When is it to young...

[i am what i am]

to ask someone to marry you? My friend in class is 23 years old and is getting married this summer to his fiance once he graduates. I told him congragulations and then he asked me when I planned on asking my girlfriend to marry me. I'm like holy fuck. I'm only 21 years old. I don't plan on asking her till at least 24 when I graduate and then have like a 2 year engagement so it would be around 26.

Any opinions?

 

[awittyusername]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

 

[i am what i am]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

Very well said. This coming January would be 6 years. I figure to wait it out 4 more and just use common law marriage to avoid paying for the wedding and the ring.

 

[Raina]

My dad got married the first time when he was 25. So did I. It's funny because upon discussing it we discovered we both got married for a lot of the wrong reasons. I regret the hell out of it.

 

[SoKlueles]

my parents got married when he was 20 and she was 19
they are still married

 

[jafo]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

Ican not tell you how TRUE this statement is ..wait till you get to be at least 30

 

[i am what i am]

Its going to be hit or miss. If you really love someone and you are physically, mentally, and especially financially ready to start a life together, then I say go for it. I personally would like to have some financial comfort before jumping into anything like that.

 

[nycgirl]

to ask someone to marry you? My friend in class is 23 years old and is getting married this summer to his fiance once he graduates. I told him congragulations and then he asked me when I planned on asking my girlfriend to marry me. I'm like holy fuck. I'm only 21 years old. I don't plan on asking her till at least 24 when I graduate and then have like a 2 year engagement so it would be around 26.

Any opinions?

A better question:

How many people got married before they were 30 and are:

A) Divorced
B) Married but Miserable
C) Married, but looked into the other yard to see if the grass was greener


Awitty is right. Give yourself time to grow as a person. Explore. Have fun. She will either wait and grow with you or leave.

 

[artrius]

I *ALMOST* married one of my ex-girlfriends. Notice the keyword *EX*. Among other things that I've learned from the plethora of shitty relationships I've had, the predominant theme seems to be HOLD THE FUCK ON AND RELAX.

I may not be there yet, but on the same note, I'm sure there's life after 29. No reason to rush to what's best left in that age.

 

[i am what i am]

I *ALMOST* married one of my ex-girlfriends. Notice the keyword *EX*. Among other things that I've learned from the plethora of shitty relationships I've had, the predominant theme seems to be HOLD THE FUCK ON AND RELAX.

I may not be there yet, but on the same note, I'm sure there's life after 29. No reason to rush to what's best left in that age.

No rush at alll. Thats what Im saying. The kid almost knocked me off the chair at first.

Then I was talking to two other chicks in my class. When they asked me how long I was dating the gf, they immediately asked if i was going to marrry her. I hesitated and they ripped me apart saying that i wasted 5 years of my life blahblahblah. I was like, hold up, i love the girl and iwll eventually, but wtf. im to young right now. i should be worrying about lifting, going out with the guys, and drinking every now and then then worrying about getting married.

 

[artrius]

No rush at alll. Thats what Im saying. The kid almost knocked me off the chair at first.

Then I was talking to two other chicks in my class. When they asked me how long I was dating the gf, they immediately asked if i was going to marrry her. I hesitated and they ripped me apart saying that i wasted 5 years of my life blahblahblah. I was like, hold up, i love the girl and iwll eventually, but wtf. im to young right now. i should be worrying about lifting, going out with the guys, and drinking every now and then then worrying about getting married.

Good for you. At this age, you (and me as well) shouldn't even know what the "M" word means.

 

[foreigngirl]

me and my husband got married when we were 20. BUT, this mariage wouldnt have lasted this long (almost 8 years) if it wasnt for me sticking around and always being there for him. Cause as everyone said, "you dont have it all out of your system".

Sometimes people mature faster, but certainly not at 21

 

[mrplunkey]

Rule #1... never get married

Rule #2... if you think your situation is "special" then at least wait until you are 40

 

[NJjuice22]

almost everyone and I truly mean almost ( i would say 8 out of 10 offhand that I remember) that I know who married really early (23 and under) are now divorced or seperated.

 

[Recruit]

Mom was 17 and Dad 18. They've been married 36yrs. and still hold hands. However, if I got married at that age I would have been divorced a long time ago. Some people just mature faster than others.

