Women at college parties

[javaguru]

Alot of people complain they never get replies on dating sites. WHat are the most effective ways to overcome this?

You have to make yourself stand out, like getting your resume noticed when looking for a job. Attractive women get dozens of solicitations a day. If you're good looking and can write a thoughtful message you're halfway there.

 

[billfred]

I don't really go to parties much, but decided to try one on Halloween, just to see what it was like. I think that was one of the few actual college parties I've ever been in.

Man. I consider myself pretty well adjusted and internally motivated/driven (today, I wasn't always like that) and I'm just not used to being around insecure, hateful people. It wasn't a whole lot of fun. I wonder if there are any good stories about parties. To me so many are just so full of people I wouldn't want to be around. Insecure, backbiting, rude, belligerant, etc.

I honestly don't know where I'm going with this. Yeah, I am not party material and never will be. But it'd be nice if there were gatherings that were filled with more mature people I could frequent instead.

Your using the big head too much. There is a balance for everything in life and one of the most important is big head / small head thinking.

Hit that shit and move on!!

 

[Lao Tzu]

Volunteer work is a *great* way to meet women. If the frat scene isn't for you, join a service fraternity. I did, and you can really run into some nice people.

Also, pick labor-intense drives (i.e. food collection, feed the poor, cleanup, etc. etc.). It gives you good time on the ground to interact with the women.

I went to a speech on democracy in human rights in Burma and talked to a woman afterwards. She seemed to have a nice personality, some emotional maturity, etc. Most of the women I've met at events like that seemed to be open, friendly and mature.

This will sound lame, but I am a late bloomer at this stuff. I am assertive and self confident, but most of the time in the past when I have asked a woman out it turned out badly. When I first started actually trying with women (I was almost 25 before I actually started attempting to actively meet women), I would ask them out w/o waiting for signs that they were interested in me. As a result I would alienate the hell out of them. Not only that but I had far less verbal skill than I do now.

Now, in 2006, I am able to approach women and have a decent conversation, and finding women who show signs of interest is not too hard. But now I am finding myself unable to ask for contact info because I am deep down inside still worried about situations like I had back in 2004 and 2005.

I guess to me, talking to women is about forming a meaningful connection between two people. From going from strangers to aquaintances, and finding new people to talk to. But when I ask women out they get alienated, and I feel like every mental connection I made is ruined.

Point is, I would rather have decent conversations with tons of women, make tons of aquantances, have alot of decent conversations and find out about many new people and never ask a woman out than alienate tons of women and get a handful of dates.

As an example, back in 2005 there was a girl I considered asking out. But she never gave any signs of interest. Luckily I didn't, and in the last few weeks at school we have become pretty good friends. She is pretty mature, and someone I enjoy being around. we hang out about 2-3x a month. If I had asked her out back then chances are I never could've had this friendship that I have with her now as we would've alienated each other.

So if anyone has any constructive advice on how to overcome this I'd like to hear it. I don't want to be doing this when I am 30. I want to know how to continue to make aquantances and friends, but still be able to get dates. I am thinking I should just find the women that show signs of interest, then give them a way to contact me. That seems to be the least pressurized.

And again, I am a late bloomer. Most men start interacting with women at age 10 or 11. I started at 25, so just think of me as a 14 year old.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

wtf??? i think of college parties and i think of hot slutty bitches that i would love to fuck and never talk to again.

 

[UA_Iron]

just go in there thinking in your head who the best canididate to donkey punch or give the shocker to is.

 

[jimmy d]

just whip it out

 

[Razorguns]

when u have a party/club full of attractive people (girls) - you'll get that.

You can see the same stuff at 'mature' parties, but the women are fatter and uglier. So, end of the night - where would you rather be?

When I was 22 - everyone around me was single and hot too. Same thing now, except the good ones are married. Guess what's left.

r

 

[string_bean00]

I'd definately show up w/ a beer bong and a 30 of keystone

same here, but id be rocking natty ice


that's how we roll

 

[Smurfy]

when u have a party/club full of attractive people (girls) - you'll get that.

You can see the same stuff at 'mature' parties, but the women are fatter and uglier. So, end of the night - where would you rather be?

When I was 22 - everyone around me was single and hot too. Same thing now, except the good ones are married. Guess what's left.

r

funny - you're not married either, right?

 

[Smurfy]