Who here has experience with a relationship of around 10 years age difference?

[-SD-]

Please tell us about your experiences of dating someone that is either around 10 years older or younger. I would like to know how it turned out, your ages, and what you feel are the biggest obstacles. Also would like to know about anyone you know that is in similar relationships and how they are doing.

 

[DepressiveJuice]

dont you mean 10 years or older? my girl and i have a five year gap between us. obstacles? we've only been together a little over a year so no obstacles yet

 

[Tarheel]

He means, 10 older than you or 10 younger.

I would think the biggest problem would be one would talk about how cool it was to go see Guns N Roses and the other talking about how cool it was to see NSYNC.

 

[sk*]

My gf is 15years older than me.

I have to admit, as time goes by there are more problems. I'm only 20 and she has 2kids, so there are some differences. At the end of the day, I love her, so I try to be forgiving if there are any problems.

-sk

 

[hardrock]

I was involved with someone 9+ yrs younger than me. It was fine at first. I am late 20's, she's late teens. After a while age diff becomes apparant. Reminded alot of how stupid I was at that age. Immature too. Now if it were the other way around, me at the same age I am and the woman in late 30's I think it would work.

 

[davepalumbo]

my ex was 10 yrs older than me. it ended because she was ready to get married and i wasn't.

 

[Pamela]

I believe there is a difference.
It depends on which is older.


You may like some kind of music and she may think it to
old. And vice versa.

Amoung other things..

 

[plornive]

I was 24, she was 16. Lasted about two weeks. That's not that huge, but a pretty big difference (8 years). I was in it for the sex, she was in it for the experimentation. It was pretty boring to talk to her, although her immaturity was refreshing at times. Sex was pretty awesome.

By the way it was not illegal.

Overall I don't see anything wrong with it. It's always good to avoid deceiving or really hurting someone, because it could come back to haunt you. The girl I was with had a good time.

 

[PolishHammer1977]

I dated a 42 year old woman when I was 22. It has it's obvious obstacles but if two people are content with the happiness of the moment anything can be worked out.

It didn'y work out for reasons beyond my control.

 

[The Terminator]

I was involved with someone 9+ yrs younger than me. It was fine at first. I am late 20's, she's late teens. After a while age diff becomes apparant. Reminded alot of how stupid I was at that age. Immature too.

I have the same problem right now (almost to a tee), and it won't work out for me either...Though I am still sticking around for the companionship at this point...(I don't like being alone, lol...)

The zest for life they have is invigorating, but the immaturity in the wrong setting can become rather embarrassing...

 

[Pamela]

Nav

You play the guitar?

She's 8 years younger.. That's a good difference!

 

[Buffy Beffy]

I've never experienced this, but I have been around several situations of this sort with close friends throughout my life. I think it depends on the age you are. The older you get, the less the age difference matters, but for the most part, there are many obstacles hindering these relationships. One being the expectations and direction for the relationship is rarely in line with each other.

 

[Pamela]

Yeah, i'm a ...hate using that word...a musician. hehe.

-= nav =-

What kind of amp do you use?

 

[Russian KGB]

They say there is a 6 year maturity gap between a man and a woman, so it's highly recommended for women to keep that in mind when getting involved with a younger man.
However it also depends on each individual, some people mature faster than others (when others choose not to).
Personally I wouldn't even consider a date with anyone at least 5 years older than me, but hey, it's just me... and seems like that figure goes up every year.
Younger guys don't want to get too serious, older are the opposite. Don't you ever get yourself in sitiation when everything is great, but sex is awful or the opposite?
Don't you have to have some sort of balance?

 

[onerepmaximum]

I dated a girl that is 12 years older than me. I was 26 when we met and 29 when we broke up. Age is only a number, if you love somebody, you love them. We did have some different perspectives on things though. Sex was great. Women at that age want to get it on. Which was cool with me. One thing to keep in mind is that 12 years seems to be a lot bigger the older you get. Like and a 26 and a 38 year old doesn't seem as big of a difference as say a 48 and a 60 year old.

 

[FreakMonster]

I'm 27 and my GF is 40 and we get along great. We have been together a year and 1/2. The age difference bothers her from time to time and she sometimes worries I'll dump her for a younger woman but other than that if you have common interests then age really doesn't matter.

 

[The_Ghost]

I was 35 she was 24, age was never a problem with us. She was mature for her age and I like to live young. The fact that it didn't work out was not due to the age difference, more that I wanted someone who on their way to achieving their career goals and she wasn't there yet and wasn't ready to head down that road, we agreed to part ways, we are still good friends.

