why are people against marriage?

[saint808]

well if you truly love someone....whats the problem then?

if you truly love someone then i am all for marraige... and btw... it's not the guy that is always afraid of commitment... i know my avatar is reversed... but it's how i feel.

 

[deltreefitness]

Well, to a certain extent you're correct -- provided that both parties are satisfied with that arrangement & feel just as committed to each other - piece of paper or not....

However, being married by a priest/judge (to a lot of people) means more of an investment to the relationship as you can't just pack your suitcase & walk out. Usually in a true marriage -- house, car, bank statements, etc are in both names & usually take more to get out of. Just being "committed" usually involves more of a degree of separation -- separate accounts, etc etc....

But to each his/her own & as long as both parties are on the same page, then that's really all that matters....

So bascially it's more hassle to break-up if you're married when the union gets weak?

 

[from zero]

lol @ the women illogically saying "fear of commitment" without backing down.

Shut up.

 

[Sub-Zero]

marriage=excuse to get fat and sex to stop

we like our weiners oto much

 

[Scotsman]

lol @ the women illogically saying "fear of commitment" without backing down.

Shut up.

Damn, FZ up in da house.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[jenscats5]

So bascially it's more hassle to break-up if you're married when the union gets weak?

Well, I think some people view it as more of a committment than just living together with separate accounts, etc....

 

[HiDnGoD]

Re: American women are lazy, selfish bitches - that's why

Many men are not happy in their marriages because they can't make enough money to provide the type of lifestyle that American women think they are due just for being born.
American women have an unrealistic expectation of a life of unproductiveness after getting married. This stems from a feeling of entitlement that most of these selfish bitches have.
The man is expected to automate every process around the house so that the woman has no responsibilities and can sit around and vegetate in front of the idiot tube all day and watch Dr. Phil. This can be accomplished by hired help or the husband doing all the work around the house.
If the man can't provide this, expect to get cut off from sex and to have a contentious, bitch of a wife that constantly barks orders and antagonizes with relentlessness.
Men hold off on getting married because after they get hitched, the woman has no need to be nice and care about her husbands needs/wants. He is just a financier that makes it possible for her to have kids and float the lifestyle so she can be unproductive, while making it all socially acceptable at the same time.
How many married guys talk about the dating days with their wife as "the good ol days" and that it has sucked ever since they got married? There is a reason why. Most men I know stay in the relationship because of the kids and the kids are their reason for living - because they love them so much.

Holy shit, what happened to you?
I've known a lot of couples in my years, & I can only think of 1 where the wife was like that. Most of the couples I know, in all honesty, the women put more into the relatinship than the men. The women work a 40 hr week & then do most, if not all, of the house work.
I calls em like I sees em.
In my opinion a marriage is like a team. It's like me & her against the world. She is the ONE person I can count on. And I am the only person she can count on. I honestly think that a lot of people get divorced today, because they are too friggin selfish. Ruling out Alcoholics, druggies, & abusers, people are too quick to say "You got more than me!"
They fight about who had to do the dishes, who had to feed the dog, who had to drive the kids somewhere.
The marriage ceremony is a celebration. It's saying to all your friends & relatives, "Hey! I found the One!" It's stating to all the assembled that YOU are willing to do whatever it takes to make this team work. & really, if you love her, is it so much to ask, that you admit that love in front of hundreds. Or are you hedging your bets. "I love her, (but I'm waiting for someone better)."
I got married at 20. Not one of my friends from that era even knows where I am. I can't wait 'til my kid leaves, because then we can be alone together again.

 

[awittyusername]

LMAO @ the Girls saying "scared to commit"!!!!!

I heard this shit my whole life. These same insecure bitches still call me and complain to me about their SECOND husband. But, they don't want to leave him until they have something else lined up.

All my male friends that got married young....Were just afraid the pussy was going to leave them. Plain and simple. (Btw they are all divorced now)

 

[SoKlueles]

Re: American women are lazy, selfish bitches - that's why

Holy shit, what happened to you?
I've known a lot of couples in my years, & I can only think of 1 where the wife was like that. Most of the couples I know, in all honesty, the women put more into the relatinship than the men. The women work a 40 hr week & then do most, if not all, of the house work.
I calls em like I sees em.
In my opinion a marriage is like a team. It's like me & her against the world. She is the ONE person I can count on. And I am the only person she can count on. I honestly think that a lot of people get divorced today, because they are too friggin selfish. Ruling out Alcoholics, druggies, & abusers, people are too quick to say "You got more than me!"
They fight about who had to do the dishes, who had to feed the dog, who had to drive the kids somewhere.
The marriage ceremony is a celebration. It's saying to all your friends & relatives, "Hey! I found the One!" It's stating to all the assembled that YOU are willing to do whatever it takes to make this team work. & really, if you love her, is it so much to ask, that you admit that love in front of hundreds. Or are you hedging your bets. "I love her, (but I'm waiting for someone better)."
I got married at 20. Not one of my friends from that era even knows where I am. I can't wait 'til my kid leaves, because then we can be alone together again.

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
if this wasnt so long id put that in my sig

 

[tiger88]

cuz asking for premission sucks... why should i have to ask "honey is this ok if i want to buy a new car or go to greece?" umm no F that...