what would you do

[BNG]

jeez.

I cant force him to go.

guess I'm goin solo.

He's being selfish and will be expecting you to do more crap with him. Maybe you're not being very assertive. What's the big deal? I think some of these parties get way out of hand and can be a ton of fun.

One Q though? Do you get jealous easily? Is he going to catch hell for looking a drunk bridesmaid with her boobs out? That could make me want to avoid the fight to follow.

 

[Smurfy]

One of my girlfriends is getting married tomorrow and I'm in the wedding

tonight is the rehearsal dinner and my husband does not want to go

everyone else is bringing their husbands and its free booze

i dont get it?

I'm not mad, but I'll be the only one without their spouse.

Should I put my foot down or let it go?

I've gone to all of his crap. I rarely ask him to do things he does not want to do. I think of all the times I've gone to dive bars to watch some gay ass band play just to hang out with him

or all the years i've watched chiefs games

or the rehearsal dinners I've gone to when he was a groomsman

*cant believe Im going to reply to an advice thread about marriage when I have a horrible track record, but here goes*

Id make sure he knows that you really would like him to be there with you (you like to spend time with him and at social functions, not just out of spite)
but if he chooses not to go, i would leave it alone. I was never big into forcing or guilting anyone into going to functions.

 

[digimon7068]

jeez.

I cant force him to go.

guess I'm goin solo.

at the risk of being accused of being a traitor to the brotherhood. . .that's just fuggin' whack. . .i don't get it. . .over the years i've had a hell of a lot of fun doing things with my wife that, to be honest, i didn't really want to do. . .e.g., we went to a halloween party a few years back (pre-kids). . .i hate getting dressed up for halloween. . .didn't even like it when i was a kid. . .it's fuggin' so i bitched the whole day before and the whole time we were getting ready until she was about to strangle me. . .you know what?? the party was KICK ASS. . .one of the top 10 parties i ever attended. . .ever since that experience i always try to keep an open mind. . .and, even when i don't want to go, i still do. . .

 

[cindylou]

He's being selfish and will be expecting you to do more crap with him. Maybe you're not being very assertive. What's the big deal? I think some of these parties get way out of hand and can be a ton of fun.

One Q though? Do you get jealous easily? Is he going to catch hell for looking a drunk bridesmaid with her boobs out? That could make me want to avoid the fight to follow.

No, I never get jealous. Nor does he get jealous of me. We dont have that type of relationship. This is a really trusting, almost too friendly type relationship to be honest. lol

He just does not want to go because he does not know anybody

and I sympathize a little, thats why I'm not mad.....yet

 

[chris302001]

No, I never get jealous. Nor does he get jealous of me. We dont have that type of relationship. This is a really trusting, almost too friendly type relationship to be honest. lol

He just does not want to go because he does not know anybody

and I sympathize a little, thats why I'm not mad.....yet

I kinda understand his point of view. I've learned to just force myself in situations like this, I'd just make sure he knows that you really would appreciate him coming with you and that it would mean a lot to you. Honestly, if I were in a similar situation, even if I didnt want to come, it would be hard to say no.


EDIT: And once he gets there, he'd probably have a decent time anyways.

 

[digimon7068]

What if you trade him a blow job if he gos? That would work for me.

agreed. . .i've done a lot of (to me) dumb shit over the years cause i knew i was gonna get my hedges clipped for my effort. . .

 

[cindylou]

What if you trade him a blow job if he gos? That would work for me.

I already owe him one. LOL!

from last weekend because i went out with the girls and the next morning was stranded at the hotel without my keys and forgot which parking garage i left my car in! 7:30 in the morning I called him on a Sunday to come bring me a spare and drive me around kansas city while i run up and down all the parking garages because they all "look kinda familiar".

I still have not repayed him yet!

 

[Stefka]

No, I never get jealous. Nor does he get jealous of me. We dont have that type of relationship. This is a really trusting, almost too friendly type relationship to be honest. lol

He just does not want to go because he does not know anybody

and I sympathize a little, thats why I'm not mad.....yet

Say please.
Pout a little.
Maybe a blow job.
He should go.

 

[miplank]

What if you trade him a blow job if he gos? That would work for me.

x2

 

[jnevin]

Puddles has got to be absolutely giddy at this thread.