Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below I hate the word nice. "Nice" seems so devoid of any emotional sincerity. I am exceptionally good to the people in my life, but yes - it's conditional. I expect to be treated the same way I treat others, and if I am not - they will get cut off. One of my guy friends recently said to me, "One thing I really really respect about you is this - I've seen you have a few serious relationships, and you will give a guy you are dating the world. You spoil the shit out of your boyfriends. But when they stop deserving it, you aren't afraid to call it quits." (before anyone says he was trying to get in my pants lol...he likes cawk....and has been with the same guy for 13 years now)
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I hate the word nice. "Nice" seems so devoid of any emotional sincerity. I am exceptionally good to the people in my life, but yes - it's conditional. I expect to be treated the same way I treat others, and if I am not - they will get cut off. One of my guy friends recently said to me, "One thing I really really respect about you is this - I've seen you have a few serious relationships, and you will give a guy you are dating the world. You spoil the shit out of your boyfriends. But when they stop deserving it, you aren't afraid to call it quits." (before anyone says he was trying to get in my pants lol...he likes cawk....and has been with the same guy for 13 years now)
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Perhaps the word "Nice" is wrong. Reading yours and Nef's posts I realized that the word can have different connotations to different people. I too, have met people who are artificial and saccharine.
Instead of Nice, insert the words "Decent and Kind."
My husband is the first and only man I've ever had a personal relationship with whose ever been absolutely decent to me, never hurt me, never lied to me, never used me and never emotionally manipulated me.
However, I don't consider calling a spade a spade being anything other than forthright, whether you're a man or woman (in fact, we consider honesty 100% critical). And as for occasionally being in a bad mood, that's being human. Since both he and I were abused children it's easy for us to blame ourselves if our s/o is upset or angry. We have a deal, if you're in a bad mood just tell the other that you're in a bad mood and they didn't cause it. Needing that reassurance may be hard to understand but it goes back to some of the emotional manipulation I've lived with. My ex (and my father) were very good at making me feel like their bad mood was my fault, like I failed or fucked up somehow. It's very hard to break out of something that you grew up with and then went and married yourself into, rationalizations and therapy aside, sometimes you just need a little reassurance.
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he's implying you're gay. How come?
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