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Why do women expect you to buy them flowers?
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circusgirl
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I just bought my hubby some flowers. Well, some daffodils to look nice on the table for christmas dinner...
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KAYNE
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ITS NOT THAT THEY EXPECT YOU TO BUY THEM FLOWERS, ITS THAT THEY JUST LIKE FOR YOU TO DO LITTLE THINGS TO SHOW YOU CARE. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, THOSE ARE THE THINGS THAT MAKE'M FEEL SPECIAL.
KAYNE
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notoriousQQ
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You don't buy flowers for a women because she expects it. Kayne is right, if you are with someone you care about, doing and sharing in the little things is absolutely what makes a relationship beautiful.
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KAYNE
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IT DOESNT HAVE TO BE FLOWERS. IT CAN BE A 2$ CARD OR SOMETHING. MY EX USED TO MAKE LITTLE THINGS AND GIVE THEM TO ME ALL THE TIME. SHE BOUGHT CARDS AND OTHER LITTLE THINGS.
YOU CAN SAY YOU CARE ALL YOU WANT. BUT IF YOU DONT SHOW IT, IT REALLY DOESNT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU SAY YOU CARE. DOES IT!!!
KAYNE
YOU CAN SAY YOU CARE ALL YOU WANT. BUT IF YOU DONT SHOW IT, IT REALLY DOESNT MATTER HOW MUCH YOU SAY YOU CARE. DOES IT!!!
KAYNE
circusgirl
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joncrane said:
No-one has ever compared me to Homer before.... he's my hero! 
notoriousQQ
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biteme said:
How much do you spend on going out and drinking? Or, on going to the movies, or gas in your car, new clothes, eating out? It's ridiculous to say that buying a $2 card and writing a sweet note in it and slipping it underneath your girls pillow for her to find or spending $10-15 on a semi-regular basis for roses is going to break you.
Get real cheap ass. I just bought two dozen candy cane roses for $14.99 per doz. a card for $2 and a balloon that said "thinking about you" for $3 and left it sitting on my girls front porch in a large gift bag that cost $4. The satisfaction I recieved from hearing her voice on the phone telling me she had a long day but the flowers made everything better and her feel like she wanted to melt inside was absolutely priceless. The fact that it cost me $40 is absolutely beside the point.
Maybe your thought process should be less focused on why women expect you to do things and more on trying to find someone that naturally brings that out in you? Because whenever you do find someone you care about, thoughts and expressions of caring and love will feel much more natural and easier to show.
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Warik
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Flowers make a nice decoration in a room and also show that you care. If you are complaining about spending $5 for a dozen roses every couple of weeks, then you're a cheap fuck - sorry to report.
Try doing something special for your girl one day and the reaction will be well worth the money. I drove through a maze of narrow streets one day to leave a balloon on my girl's car at work - a simple balloon!!! The reaction was well worth the drive. Don't tell me a few bucks for some flowers is out of your budget.
-Warik
Try doing something special for your girl one day and the reaction will be well worth the money. I drove through a maze of narrow streets one day to leave a balloon on my girl's car at work - a simple balloon!!! The reaction was well worth the drive. Don't tell me a few bucks for some flowers is out of your budget.
-Warik
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KAYNE
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biteme said:
YOU DONT HAVE TO BUY ANYTHING. THERE ARE MILLIONS OF DEAD POOR PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD WHO ARE A HELL OF A LOT HAPPIER THAN PEOPLE WITH MONEY. TRUST ME ON THAT ONE.
GET A PENCIL AND A PIECE OF PAPER. WRITE A LITTLE POEM OR SOMETHING. DRAW A FUNNY PICTURE ON IT. GO PICK HER A FLOWER FROM A GARDEN AND GIVE IT TO HER. NONE OF THAT COSTS ANYTHING YET STILL SHOWS YOU CARE. ITS SIMPLE. THATS ALL THEY WANT.
SHE SHOULDNT EXPECT ANYTHING AT ALL. AND YOU SHOULDNT BE DOING IT CUZ YOU THINK SHE EXPECTS IT. ITS WEIRD. SHE SHOULD KNOW YOU CARE BY THE LITTLE THINGS BUT SHE SHOULDNT EXPECT THEM. HOWEVER, YOU MUST DO THE LITTLE THINGS TO SHOW YOU CARE SO SHE DOESNT START EXPECTING THEM. IF YOU CAN UNDERSTAND THAT.
