Why do certain people think they are always deserving of what they want?

[KillahBee]

it's not, KB just likes to try to discount all that I say. He is like 23 and has not lived a life long enough to understand your question.

It's not about being insecure. Feeling deserving is a survival instinct. We all want more, better, faster etc.
I don't think we feel we deserve as much as we feel we want to "have better"
If this rational was not in place, better cars, housing, meds etc would have never evolved.

Good point, I guess making 12 extra years of really shitty decisions makes you intelligent and wise. Cause it's not like you've come on here and blamed everything and everyone else for your poor, poor, woeful mishaps like every other dime a dozen sheltered self loathing woman. Nah, you've been a mature and emotionally intelligent adult who admits to being a poor decision maker and being very insecure, thus leading you into relationships with low value people. Right? Right?


Yeah, that's what I thought. NEXT!

 

[redsamurai]

entitelment is all relative though. People in tribes have feelings of entitlement for a better house, food etc.

wanting that stuff and working towards it is different. Expecting the world to revolve around you because you stepped through a few hoops that somebody told you would lead to all those things...........is entirely different. When they realize that life doesn't roll that way..........alot of times they become bitter assholes that take their frustrations out on their friends. Or they become ultra competitive assholes that can't stand it when something good befalls one of their friends............like a good relationship or something along those lines..........they become "begrudgers" in a sense. I've dealt with this twice with very very good friends..........and now a third one is heading down the same line, I'm done with it.

 

[blueta2]

Good point, I guess making 12 extra years of really shitty decisions makes you intelligent and wise. Cause it's not like you've come on here and blamed everything and everyone else for your poor, poor, woeful mishaps like every other dime a dozen sheltered self loathing woman. Nah, you've been a mature and emotionally intelligent adult who admits to being a poor decision maker and being very insecure, thus leading you into relationships with low value people. Right? Right?


Yeah, that's what I thought. NEXT!

you're youth is so obvious in your replies. You are always on attack mode. Why not just chill out for a bit and maybe you will get a nice g/f. Chicks hate mean nasty guys!

I have never nor will ever blame anyone for my mistakes.I have MANY MANY friends and this was a small abd friends that I had and they were all childhood friends. My friendships I made in my adult life are not the same.
You're still a child and trust me, when you're 40, come to me and tell me how many good decisions you made. It's called life Pedro, you live u learn. This is what builds character, something you lack.

 

[blueta2]

wanting that stuff and working towards it is different. Expecting the world to revolve around you because you stepped through a few hoops that somebody told you would lead to all those things...........is entirely different. When they realize that life doesn't roll that way..........alot of times they become bitter assholes that take their frustrations out on their friends. Or they become ultra competitive assholes that can't stand it when something good befalls one of their friends............like a good relationship or something along those lines..........they become "begrudgers" in a sense. I've dealt with this twice with very very good friends..........and now a third one is heading down the same line, I'm done with it.

well you're being more specific and I'm being more general with my answer.
I just think our survival instincts are formatted to make us do better. Are we deserving? of course, all humans deserve what they want.
If someone wins the lottery and they didn't work for it, do they not deserve it? Don't we all feel we deserve to win the lottery?

 

[redsamurai]

Don't we all feel we deserve to win the lottery?

I wouldn't use the word "deserve"...........more like "fortunate". I don't feel entitled to win the lottery...........if it happens that's nice, obviously. But do I begrudge the world if I don't win the lottery? Obviously not. I know guys that begrudge the world because they didn't get the job they thought they were going to get when they got out of college. Or, and I'm being serious now, I know guys that were besides themselves that women didn't throw themselves at them after they graduated college and got some low end jobs in their proffession. So that's what i'm saying. Wanting nicer things in life is fine.........wanting to find love and happiness is fine too, noble in fact. But to feel "entitled" to any of it is fallacy...........because you're not looking at the world around you and how miserable everyone is and how "nobody" is finding those things that we were told how to look for growing up.

 

[Spartacus]

young attractive females

 

[Spartacus]

turns rough 30ish

 

[the_clockwork]

I deserve what ever I want.. If I can provide it you bet your ass I deserve it

 

[Spartacus]

when the formulae don't work no mo

 

[Smurfy]

Give your opinions.

needy. entitled.