Why is it.....

[Delinquent]

that guys get stuck doing the outside work at home plus share the inside work responsibilities? My wife rarely ever helps with the outside work such as mowing, weeding, edging, trimming, etc and her reason is that she has to do EVERYTHING inside like there is so much more to do inside. Yet she then expects me to help her do the dishes, take out the trash, clean the cat box, dust, clean the floors etc. I'd gladly do the inside shit and let her try doing the outside work in the middle of summer in Florida. If we're supposed to share everything, she needs to get her ass outside and help. But like all other husbands, that rarely ever works out in our favor

Marriage is the very definition of double standards

 

[MILF69]

I'm divorced but...I pretty much expect to clean the inside of the house myself...if I do it gets done the way I want it to be done. I have no problem doing outside work either but I dont want to do them both. But I would definately help him out if he needed it. No one should ever be expected to do both.

 

[seizer]

The only house work I do inside is wipe my ass.

That's a lie actually lol, I dont even do that.

 

[nycgirl]

that guys get stuck doing the outside work at home plus share the inside work responsibilities? My wife rarely ever helps with the outside work such as mowing, weeding, edging, trimming, etc and her reason is that she has to do EVERYTHING inside like there is so much more to do inside. Yet she then expects me to help her do the dishes, take out the trash, clean the cat box, dust, clean the floors etc. I'd gladly do the inside shit and let her try doing the outside work in the middle of summer in Florida. If we're supposed to share everything, she needs to get her ass outside and help. But like all other husbands, that rarely ever works out in our favor

Marriage is the very definition of double standards

If I hear "double standards" one more time.

Why don't you ask her to get out there and help?

I did yardwork as a child, and that's exactly why I will only live in a condo or development that hires people to do that.

 

[awittyusername]

Marriage is the very definition of double standards

Change "Marriage" with "women" as the very definition of double standards.

Get yourself a maid, someone to do the landscaping, update your porn collection, and consider hiring a mid level hooker twice a week.

You will save on money, and self esteem.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Change "Marriage" with "women" as the very definition of double standards.

Get yourself a maid, someone to do the landscaping, update your porn collection, and consider hiring a mid level hooker twice a week.

You will save on money, and self esteem.

lmao you are my hero. seriously.


Let's not knock this particular double standard too hard Deliquent. Look at the bright side...doing outside work is one way to get away from their yapping for a while.

 

[Delinquent]

Change "Marriage" with "women" as the very definition of double standards.

Get yourself a maid, someone to do the landscaping, update your porn collection, and consider hiring a mid level hooker twice a week.

You will save on money, and self esteem.

that would be awesome to have everything done for us like that. I don't really care that much though. It's just something that popped in my head when I saw all the dirty dishes and the ver increasing pile of clean clothes on our bed.

The thing that really bugs me is that mosy guys accept this type of behavior. For some reason, a lot of guys are still programmed to think that they do the outside or "guy" work, support the wife, be a bitch basically. Hopefully by next generation, guys will teach their sons that this is not the way it works anymore. I know I'll instill such things in my son.

 

[BOWTECH]

That is the problem with alot of marriages. To many people do not set the ground rules before they get married. I have to laugh at all the men that play the big shot when they are away from their wife but when they are with their wife they are pussies. They let their wives control them. I have seen men made to look like fools infront of their friends and family. It all goes back to the beginning. Too many give in to their wife or husband and do not do the things they want to do. Then they wonder why things are the way they are (shitty). A relationship should be 50/50 if not get a divorce!

 

[nycgirl]

That is the problem with alot of marriages. To many people do not set the ground rules before they get married. I have to laugh at all the men that play the big shot when they are away from their wife but when they are with their wife they are pussies. They let their wives control them. I have seen men made to look like fools infront of their friends and family. It all goes back to the beginning. Too many give in to their wife or husband and do not do the things they want to do. Then the wonder why things are the way they are (shitty). A relationship should be 50/50 if not get a divorce!

Exactly. Women are the same way. They let their men control them and then complain to their girlfriends. Yet, they can't leave the situation. Then stop complaining.

Didn't you know before you married her that she doesn't do yard work?

 

[awittyusername]

that would be awesome to have everything done for us like that. I don't really care that much though. It's just something that popped in my head when I saw all the dirty dishes and the ver increasing pile of clean clothes on our bed.

The thing that really bugs me is that mosy guys accept this type of behavior. For some reason, a lot of guys are still programmed to think that they do the outside or "guy" work, support the wife, be a bitch basically. Hopefully by next generation, guys will teach their sons that this is not the way it works anymore. I know I'll instill such things in my son.

Exactly, this is why never married, and my friend just got divorced after 45 days.

He was with this girl 4yrs. She was cool, easy going, etc. He gets married....She starts right in bitching about everything. He works 80hrs a week (she didn't) But, he finally gave in and spent a whole sunday raking leaves. He was so proud of it (and hoping the bitching would stop) that he stepped inside to ask her to look at the good job...She yelled at him for not taking his shoes off, and to clean the garage. He said...I work my ass off to make money, so you can do whatever you want....But, I can't handle being treated like a bitch. (she thought she was getting the house and a car for being married 45 days.lol)

Now, don't get me started on my friends who are punished if they don't clean up the yard or take them to the craft store witn NO SEX

 

[redguru]

A Marriage shouldn't be 50/50, it should be 100/100. No give and take. Just give.

 

[Mr. dB]

You should have outlined the delineation of labor in your pre-nup.

 

[awittyusername]

You should have outlined the delineation of labor in your pre-nup.

Exactly!

I have a rough draft that includes that. (in case I ever marry)

Also included...

Sex minimum of 3 times per week. (not including the "I have a headache" or "I am feeling fat" escape clauses that can be used quarterly)

Weight must remain with in 9lbs of weight in at wedding.

A 2 hour "Quiet time" everynight. (no yakking about nonsense, or bitching)

 

[nycgirl]

Exactly!

I have a rough draft that includes that. (in case I ever marry)

Also included...

Sex minimum of 3 times per week. (not including the "I have a headache" or "I am feeling fat" escape clauses that can be used quarterly)

Weight must remain with in 9lbs of weight in at wedding.

A 2 hour "Quiet time" everynight. (no yakking about nonsense, or bitching)

 

[The Shadow]

Marriage is the very definition of double standards

...only if you LET it

 

[Smurfy]

Well we have the agreement that I do the inside stuff like cleaning laundry cooking etc and he does the outside stuff except we live in a townhouse so the outside stuff means fixing and working on the car and then doing any repair or maintenance on other thing (he does all things mechanical wich includes the many computers we have).

The only think I ask him to do inside the house is occasionally take the garbage out (after I have taken it out of the can) and take the recycling bin out every tuesday night. Thats it. I cook like 5+ nights a week, make his coffee and protein shakes in the morning, clean, do laundry, all the traditional wifey stuff.

However, we both know that if either of us asked for help from the other person, We would most definitely get it. This is teamwork dude. Everyone's got to give 100%. Nothing is written in stone. Mutual respect.

 

[alien amp pharm]

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