Your s/o is a cheater....

[sawastea]

Hit it raw dog and bail...

 

[BrothaBill]

It depends;
If it was that she met a guy and they chatted and hooked up then hell no.
But if she went out and got too drunk and cheated then we should try and work it out.

 

[Seashell]

Wow.. I'm surprised at those willing to "work it out".

Complete & total deal-breaker to me. Whatever the reason.

 

[Growth&Courage]

You keep saying that, but the reality is that many people, when the relationship gets hard or turns unhappy, look for comfort elsewhere rather than deal with the problem as a couple. For many people cheating is the easier route to feeling better, and in today's instant gratification society it happens alot. Hence the high rate of divorce: people would rather leave and move on than stay and work on the relationship, because moving on seems easier. Of course, avoiding the problem is no real solution in the long run; you learn nothing.

People who cheat once tend to always cheat when faced with relationship difficulties simply because they don't know how to deal with real problems in a relationship. The saying "once a cheater, always a cheater" does have a ring of truth to it, like it or not.

Whilst I see the validity of this statement from a sociological perspective and credit it as such an insightful way of looking at it (hence deserves a K) , on a personal level I'm not too sure about this part though:

"...moving on seems easier".

If moving on is that simple then you should question whether the love in the first place b/w the individual and his/her SO was truly that significant or not.

As far as I've discovered and read, most "move ons" appears to be highly contradictory.

 

[chesty]

I would have to say leave having been cheated on and having done it myself. It damages the relationship and it takes so much to regain the trust of your wife/husband/gf/bf that most do not have the strength. The pain and anguish that it causes has been likened to what someone feels when they have been raped.

So, if you can work it out and move forward great, if you cannot, move on.

 

[Forge]

Whilst I see the validity of this statement from a sociological perspective and credit it as such an insightful way of looking at it (hence deserves a K) , on a personal level I'm not too sure about this part though:

"...moving on seems easier".

If moving on is that simple then you should question whether the love in the first place b/w the individual and his/her SO was truly that significant or not.

As far as I've discovered and read, most "move ons" appears to be highly contradictory.

Yes, unquestionably. If someone is that unwilling to work things out and cheats instead then they were never very serious in the first place, or they lost interest over time (more common I think). The thing is that most people lose interest due to the problems in the relationship, and if they would only work those problems out then the reasons they fell in love in the first place would come back stronger than ever. This is why most married couples who seperate but come back together after working through it are much happier after the whole ordeal, they form a stronger bond than before.

Note that the whole "...moving on seems easier" sentiment is not how I feel; I believe that a couple should face hardships together and talk things out, but I've seen it time and time again and it seems to be more the norm today than the exception.

 

[from zero]

Wow.. I'm surprised at those willing to "work it out".

Complete & total deal-breaker to me. Whatever the reason.

The people willing to work it out = Insecure. Can't handle being alone.

I am Doctor Motherfucking Phil up in this thread.

 

[KillahBee]

I read your post and i understand it
WELL it is not that simple, people cheat for different reasons, But i do believe if there is a problem in your relationship, people should talk about it, than rather resulting to cheating or seeking comfort else where,

That saying once a cheater always a cheater is a pile of bullshit, I know soo many who have cheated on their partners, been dumped and learned from their mistakes and vow never do that again to themselves or the people they love

YOUR PAST IS NOT YOUR POTENTIAL - REMEMBER THAT PEOPLE - AND EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES, BUT YOUR MISTAKE - Does NOT defined who you are, what the defined's you is how high you rise after falling

your past is still a part of who you are and who you will always be, my man. don't kid yourself. while it's true that some people make mistakes and that some cheaters may cheat once and never again, you would be fool to ignore what that person has done in the past and dismiss it as another life.

 

[Seashell]

... most do not have the strength...

I hear people say this fairly often and I always find that a strange comment because to me, it's not strength when you let someone cheat on you and stay with them.. that's weakness.

Strength to me, is cutting all ties and walking away from that person you are completely in love with, because they clearly don't love you and you deserve better.

 

[Meantime1]

your past is still a part of who you are and who you will always be, my man. don't kid yourself. while it's true that some people make mistakes and that some cheaters may cheat once and never again, you would be fool to ignore what that person has done in the past and dismiss it as another life.

cheating, lets face it we are all humans and some, NOT ALL but some make mistakes, BUT i DONT believe just because u cheat once u will do it again, My 1st ever BF, cheated on his 1st ever bf, and got dumpped, when he got together with me he made a vow, NEVER do that to himself again and the person he loved and GUESS WHAT NOT once did he brake that vow,

WE as a society are very quick to conderm people, JUST REMEMBER YOUR PAST is NOT your Potential, Just because someone is a fuckup DOES NOT MEAN they will be a FUCKUP for the rest of their lifes, SOMETIMES SOME PEOPLE need to cross that grass just to see if it is greener on the other side, and many NOT ALL, but MANY learn from their mistakes

That saying once a cheater always a cheater is a pile of bullshit,