cindylou,
for some members, it is NEVER going to be an issue because it's just not in their nature to WANT to stir up trouble. That's what a "time out" is really for.
I have seen members break a rule and when it was brought to their attention, they said, "oh, i'm sorry, i didn't realize." okay, cool. no problem.
other members would say, "why??!!? that's bullshit!" and continue to do it.
so, as you said, You're not a child, and therefore, you don't act like one. i wish all the members were like that though.