I know a lot of people who are gay and they are proud of their identity.
Walk up to my little sister and ask her if she is a "retard" and I will break your neck. She can not help it and is not proud of that fact. Do they have "retard" clubs just for "retards" to go hang out at? No.
Sorry to rant...but I do love my sister and would do whatever I could to take that away from her. You should have seen her...grrr...sorry.