Who would date a chick with a kid?

[-SD-]

I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!

Simple, understandable, and justifiable. My sentiments exactly.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!

You will get ZERO arguement here.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

I have a 2 1/2 year old. I'll leave it at that.

Are you asking me out?

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Wow...90 replies and about 2 answers...lol.

 

[Temple]

I can't believe I read this WHOLE thread...
I'm not going to tell you that my body was not changed by childbirth because it was and at some point I will have my boobs put back where they used to be, my belly has stretch marks and I asked my husband about my pussy and he reminded me that I had a c-section so that hadn't changed other than right after I had our daughter. The hormones and a body preparing to give birth "loosens" things up - no way around it, that is how nature made us but it returns to close to it's prepreg state and a little effort will make it "tight" again.

I had a six year old son when I met my husband and I am sure he was NOT shopping for a woman with a child so never say NEVER guys. I will tell you that if you are looking for a LONG term relationship the "pussy" or the "dick" will at some point have very little to do with whether or not it lasts. Furthermore, if you are going to measure the substance of a woman by the tightness of her pussy do not be surprised when she measures the substance of you by the size of your dick or lack thereof. I don't have the energy to search but I would bet that if I did some of you are the same ones who are always on here carrying on about how you always end up with "crazy bitches"...I wonder why????

I also hear women say "my children come FIRST" often and in a dating situation I tend to agree but it happens in marriages as well. I had an epiphany last week when I was away from my child for several days with my husband, something we try to do a few times a year and was taking some heat from my family for not putting my daughter "first" when she became a bit homesick. My response to it was this:
"NO, I do not put my child first. I put my marriage first. Maybe that makes me a bad mother but I don't thinks so as the person who benefits the most from this is our daughter. She lives in a home where her parents love each other and I mean REALLY love each other. She does not experience the stress that many children do because mom and dad are either scrapping it out all the time or are totally apathetic toward each other. She doesn't lie awake at night wonder when or hoping that her parents will divorce. If she needs us we will both put her FIRST together but day in and day out we put each other first and our child a very close second.

For those of you who are in it for the "pussy" the don't even try to understand the above concept as it is WAY over your heads.

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Temple,

Thanks for your response. For what it's worth, my original post had little to do with the physical side of things in this type of a dating situation. It was more to see who felt they could handle the emotional side that would come with dating a mother of another mans child.

 

[vinylgroover]

Stan,

You need to be frank with her and her with you regarding the past. In my situation, the girl i am trying to get close to has two children to the man who ran out on her. She told me recently that he is trying to get back into her life, constantly calling her and telling her that he misses her, all while he is married to another woman. She doesn't want a bar of him, but he persists. It's unsettling me, because i think i can handle her situation, but i don't hink i can handle him wanting her back in hs life.

 

[Temple]

Stan,
I can't speak from the perspective of a man but I can tell you what I have observed in the 14 years that my husband has stepparented my son. IT IS TOUGH!!!!and there is no way around it. You will love the child and the child will love you but you will never be their father. The good far outweighs the bad but it is not the same as raising a biological or adopted child as long as the biological father is a part of the child's life - but that is as it should be. If you are not willing to tackle this then you should not date women with children. From what I have seen of many of the responses on this thread there are many who I hope to hell never date a woman with a child as the attitudes displayed here make it pretty clear what the child in the situation would be in for.

 

[MP5]

Bikinidude, you proved that you are no match for my intelligence when you had to delete my thread to make yourself feel "respectable".

You are pathetic, your husband is better off.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I also hear women say "my children come FIRST" often and in a dating situation I tend to agree but it happens in marriages as well. I had an epiphany last week when I was away from my child for several days with my husband, something we try to do a few times a year and was taking some heat from my family for not putting my daughter "first" when she became a bit homesick. My response to it was this:
"NO, I do not put my child first. I put my marriage first. Maybe that makes me a bad mother but I don't thinks so as the person who benefits the most from this is our daughter. She lives in a home where her parents love each other and I mean REALLY love each other. She does not experience the stress that many children do because mom and dad are either scrapping it out all the time or are totally apathetic toward each other. She doesn't lie awake at night wonder when or hoping that her parents will divorce. If she needs us we will both put her FIRST together but day in and day out we put each other first and our child a very close second.
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Maybe that is why I am TRYING to get divorced. I would've gladly put my marriage first... but he was too busy putting himself first. It was then... as it is clearly now.

You're a smart lady - T! Maybe that's why I wuv u tho much!