Current girl I am seeing is 10 years younger.

 

[Smurfy]

My boyfriend is 20, I'm 33. We started dating on his 19th birthday (LOL). I broke up with a 40 yr old man to be with him. Sounds weird. but for 20, he is much wiser than most 40 yr olds, but still a kid at heart. Life experiences or difference in life circumstances seems to be the biggest obstacle. I have been married, divorced and I have one child whereas, this is his first real relationship. so for that reason, things can and will be difficult. i remember how i was about relationships when i was 20 so i tend to be understanding. But we are on different tracks in life which is hard. And someone that young is not always sure how to deal with a girlfriend who has to put her child first. Most 20 yr olds dont have to think about those things so mostly i feel its unfair to him. But on the flip side, its not always fair that my man does not have a solid career and he doesnt live on his own but he is only 20.

 

[strangebrew]

My girlfriend is 27 and I'm 20, its great for the most part...shes not nearly as annoying as younger chicks. We have some minor conflicts but they arnt really age related.

 

[NoDaddyNo]

10 year olds are great.

I've dated someone over 10 years older than me and it was great. People around me like my family and friends didn't like it, but in the end it mainly didn't work out due to distance.

Once in their mid to late 30s, women have the sexual appetite that men in their 20s do anyway.

I see no problems with it.

The problem with the 10 year olds is that they can't drive and are awful at remembering phone numbers and stuff.

 

[FreakMonster]

My boyfriend is 20, I'm 33. We started dating on his 19th birthday (LOL). I broke up with a 40 yr old man to be with him. Sounds weird. but for 20, he is much wiser than most 40 yr olds, but still a kid at heart. Life experiences or difference in life circumstances seems to be the biggest obstacle. I have been married, divorced and I have one child whereas, this is his first real relationship. so for that reason, things can and will be difficult. i remember how i was about relationships when i was 20 so i tend to be understanding. But we are on different tracks in life which is hard. And someone that young is not always sure how to deal with a girlfriend who has to put her child first. Most 20 yr olds dont have to think about those things so mostly i feel its unfair to him. But on the flip side, its not always fair that my man does not have a solid career and he doesnt live on his own but he is only 20.

Dayum, Talk about robbing the cradle!!

 

[Smurfy]

Dayum, Talk about robbing the cradle!!

well, in a way, i agree LOL if any 33 year old woman told me she was dating a 20 yr old i wouldnt think much of her as a person. but i know myself, and i know my man. and he certainly doesnt look like a 20 yr old kid, which helps. he's 6'4 and 300 lbs. he competes in strongman. he looks mid twenties. i look mid to late twenties so we dont reallly look odd together LOL also, he doesnt act like a typical 20 yr old. if you met him and had a conversation with him you would never guess him for under 24. never. he tells me that all of his friends are jealous even though im not sure why they would be jealous. i have never ever dated a younger man this is a first. i normally would not give anyone under 30 the time of day, but this happened on a fluke LOL does any of this make sense?

 

[-SD-]

My boyfriend is 20, I'm 33. We started dating on his 19th birthday (LOL). I broke up with a 40 yr old man to be with him. Sounds weird. but for 20, he is much wiser than most 40 yr olds, but still a kid at heart. Life experiences or difference in life circumstances seems to be the biggest obstacle. I have been married, divorced and I have one child whereas, this is his first real relationship. so for that reason, things can and will be difficult. i remember how i was about relationships when i was 20 so i tend to be understanding. But we are on different tracks in life which is hard. And someone that young is not always sure how to deal with a girlfriend who has to put her child first. Most 20 yr olds dont have to think about those things so mostly i feel its unfair to him. But on the flip side, its not always fair that my man does not have a solid career and he doesnt live on his own but he is only 20.

All of these problems beg the question as to the real reason you two are together.

 

[westck]

My wife is 14 yrs younger than I am. We get along fantastic, have since we met and I think we always will. We've been married 6 yrs. The only obstacle we ever encountered, if you can call it that, are small minded people who just can't seem to get past the age difference, and there usally people whose lives are so boring they have nothing else to talk about anyway. I feel sorry for them.

 

[flexed1]

I am 41 Chris just turned 29. I was 35 Brandon was 21. Have never dated within 10 years as I think and act young ( not immature). It's what works for me. I find folks my age quite frankly boring.

 

[Dial_tone]

I'm in one right now.
Me = 39
her = 24

It's not serious now because it's long distance but I would like it to be more. To throw another wrench in the works it's an interracial thing too.