why do wimminez want props for squeezing out kids?

[Bikini Mod]

Okay question...

for the parents..

When people come up to you random people and compliment your kids dont you feel a sense of pride?

when i was growing up random ppl in the neighbourhood would compliment my parents im sure it made them feel great.

I feel something stronger than pride, for me it is humbling that I could have been so fortunate to be blessed with a child that is bringing happiness and something positive into the world.

You see, the way I look at it the child is a gift given you so that YOU can learn and grow from the difficulties of parenting. Ultimately that child will grow up and make their own decisions. They will be responsible for themselves. A parent can only try their best. If a parent is effective than BOTH the child and parent will benefit. I know for a FACT that my children have given me and taught me far more than I never even realized that I didn't know. In this regard I am very lucky and feel myself humbled and gratefull.

I was once complimented all the time and now it kills me that I know it is no longer true, or that is only comes in very small doses as my children have NO ONE to guide them so they are making very bad choices for themselves. It breaks my heart not because of my suffering. It was MY CHOICE to become a parent and I dont NEED to be complimented. It kills me because I KNOW that my girls are suffering and miserable.

 

[Faizakafez]

I think i was just an awesome kid

 

[Bikini Mod]

yep, same here minus the south part. I would want respect from my children

Then you must conduct yourself in a way that you would earn it. How hard is that?

 

[KillahBee]

i have to say something on this...if your southern upbringing was so special and better than those elsewhere, how come you are having a child w/ no dad? that doesn't sound like the southern morals and traditions that you speak of

lol at her trying to make herself seem superior to everyone else. once again, it's a GIVEN that you should respect your elders and parents. you shouldn't feel special cause you do.

 

[Longhorn85]

I believe that Sidney Pottier addressed this issue best in the old black and white "Look Who's Coming to Dinner".

"I owe you NOTHING because you were only doing what you were SUPPOSED to do, but YOU OWE ME EVERYTHING!"

Great movie and great scene. I remember it too B'mom, but it was in technicolor:

http://www.thegoldenyears.org/guesswho.html

 

[Bikini Mod]

i have to say something on this...if your southern upbringing was so special and better than those elsewhere, how come you are having a child w/ no dad? that doesn't sound like the southern morals and traditions that you speak of

One of the greatest life lessons = LIFE HAPPENS.

We are not defined by our circumstances alone, but rather, by how WE CHOOSE to react to them.

How many children are brought into this world via the old *oops*? Does that make them any less human? I believe that whether that child is an *accident* or a *surprize* is strictly up to the parent(s).

My little sister wasn't planned on or even wanted and my parents were waaaaaaay married. So now, do you think that it was right how SHE was raised?.... I spent nearly 20 years of my life trying to make up to my sister how cruelly we treated her because of my parents' cues... ironically it was my little sister that has had my back (to her own detriment) since I kicked my abusive ass ex to the curb. I would be DEAD - no questions asked - and my children would NEVER have a shot at life if my mother had been successfull in her attempts to abort her.


..... so you were saying?

I owe my life and my children owe their lives and everyone whose life I have touched owe it to my sister.... "the mistake".

SHE is my greatest gift.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Great movie and great scene. I remember it too B'mom, but it was in technicolor:

http://www.thegoldenyears.org/guesswho.html

I get chills every single time I even think about it. The scene was THAT powerful.

I think it should be mandatory for everyone who is even thinking about becoming a parent to watch that film.

 

[Bikini Mod]

lol at her trying to make herself seem superior to everyone else. once again, it's a GIVEN that you should respect your elders and parents. you shouldn't feel special cause you do.

Self-respect above all....

What about children? Why is it that NO ONE ever mentions that adults should respect children?

 

[Gambino]

One of the greatest life lessons = LIFE HAPPENS.

We are not defined by our circumstances alone, but rather, by how WE CHOOSE to react to them.

How many children are brought into this world via the old *oops*? Does that make them any less human? I believe that whether that child is an *accident* or a *surprize* is strictly up to the parent(s).

My little sister wasn't planned on or even wanted and my parents were waaaaaaay married. So now, do you think that it was right how SHE was raised?.... I spent nearly 20 years of my life trying to make up to my sister how cruelly we treated her because of my parents' cues... ironically it was my little sister that has had my back (to her own detriment) since I kicked my abusive ass ex to the curb. I would be DEAD - no questions asked - and my children would NEVER have a shot at life if my mother had been successfull in her attempts to abort her.


..... so you were saying?

I owe my life and my children owe their lives and everyone whose life I have touched owe it to my sister.... "the mistake".

SHE is my greatest gift.

all i'm claiming is that if you claim southern morals and traditions you should live it.
doesn't make sense to claim to live a certain type of lifestyle that you don't really live

 

[blueta2]

the whole term "good parent" is wack and misleading
just because you raise a child does not make you good or special, it is the least you can possibly do, it's your fucking kid.
it's like claiming I'm a good dog owner, i feed my dog everyday!!@#yaya!#!@#!

I see your point and true, but it's a tough job for anyone so I think parents should be proud.
It's like ppl who want props for having a good job like a DR, they worked hard and they deserve some kudos.

By the way, I know many shitty parents of kids and animals ;-)