Whats the point of mariage?

[seaking420]

Seriously, this is not a thread to bash being married, I just want to know what the point is. Is it religion more than anything? Im in a serious relationship with my girl for the past 7 years, we have a baby together, we live together and she wants to get married. Im not sure if I want to or ever will want to so Im at a crossroad. It feels like our relationship is to the point were you either split or make the next move. Not sure what to do. I also dont want to be alone when Im in my 50's neither.

 

[jerkbox]

basically, it allows a woman to fufill a lifelong delusion of a fantasy wedding day, control your life from there on out, and then take half your money when she's grown tired of you.

 

[fistfullofsteel]

basically, it allows a woman to fufill a lifelong delusion of a fantasy wedding day, control your life from there on out, and then take half your money when she's grown tired of you.

very true, but you are into other guys and gay marriage isn't legal so you have nothing to worry about

 

[bigden1971]

Not one of my married friends seems happy. It's either infidelity, arguing over money, sex, family members, etc. I am sure the true statistics for divorce in this country are at least 65%-75%. Those who don't get divorced stay married and miserable.

 

[manny78]

basically, it allows a woman to fufill a lifelong delusion of a fantasy wedding day, control your life from there on out, and then take half your money when she's grown tired of you.

Word !

 

[seaking420]

Not one of my married friends seems happy. It's either infidelity, arguing over money, sex, family members, etc. I am sure the true statistics for divorce in this country are at least 65%-75%. Those who don't get divorced stay married and miserable.

I think that is true for the most part. Im sure there are some few exceptions. I think when you live with someone you're basically married anyway.

Digimon seems happy in his marriage.

 

[musclemom]

Seriously, this is not a thread to bash being married, I just want to know what the point is. Is it religion more than anything? Im in a serious relationship with my girl for the past 7 years, we have a baby together, we live together and she wants to get married. Im not sure if I want to or ever will want to so Im at a crossroad. It feels like our relationship is to the point were you either split or make the next move. Not sure what to do. I also dont want to be alone when Im in my 50's neither.

Frankly, it's about legality. Simplifies transfer of property, etc. in the event of one partner's death (also there's no question of where the child goes if something should happen to one of you, which might not necessarily be the case if she dies, you might have to contend with her family). Additionally, it's a break in terms of taxes, insurance, etc.

Less to do with religion than money, seriously, historically that's what it's always has been, the transfer of property to the legal offspring. Who the mother is has never been in question. That child comes out of her body. The father he has to accept the child. Marriage removed the option of him saying, "this isn't my kid." The child of the woman he was married to was legally his own, no discussion.

 

[manny78]

Frankly, it's about legality. Simplifies transfer of property, etc. in the event of one partner's death (also there's no question of where the child goes if something should happen to one of you, which might not necessarily be the case if she dies, you might have to contend with her family). Additionally, it's a break in terms of taxes, insurance, etc.

Less to do with religion than money, seriously, historically that's what it's always has been, the transfer of property to the legal offspring. Who the mother is has never been in question. That child comes out of her body. The father he has to accept the child. Marriage removed the option of him saying, "this isn't my kid." The child of the woman he was married to was legally his own, no discussion.

Common law marriage does the same, at least here.

 

[swolenole]

basically, it allows a woman to fufill a lifelong delusion of a fantasy wedding day, control your life from there on out, and then take half your money when she's grown tired of you.

agreed^^^^with the addition of keeping your children from being bastards..

 

[musclemom]

Common law marriage does the same, at least here.

Ummm, I'm not a lawyer but not entirely. Now if you're willing to go to a lawyer and make sure everything is taken care of, that's one thing, but If you don't have your estate set up properly you run into some real hassles (speaking from experience. My mother died without a will and it was a real PITA during a bad time). She also died without life insurance.

But the original question was, what's the point, so I just answered that question. IMO, in this day and age, if two people have a child together and share a life together whether they get married or not is arbitrary, but particularly if you have children, it is VERY stupid and thoughtless to not have your estate properly set up to simplify transfer of everything and lay out who you want to be responsible for the kids, etc. Also is thoughtless to not have a life insurance policy.