 

[madbomber31]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

you could have stopped at:


IT SHOULD BE ILLEGAL TO MARRY

 

[chewyxrage]

At the very minimum I will wait until I'm 28. LOL @ common law marriage. not a bad idea.

 

[Austin316]

me and my husband got married when we were 20. BUT, this mariage wouldnt have lasted this long (almost 8 years) if it wasnt for me sticking around and always being there for him. Cause as everyone said, "you dont have it all out of your system".

Sometimes people mature faster, but certainly not at 21

im lost

 

[foreigngirl]

im lost

bottom line, 99% of the 21 yo people in present time are absolutely not ready for mariage and its responsibilites. Its not a game that is played, its not GF and BF living together thing....Me, for instance, I was more matured than my husband at that time. We were both 20. Thats what I ment by some people mature earlier

 

[Yarg!]

My dad got married the first time when he was 25. So did I. It's funny because upon discussing it we discovered we both got married for a lot of the wrong reasons. I regret the hell out of it.

youre regreting ur marriage?

 

[fivefold]

Hmm, I've personally seen it got both ways, but for the most part, no way are people ready at twenty-one. I love my girlfriend whom I live with, but we both admit we are not ready for marriage. Our plan is to wait 3 or 4 more years. I think that there is alot more to it than age though. Mot people just seem to co-exist. There is no foundation, it's just an illusion. Me and my girl went to see a therapist who gave us so much wisdom and insight. I can not stress enough how important it is to see a GOOD therapist if anything starts to go south and you really love the person. It works wonders....

 

[blueta2]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

I concure!

 

[neverenuf]

Very well said. This coming January would be 6 years. I figure to wait it out 4 more and just use common law marriage to avoid paying for the wedding and the ring.

bro, you have to end the lies of actually being with a girl...everyone is on to you, now knock it off....

lol...you and your life partner can get certain rites in certain states, just accept it and move on...















sorry, just had too!!!!!!! and no punching me later....

 

[Whiskey]

I think it's different for different people. Different levels of maturity. All I can say it pre-nuptial agreement.

I work with too many broke mofo's due to alimony

Whiskey

 

[feisty11975]

How about just don't get married. I got married at 18 and at 29 I was divorced. I grew up and he did not. Shit happens. hahaha

 

[GoldenDelicious]

No rush at alll. Thats what Im saying. The kid almost knocked me off the chair at first.

Then I was talking to two other chicks in my class. When they asked me how long I was dating the gf, they immediately asked if i was going to marrry her. I hesitated and they ripped me apart saying that i wasted 5 years of my life blahblahblah. I was like, hold up, i love the girl and iwll eventually, but wtf. im to young right now. i should be worrying about lifting, going out with the guys, and drinking every now and then then worrying about getting married.

you wouldnt have "wasted" the 5 years. it just would have been the price you paid to make sure you didnt waste the next 50.

no need to pay for one fuckup twice.

 

[swolenole]

It should be illegal to marry before 30.

You do not know what the fuck you want when you are in your early to mid 20's, or have enough life experiences to make a good choice for a spouse

You will look back when you are 35 and say...WTF??? I didn't know half the shit I thought I did.

BTW....All of my friends that were married in their mid 20's are divorced or on their second wives. They all said they were too young...just didn't get shit out of there system. Now, they are broke and miserable

Just fucking wait...There is no rush

agreed 110%

 

[alien amp pharm]

Keep in mind that when our parents were young marriage was a common thing to help 2 people survive easier. Also morals were different.

Marriage is closely related to being on probation the rest of your life. I cannot understand why people do it because I don't know of ONE single married couple that is happy. They simply learn to tolerate each other at best.

I am about sick of hearing all my friends bitch about being married. I am as anti-marriage as they come.

 

[foreigngirl]

Keep in mind that when our parents were young marriage was a common thing to help 2 people survive easier. Also morals were different.

Marriage is closely related to being on probation the rest of your life. I cannot understand why people do it because I don't know of ONE single married couple that is happy. They simply learn to tolerate each other at best.

I am about sick of hearing all my friends bitch about being married. I am as anti-marriage as they come.

lol..something is terribly funny with the statement that marriage was a thing to survive easier for our parents...how old are your parents - 100 years old?

