Who would date a chick with a kid?

[Bikini Mod]

Bikinidude, you proved that you are no match for my intelligence when you had to delete my thread to make yourself feel "respectable".

You are pathetic, your husband is better off.

...which thread was this?

Also, though I feel quite honored and special that you ignored all the other people who directed comments SPECIFICALLY AT YOU and replied only to me... Makes me wonder about your "superior intellect".

 

[Temple]

Maybe that is why I am TRYING to get divorced. I would've gladly put my marriage first... but he was too busy putting himself first. It was then... as it is clearly now.

You're a smart lady - T! Maybe that's why I wuv u tho much!

One person cannot make a marriage work by themself. The reason that it was such a revelation to me was that for years I have said "My children come first" and last week it hit me like a ton of bricks...no, they don't. The more I thought about it the more it occured to me what the lineup of priorities are in our home and why it works so well. The way things are evolve over time, when she was an infant she slept in our bed - like until she was almost three but it was something that we decided together and were both comfortable with. Now that she is 8, when my bedroom door is shut at night the house had better be on fire or she had better be dying if she knocks on it and she knows this.

Anyway, all of that is a little off track from the original point of the thread other than to say if you are a single mom who wants a relationship and you want it to work at some point the focus will have to shift from child first to marriage first. Children benefit as much from a solid marriage even if one parent is not biological. If you are going to date and possible have a long term relationship with a single mother then you need to realize that there will be issues that will make how tight she is or isn't seem laughable. At some point you will be in the middle of incredible sex and there will be a little person banging on your bedroom door(this happens when it is your child as well). You will have to be able to look at the child and see the child, not the child's father. You will have to walk the tightrope of appropriate discipline and trust me, you will never be able to discipline a stepchild the same way you do your own. It takes a lot of maturity to do it well. My husband seems to think that I was worth it - I'm not sure that I agree with him.

 

[Temple]

...which thread was this?

Also, though I feel quite honored and special that you ignored all the other people who directed comments SPECIFICALLY AT YOU and replied only to me... Makes me wonder about your "superior intellect".

Hey Bikinkidude bwahahahahahahah
I am kind of hurt that he doesn't want to talk about this with me...

 

[-SD-]

Wrong again....

Do you honestly believe that I am enjoying ANY of this?

Come on now, think.

Why is it that at any given time you can log on and see AT LEAST three threads by guys talking about evil whores that are fucked up in head and who play games and hurt them.... but you hardly EVER see the reverse?

What is with the running B.I.T.C.H.E.S. joke on elite? (Which I think is humorous myself - only pointing out the double standard.) Why is it that it is ok for a guy to put up a thread ,"That ho fucked me over..." or something to that effect and he will get like thousands of replies about how ALL WOMEN are trash.... yadda, yadda... BUT GOD FORBID a female stand up for herself - OR WORSE YET - she put down "A MAN" and she is instantly cut down?

Please just explain it to me....

Do you not find it odd that MOST WOMEN will not be vocal about such things? Why? BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE SHIT TALK... So they just shake thier heads and scroll on.

Because I happen to be a FEMALE MOD, when I can and when I feel up to the verbal shitstorm THAT I KNOW WILL FOLLOW I do just that! Stand up and say something for women....

Call me crazy, it is just how I feel.

Like I said before, if I have helped just one other woman then it will have been worth all the verbal abuse. Besides, it isn't like it hurts... for God's sake I do consider the source.

BUT - what a lot of these little mental giants who spew hatred towards women in a pathetic attempt at humor do NOT realize is that the pen is mightier than the sword. Isn't there enough hate and degradation directed at women already?... It needs to be perpetuated here too?

And before anyone can say that I do not at least TRY and see both sides of the coin... anyone who has been around long enough KNOWS FOR A FACT that I AM HARSHEST ON FEMALES THAT MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!

Ive been on elite a long time, and I think what some people are trying to say is you go off on tirades and we can basically feel your anger reaching out and grabbing us through the screen all the time. I understanding venting every once in a while but at this point it's every other thread you post on and its the same old tired rhetoric. I think most people including me respect your ideas and how you feel, it's just the way that you are delivering it that grates on peoples nerves. Flame if you feel the need, Im just trying to convey all this in the most diplomatic way possible.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I feel you to some extent... but I don't think that you statement is quite fair.

(No offense to Frackal... you know I love you! ) but I don't remember anyone ever saying this to Frackal and his "hate of evil women"....

We all vent about stuff at some point in time... unfortunately, it seems that I am frozen in this hellish moment. Has it gotten old? BEYOND OLD.... about as old as MP5 trying to flex his mental strength by saying shit that he KNOWS couldn't be further from the truth..... NOW THAT IS OLD.

Truthfully, I am was tired of it all lllllllloooooooonnnnnng before any of you.

Hopefully with all of the recent changes it will all soon come to an end.

Yes, whatever energy you send out will be returned to you threefold. Myabe it is a good thing that I used these boards to vent and expended my negative energy THAT WAY... in a constructive fashion. Rather than having all this negativity fester inside and thus have it dictate my actions in life.

PS - I have yet to flame someone who didn't BEG for it...

Where I did go off because I was having a mental lapse... it took me all of a like a microminute to apologize.

And T - again, maybe MP5 is scared of ya 'cause ya' are s'smart! tee-hee