saying.

 

[bigpokey]

I just saw the gayest thread on earth

 

[sterolizer]

I can't read this thread without hurting I need hydros

 

[WoodyO]

 

[theoak01]

no it isnt, for example,I do not speak with my parents,rough child hood,dad is a drug addict, I often remember boiling water so I can have a hot bath because drugs were more important than his kids. eventually it spiralled into him stealing from family, and my mother stood by him condoning it.

they havent met my kid never will, even though last week my mother contacted me to tell me she has advanced colon cancer.

so no not everything is forgivable,and her illness doesnt erase the pain the two of them have caused me.

 

[sterolizer]

no it isnt, for example,I do not speak with my parents,rough child hood,dad is a drug addict, I often remember boiling water so I can have a hot bath because drugs were more important than his kids. eventually it spiralled into him stealing from family, and my mother stood by him condoning it.

they havent met my kid never will, even though last week my mother contacted me to tell me she has advanced colon cancer.

so no not everything is forgivable,and her illness doesnt erase the pain the two of them have caused me.

Stop being a pussy. If people are able to forgive those who have committed murder to someone in their family or they love. Then anyone can forgive for anything. You're being a big bitch

 

[digimon7068]

Can I forgive?

can i dink?

 

[nydj66]

I bet blueta has a pale ass

I'm guessin' most of us do, except nan; she's messican.

 

[nangiggles]

I'm guessin' most of us do, except nan; she's messican.

lol my ass is pretty white TYVM my everything is pretty white, LOL