Women: would you marry a guy without a diamond ring?

[Bikini Mod]

Come on, regardless of timing you know its going to happen, which is way more than the vast majority of women could hope to expect from their husbands who are just trying to make ends meet every month after putting a 3k rock on plastic.

Darlin the ring I am talking about is not *the norm* so I am not expecting it anytime soon.

You really have NO IDEA what he has been through and what WE are going through. Just because I don't post up on the boards (I respect HIS privacy) that doesn't mean it wasn't HORRIBLE and that it isn't still trying...

You honestly have NO IDEA how difficult our lives are.... and that's ok because I don't sit up here and bitch about the parts that involve the repercussions of how hard these very screwed up people fucked him on our lives even today. All I ever say is that the oil and gas world is filled with filthy disgusting bottom feeders that will stop at NOTHING to openly steal, then will do even more to bury you IF you dare to go against them. When people are making 10's of millions of dollars A MONTH sometimes, WTF do you think that THEY DONT THINK that they are ten feet tall and bullet proof? Now go ahead and try and take them down...

Anyway, it's all good.

I am not complaining, just letting you know that my husband is a man amongst men and the amount of money he is making/has made/will make has very litte to do with it. That is only the most easily quantifiable measure of his success. The bolded part is why I willingly married him when he was on the street - LITERALLY.

Try not to puke... no reason to be ill.

 

[Forge]

Wow, I actually remember this thread. Hard to believe I was still trying to save my marriage back then, I wonder how that ring is doing now…

 

[all the whey]

Wow, I actually remember this thread. Hard to believe I was still trying to save my marriage back then, I wonder how that ring is doing now…

Why didn't you get it back?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Wow, I actually remember this thread. Hard to believe I was still trying to save my marriage back then, I wonder how that ring is doing now…

Funny how when you are going through something like that you often think, "How am I going to get through this?!?!" Then you look back (because of something else... like this thread) and think, "Meh."

I had a very nice wedding band and engagement ring first time round, both had lovely diamonds, was the most expensive set my ex could afford - probably the one SELFLESS thing he ever did for me in retrospect. Anyways, I misplaced them one day bout a year or so before we actually split. My Nini (who is now near 14) said she wanted to clean my desk for me so I took my jewelry and put it somewhere not in the usual place: a small heart-shaped felt box. I remember thinking to myself, "You'd better remember to put these where they belong or else you will forget." ....only I forgot. To this day I KNOW my ex found my jewelry and took them waiting for me to come to him in a panic and ask if I had seen them. He would do this shit to me all the time *to teach me a lesson* (as he would put it) making me feel like a child... Anyways, long story short I never asked him when I realized they were gone, nor did I really care actually as their value had naught to do with money....

I don't know where they are and I don't give a shit.... my sentiments over him match.

 

[Forge]

Why didn't you get it back?

Nah, when we got divorced she asked me if I wanted it back, but I told her it was a gift and I meant it when I gave it to her, so it was hers to do whatever with. I was still trying to save the marriage back then, and was being a SWV and doing anything to please her. What a lesson that whole thing was.


In retrospect, I should have taken it and walked away!

 

[Bikini Mod]

Nah, when we got divorced she asked me if I wanted it back, but I told her it was a gift and I meant it when I gave it to her, so it was hers to do whatever with. I was still trying to save the marriage back then, and was being a SWV and doing anything to please her. What a lesson that whole thing was.


In retrospect, I should have taken it and walked away!

You're a nice guy.... but the entire board already knows that.

 

[cindylou]

I would agree completely with what you stated. For me though, I have found that women in the western society right now have not found their place. They strive for equality however are inhibited by prior traditions and beliefs. In the near future I believe they will take the role of equality through out life but meanwhile I will choose to avoid them.

is that the truth!

We want careers but also want children. could you take 5 years off from your career and still get ahead?

Tough choices we have to make. Every woman willor has had to make that decision too.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

I'd have no problem paying for the nicest diamond I could find for her (since it should be a once in a lifetime event), but at the same time, a relationship built on material possessions won't last.

 

[Turd Ferguson]

Thats what credit is for I suppose. But really its not about the materistic stuff and I would shy away from a girl who has to have a big gaudy ring if your hurting on money

 

[Bikini Mod]

Thats what credit is for I suppose. But really its not about the materistic stuff and I would shy away from a girl who has to have a big gaudy ring if your hurting on money

Any woman who would INSIST on a ring that you can not afford at the time of the engagement/wedding isn't a girl you should consider marrying.