You may now say "I told you so"

[artrius]

sorry to hear it bro.

So let me get it straight, you like to cuddle and be all lovey dovey and shes just not into that?

Yup, pretty much. I have to say, though, its strange... she has an 8 year old brother (she's 21) that she's always hugging and kissing, being nice to like a good sister... I mentioned that to her, but she just said that she just that its different and that she wasn't like that in relationships. I think that may have been a lie, for some reason, it may have just been her way of telling me that she didn't love me like she said she did.

How was your sex life?

 

[Lestat]

Yup, pretty much. I have to say, though, its strange... she has an 8 year old brother (she's 21) that she's always hugging and kissing, being nice to like a good sister... I mentioned that to her, but she just said that she just that its different and that she wasn't like that in relationships. I think that may have been a lie, for some reason, it may have just been her way of telling me that she didn't love me like she said she did.

so the sex was shitty then? did you guys even have any?

I can't imagine getting enegaged without fully exploring that side of the realtionship.

 

[artrius]

You know, there was always one other thing that concerned me... here's the deal. She works at a hospital, where she's the only one that is unmarried and doesn't have a kid. Where most of the employees there are female, talking about kids, husbands, family life, etc, all the time, I have been worried that she was just out there just to get a husband out of it. She mentioned to me that I have all the traits that she wants in a man, such as a stable job, financial know-how, etc.... never mentioned anything about ME though, as a person. Makes me wonder sometimes....

 

[nycgirl]

Yup, pretty much. I have to say, though, its strange... she has an 8 year old brother (she's 21) that she's always hugging and kissing, being nice to like a good sister... I mentioned that to her, but she just said that she just that its different and that she wasn't like that in relationships. I think that may have been a lie, for some reason, it may have just been her way of telling me that she didn't love me like she said she did.

Don't think that, I doubt it had anything to do with you. I use to be that way. I didn't want to hold hands, cuddle, etc. It had nothing do with the other person.

 

[artrius]

Don't think that, I doubt it had anything to do with you. I use to be that way. I didn't want to hold hands, cuddle, etc. It had nothing do with the other person.

 

[Lestat]

You know, there was always one other thing that concerned me... here's the deal. She works at a hospital, where she's the only one that is unmarried and doesn't have a kid. Where most of the employees there are female, talking about kids, husbands, family life, etc, all the time, I have been worried that she was just out there just to get a husband out of it. She mentioned to me that I have all the traits that she wants in a man, such as a stable job, financial know-how, etc.... never mentioned anything about ME though, as a person. Makes me wonder sometimes....

that sucks bro.

how old are you?

 

[artrius]

Sorry to hear about this.....but...beter now then 2 yrs after being married. I'm glad you were man enough to deal with this before hand!!

thank you my thoughts exactly... i'm glad I did this sooner than later, before she could take me for 1/2, which isn't much

 

[artrius]

that sucks bro.

how old are you?

22 y/o.

I have learned a VALUABLE lesson tho. I've just got to calm down and keep my shorts on. I'm surprisingly relaxed about it though. I think this experience, though it was kind of rough, will be good for me in the long run.

 

[Lestat]

22 y/o.

I have learned a VALUABLE lesson tho. I've just got to calm down and keep my shorts on. I'm surprisingly relaxed about it though. I think this experience, though it was kind of rough, will be good for me in the long run.

yeah man, you are young, got plenty of time to find someone that totally fulfills you.