AMGETR
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Hey guys/girls..
Been a long time since I've been on these forums, a few new faces, but still a lot of the old school crew which is nice to see.
I don't usually bring up my personal life, but luckily, this is the internet, so I don't have to look like a loser in FRONT of you .. LOL
I'm in a deepening dilemma, and I'm really not sure what to do.
I'm getting into my late 20's and my love life is mentally and physically dead. For the past 5 years I've been dating a girl (she's 24 now, turning 25 shortly), and while it was great for the first 2 years, the past 3 years have rapidly gotten worse and worse.
She stalks me, she calls me 10-20x per day, and she calls my friends and family looking for me when she can't get in touch with me. I've told her to stop it, but it just turns into an argument. I've tried to break up with her, but it does nothing. She'll start to threaten she's going to the police to about me, or she threatens to kill herself.
It doesn't stop..
For the sake of not having to deal with the stress, I ALWAYS cave. Every time. I can't afford to have her goto the police, let alone have on my conscious that she hurt herself. So I take her back, every time..
I've tried to tell her why I'm not interested in being with her, and then she goes into rages and threats. I'm sinking here, and I really don't know what to do.
She's asian (for those that might be wondering), and she doesn't work. She really doesn't do too much to be honest. She lives off me, and basically that's all she does.
Unfortunately, I can't catch her in anything that would really give me a "real" reason to break up with her by her definition. She doesn't cheat, nor hang out or talk to men. But it's the "craziness" that has turned me off completely.
I've tried to simply lose contact with her, but it doesn't work. She will continue to call me, and if I don't answer, she threatens.
For the ladies on this board, what do you suggest I do here? Please, only real answers. I'm honestly not in the mood for jokes, I'm absolutely dying inside here. I've got no more social life because of her. She's essentially made me into a home-body. All I do is work. All day. I can't have a social life because she will show up and go insane. None of my guy friends want her around, and I've lost every female friend I used to have because of her.
I NEED OUT.
I appreciate your honest replies and hopefully someone can help me with some words of wisdom. Possibly someone here has had this type of person in their life before. I really need advice on how to get out. I'm absolutely miserable inside.
Been a long time since I've been on these forums, a few new faces, but still a lot of the old school crew which is nice to see.
I don't usually bring up my personal life, but luckily, this is the internet, so I don't have to look like a loser in FRONT of you .. LOL
I'm in a deepening dilemma, and I'm really not sure what to do.
I'm getting into my late 20's and my love life is mentally and physically dead. For the past 5 years I've been dating a girl (she's 24 now, turning 25 shortly), and while it was great for the first 2 years, the past 3 years have rapidly gotten worse and worse.
She stalks me, she calls me 10-20x per day, and she calls my friends and family looking for me when she can't get in touch with me. I've told her to stop it, but it just turns into an argument. I've tried to break up with her, but it does nothing. She'll start to threaten she's going to the police to about me, or she threatens to kill herself.
It doesn't stop..
For the sake of not having to deal with the stress, I ALWAYS cave. Every time. I can't afford to have her goto the police, let alone have on my conscious that she hurt herself. So I take her back, every time..
I've tried to tell her why I'm not interested in being with her, and then she goes into rages and threats. I'm sinking here, and I really don't know what to do.
She's asian (for those that might be wondering), and she doesn't work. She really doesn't do too much to be honest. She lives off me, and basically that's all she does.
Unfortunately, I can't catch her in anything that would really give me a "real" reason to break up with her by her definition. She doesn't cheat, nor hang out or talk to men. But it's the "craziness" that has turned me off completely.
I've tried to simply lose contact with her, but it doesn't work. She will continue to call me, and if I don't answer, she threatens.
For the ladies on this board, what do you suggest I do here? Please, only real answers. I'm honestly not in the mood for jokes, I'm absolutely dying inside here. I've got no more social life because of her. She's essentially made me into a home-body. All I do is work. All day. I can't have a social life because she will show up and go insane. None of my guy friends want her around, and I've lost every female friend I used to have because of her.
I NEED OUT.
I appreciate your honest replies and hopefully someone can help me with some words of wisdom. Possibly someone here has had this type of person in their life before. I really need advice on how to get out. I'm absolutely miserable inside.
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