Yeah, morals are different, but I wish they were not. You have to tolerate your SO regardless if you love him/her or not, thats just how it is. Marriage is like being on probation? Where the fuck did you dig this out from? If someone wants to put cuffs on his/her SO, then there is a problem. Otherwise, its nice

 

[digimon7068]

Everyone has a different time table I suppose. Mine was more like yours. In my early 20's I was still way to wild/immature/what-have-you to make that kind of commitment.

I met my wife on October 7, 1989 (you should at least be mature enough to remember important dates ). I was 24, she was 22. We went out on our first date October 21, 1989. We dated for two years, were engaged for one year (lived together while we were engaged. . .I'm fairly conservative/traditional but I recommend this highly. . .you don't know a damn thing about someone until you live with them for a while. . .trust me). We got married in June 27, 1992. We're coming up on 14 years married and 17 years together and they've absolutely been the best of my life.

Live by your own time table and you'll never have any regrets.

 

[Frisky]

A better question:

How many people got married before they were 30 and are:

A) Divorced
B) Married but Miserable
C) Married, but looked into the other yard to see if the grass was greener


Awitty is right. Give yourself time to grow as a person. Explore. Have fun. She will either wait and grow with you or leave.

 

[alien amp pharm]

lol..something is terribly funny with the statement that marriage was a thing to survive easier for our parents...how old are your parents - 100 years old?

Yeah, morals are different, but I wish they were not. You have to tolerate your SO regardless if you love him/her or not, thats just how it is. Marriage is like being on probation? Where the fuck did you dig this out from? If someone wants to put cuffs on his/her SO, then there is a problem. Otherwise, its nice

There's something terribly funny with a female who thinks she knows what she's talking about.

and let me guess, you are the perfect wife who lets your husband do stuff he enjoys and are never bitchy nor complains, right?

 

[foreigngirl]

There's something terribly funny with a female who thinks she knows what she's talking about.

and let me guess, you are the perfect wife who lets your husband do stuff he enjoys and are never bitchy nor complains, right?

there is something terribly funny about a man thinking all women are the same no mater where they come from and what their upbringing is...

there is no such a thing as perfect. I do bitch. I do let him do everything that he wants, excluding cheating

 

[Wulfgar]

lol..something is terribly funny with the statement that marriage was a thing to survive easier for our parents...how old are your parents - 100 years old?

Yeah, morals are different, but I wish they were not. You have to tolerate your SO regardless if you love him/her or not, thats just how it is. Marriage is like being on probation? Where the fuck did you dig this out from? If someone wants to put cuffs on his/her SO, then there is a problem. Otherwise, its nice

Ahh, the good old days when domestic violence was encouraged. Wife screwed around, you busted a few of her ribs, break her jaw, and the cops would stand outside and wait then ask the wife what she did wrong to deserve this while the husband would go and have a beer with his friends.

fuckin retarded. Alot of old married coupled stayed together for years and years of unhappiness and abuse and suffering for no other reason than "morals". Every marriage is gonna have its ups and downs. But if there is nothing there you both have to be honest about what is going to happen next.

 

[Tytan]

Depends on the couple....21-25 should be marriage-free years...There`s still lots to learn about love...

 

[foreigngirl]

Ahh, the good old days when domestic violence was encouraged. Wife screwed around, you busted a few of her ribs, break her jaw, and the cops would stand outside and wait then ask the wife what she did wrong to deserve this while the husband would go and have a beer with his friends.

fuckin retarded. Alot of old married coupled stayed together for years and years of unhappiness and abuse and suffering for no other reason than "morals". Every marriage is gonna have its ups and downs. But if there is nothing there you both have to be honest about what is going to happen next.

ah, I love the sarcasam.....its all fine leaving an abusive relationship....


yes, every marriage has ups and downs and no, nobody has to put up with violence. But people today are giving up on going through the "downs" togther

 

[GoldenDelicious]

there is something terribly funny about a man thinking all women are the same no mater where they come from and what their upbringing is...

there is no such a thing as perfect. I do bitch. I do let him do everything that he wants, excluding cheating

let?

what do you mean, let?

 

[foreigngirl]

let?

what do you mean, let?

yeah, you are right. He doesnt ask, he lets me know