KAYNE
Personally, I would rather have someone pick me flowers than buy me flowers. It is the thought, not the money that counts. Kayne is right, the poem and the little flower would make me melt in a second. That would mean more to me than 5 dozen long stem roses any day. Anyone can swipe a credit card, it takes effort and thought to do something like that.
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KAYNE
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Kali said:
THERE YOU HAVE IT BITEME, STRAIGHT OUT OF THE LADIES MOUTH. LITTLE THINGS FROM THE HEART MEAN A WHOLE LOT MORE THAN EXPENSIVE GIFTS. THEY ARE GENUINE. MOST MONEY BOUGHT GIFTS ARENT.
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Puddles
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I buy fresh flowers often when I'm at the supermarket, but my daughter goes outside and picks flowering weeds for me and those are more beautiful than anything I could purchase.
When a guy does something unexpected, like a little note or flowers, it's just showing that he was thinking of the girl and wanted her to know that. It's certainly not a money thing that the girl appreciates...it's the fact that she was being thought of in a caring way when she wasn't even around.
When a guy does something unexpected, like a little note or flowers, it's just showing that he was thinking of the girl and wanted her to know that. It's certainly not a money thing that the girl appreciates...it's the fact that she was being thought of in a caring way when she wasn't even around.
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DUSTY
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I GUESS IT'S BECAUSE IT'S THE TRADITIONAL THING TO DO OVER EONS OF TIME.
About the whole card thing that was mentioned earlier... It was just my best friends birthday and instead of buying her a card, I made her one on my computer that consisted of pictures of us together and a little saying. It was very obvious it was home made. At the end of the night, all the other cards got trashed along with the wrapping paper, my card is sitting up in her room and made her cry when she got it. I seriously spent 2 cents and 10 min. on something that made her so happy she cried. That kind of stuff means more to women than you could ever imagine.
notoriousQQ
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Kali said:
Being unique, creative and original will be remembered and much more sentimental than generic. I think the point is, however you choose to express yourself or your feelings about someone, it's a good thing. You don't do it out of hopes for reciprocity or because it is expected, you do it because you want to share that inner special part of yourself with someone else.
Testosterone boy
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I just love these commercials where you show the wife you care by buying her a Lexus or a $30,000 diamond necklace. No materialism there. I wonder how many successsful women by their husband a Lexus or a $30,000 watch?
This is why equal rights is a failure and partially why I am going to leave this country. Women are having their cakes, they are eating it too....and they get 1/2 your worth if they say they are unhappy.
Excuse me but getting raped is partially due to bad judgement by the victims. I pride myself on decent judgement.
This is why equal rights is a failure and partially why I am going to leave this country. Women are having their cakes, they are eating it too....and they get 1/2 your worth if they say they are unhappy.
Excuse me but getting raped is partially due to bad judgement by the victims. I pride myself on decent judgement.
Testosterone boy
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Kali said:
biteme said:O.k. Thanks everyone, and it must be true what they say about me, I'm a cheap bastard. But I don't mind picking flowers and writing poems and drawing(although I can barely draw a stickman).
I recant on this statement. I'm not cheap. That's just others opinions and your welcome to them. I choose to look at things differently. I have given money to children in stores because they looked poor. I use to always put my change in the Starving Children jar at Wyatt's Cafeteria. Maybe I'm just not romantic. I have always been careful with money, I don't want people spending money on me for shit that I don't need to make me feel special. Give me time instead. Take the money that you would spend on me for a fucking flower or gift and give it to the poor. And when you are in debt, every 10 dollars you spend is really more like 100 if you are in credit card debt. The poor have to pay more for the same product. That's wonderful.
Serenity Head
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Well, for me flower picking is a big deal. I have been with my fiance for 5 years this april and she absolutely loves roses. When I pick out her roses I go through every fickin one to make sure I have the best in the store. She has saved every rose I have given her and her room is filled with the memories we have had together. Most of them have poems, stories or simple I love you's that we periodically go through and remember our times together. I hope to buy a huge glass door cabinet when we are married to display all of her beautiful roses. I didn't do it because I had to, but because I felt like she deserved something special. Everytime I picked out her flowers and wrote her cards I got tinggles thinking about the reaction it would give her. I get as much out of it as she does. But I too agree that it is not the value that makes a difference.
circusgirl
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Testosterone boy said:
If I had the money I'd buy him the watch. The Lexus would be wasted as he doesn't have a driver's licence (grew up in a city with extensive underground railway). Shit, one of the nice things if you have a lot of money is being able to buy nice pressies for people, isn't it? This year I have a proper job instead of being a phd student so I ahve bought my family nicer stuf than I was able to before, feels good!
