Your thoughts and opinions please...

[The Shadow]

...well I got to the gym yesterday and my supervisor showed my a letter that had been sent to THE big boss of the wellness center. It seems that someone is bitching about my WIFE. The letter stated that I had always been helpful and professional, but my wife had given him/her a "glare" one day in the gym. She(I say she because I think I know who wrote it) went on to say that my wife is there ALL the time and is always attending the classes I teach. She also said that she "overheard" my wife make fun of someone's hair in the gym the other day. She went on to say that my wife made the comment that she (my wife) has to be at the gym as much as possible to keep the women away.

Ok - number one - over the last two months my wife has only averaged 2.5 days in the gyn per week. Over the last two months she has attended less than 40% of the classes I teach.

I have been with my wife for 9 years, have known her for close to 15. I can honestly say that I have NEVER heard her make fun of ANYONE.

As far as the comment about the women. My wife knows she has NOTHING to worry about.

Well - the big boss wants to pass a rule that spouses can't been in the gym for no more than an hour at a time. WTF??? She pays her fuckin' dues like everyone else. That rule means that she can't lift and take my class.

I told my immediate super for him to handle this. If the rule stays in place, I will quit tomorrow.

Geez!! Sorry for the rant, but this has really pissed me off.

Comments - please.


BTW - thanks to all the fools at the pound...

 

[TxLonghorn]

Well, they should take letters like that seriously. But that does not mean that they should believe every letter like that also. What if this person has an axe to grind? Kind of like the old axiom 'The customer is always right'. Well, sometimes the customer is flat out wrong.

I think if she pays her dues, she has the same rights as everybody else. Unless of course, this rule was in place beforehand. This is easily solved via a 'threatened' lawsuit. I say threatened because this would be settled. What if they give her free access to the gym, just not when you are there, or put a limit on her time (I do think 1 hours is a little unrealistic).

I would be pissed, too. Maybe try talking to them about this before threatening them. Once the threats and ultimatums get bandied about, most people, whether right or wrong, will stick to their guns and not give in.

Good luck.

 

[The Shadow]

Well, they should take letters like that seriously. But that does not mean that they should believe every letter like that also. What if this person has an axe to grind? Kind of like the old axiom 'The customer is always right'. Well, sometimes the customer is flat out wrong.

I think if she pays her dues, she has the same rights as everybody else. Unless of course, this rule was in place beforehand. This is easily solved via a 'threatened' lawsuit. I say threatened because this would be settled. What if they give her free access to the gym, just not when you are there, or put a limit on her time (I do think 1 hours is a little unrealistic).

I would be pissed, too. Maybe try talking to them about this before threatening them. Once the threats and ultimatums get bandied about, most people, whether right or wrong, will stick to their guns and not give in.

Good luck.

I gree that the letter should be given some degree of attention. I pretty much know who wrote the letter. She is on older woman with money who would have liked a personal relationship with me.

THe letter to the big boss was sent unsigned BTW.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

C-Man,

You're doing the right thing. Your relationship should always be a priority. You can get a job at another gym. Personally, I'd be tempted to leave anyway if you work at a place where they're going to put that much stock in an anonymous letter and make asinine rules designed to separate husbands and wives -- all the while ignoring your side of the story.

If you want to work it out with them, I'd suggest that you reiterate the facts that you have mentioned in your post, with your wife by your side. It will be a show of solidarity, plus it will show that your wife did not likely do the things in the letter because she is there, showing her face instead of hiding. Talk to the big guy if possible as the middle guy will never be able to effectively relay the information in the same manner as you two are capable of. Be straight up with them and tell them if they are going to pull this crap over an anonymous letter, you're gone. You can do better anyway.

Good luck.

 

[The Shadow]

Thanks dude. I am considering quitting anyway. The big boss hasd NEVER stepped foot in the gym on my shift since I have worked there - over a year and a half. Just pisses the shit out of me.

 

[vixenbabe]

Your wife is far more important than any new "rule" that is now enforced.

Sounds like this trouble maker at the gym needs a lesson on growing up!Women can be so damn petty at all ages it appears!

I'm sure there are many gyms out there that would like your experience and knowledge.

I'd have packed my sh*t up right there and then and said,"SEE YA!" I'd also mention to them that you want refunded for the membership since you could sue them for changing the terms listed in clause! JERKS!

 

[The Shadow]

Vixen - I hear ya girl.

They rule change would ONLY apply to spouses of employees....which would basically only affect Mrs. Corn

 

[8-]]

This sucks big time.

They can't force your wife to not be there based on some hearsay.

Your wife hasn't done anything illegal and she shouldn't suffer because of it.

 

[Superfoot]

I think if she pays her dues, she has the same rights as everybody else. Unless of course, this rule was in place beforehand. This is easily solved via a 'threatened' lawsuit. I say threatened because this would be settled.

This is exactly right. You can easily call it descrimination and not only would the gym not want the law suit, they would also not want the bad publicity.

...and no, I don't beleive this letter should be taken too seriously. This is an anonymous letter which takes away your wife's right to defend herself against these claims. If this lady wants to enact any change, she should have to submit a formal complaint. This way, instead of taking cheap shots from someone in hiding, they actually have to have the balls to back up what they're saying and maybe lay some ground rules to actually address the problem. Limiting gym time won't solve any problem, it will just piss people off.

 

[The Shadow]

I agree with all of you.

What pisses me off so much is that the letter was unsigned. I though the accused were allowed to face their accuser in this country.