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Frackal
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Testosterone boy said:
just dont get married broly
Testosterone boy
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Frackal said:
We are programmed to pass on our genes. I'm still interested in that perhaps but no way and no how to this particular culture we got right here. If I wanted to get fucked in the ass, I'd be gay broly.
Testosterone boy
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superdave said:
I am interested in doing that. My thread about developing economies has that very much in mind.
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polarpixie
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Wherever did you get the idea that women expect men to buy them flowers? I know you couldn't have gotten that idea from too many women because most of us do not 'expect' it. I know I don't. But like most everyone else said, it's the little unexpected gifts that mean the most. I would take a cute little card over a bouquet of long-stemmed roses any day of the year. By the way, it also makes me really happy to be the one giving little gifts to someone I care about too.biteme said:
Testosterone boy
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joncrane said:
Future history classes covering latter day America should use this as the name of the course.
The Dude
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biteme said:
Why? Because of guys like me who love to give flowers and watch them gush over them and melt into me. But, hey, if you don't want her to feel...that's the key word with women my friend...like she's something special, something incredible to you, then you can just keep striking out. Flowers, by the way, are just ONE small but effective way you can do that. Know how to make each one feel....
Re: Re: Why do women expect you to buy them flowers?
I have scored many times with the flower trick. It's a lot cheaper than paying a whore, sometimes not a lot different though.
The Dude said:
Why? Because of guys like me who love to give flowers and watch them gush over them and melt into me. But, hey, if you don't want her to feel...that's the key word with women my friend...like she's something special, something incredible to you, then you can just keep striking out. Flowers, by the way, are just ONE small but effective way you can do that. Know how to make each one feel....
I have scored many times with the flower trick. It's a lot cheaper than paying a whore, sometimes not a lot different though.
Testosterone boy
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Re: Re: Re: Why do women expect you to buy them flowers?
Hey I thought we were discussing romance?
If you just want to score the best thing to do is show them your sausage. This is also free. I have never failed to have sex with a woman after I showed my sausage.
biteme said:
Hey I thought we were discussing romance?
If you just want to score the best thing to do is show them your sausage. This is also free. I have never failed to have sex with a woman after I showed my sausage.
exotic_island_girl
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I dont need flowers... I want chocolate lol Just Kidding.
I dont need any gifts for my hunnie to show m that he loves me and care about me. Him saying I love you most of the time and hanging out with me is way enough. Is the little things that matter most ( hugs, calls, asking "how are you?" etc) but yet if he insist on buying me gifts then I can't stop him.
I dont need any gifts for my hunnie to show m that he loves me and care about me. Him saying I love you most of the time and hanging out with me is way enough. Is the little things that matter most ( hugs, calls, asking "how are you?" etc) but yet if he insist on buying me gifts then I can't stop him.
JayC9
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because....
when a guy first meets a woman he likes, he goes through all the cliches, flowers, chocolates, presents, love notes, poems anything just to get into her pants, after which they become unnecessary
it's the little cloud of pleasantness we use to disguise the true nature of man which does not include sending flowers and writing love poems to his spouse so in fact us guys only have ourselves to blame for setting the president
when a guy first meets a woman he likes, he goes through all the cliches, flowers, chocolates, presents, love notes, poems anything just to get into her pants, after which they become unnecessary
it's the little cloud of pleasantness we use to disguise the true nature of man which does not include sending flowers and writing love poems to his spouse so in fact us guys only have ourselves to blame for setting the president
exotic_island_girl
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JayC9 said:
but yet still fails.. lol.
Saintinistic
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If you cant afford them, get em from a cemetery. the dead dont care.
Cuz they're purrty. 
biteme said:
The poor are poor for a reason. Give them money and they'll find a way to misuse it to ensure their status. Granted I think everyone deserves a chance, but I think the rich should be further rewarded because 99.999% of them worked hard to get there.
Flowers will get you some. Well they have helped me many times in the past. I like sending them where they work. They dig that shit. Trust me. I have had woman jump me after they get off work on days I buy them flowers. Sometimes I buy a few doz of the very expensive ones. Not sure what it is but it works for me. I like to buy things for people anyway. Many woman will keep the flowers forever also. 
biteme said:
Well, yeah when you talk about children it's different.
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