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What the hell is wrong with some woman

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You might have read earlier what happened to me with my girl of three years. Quick background she left me, never said goodby, never broke up with me and started dateing another dude...ect.

then last week she emails me this

hi *****,this past three weeks have been pretty crazy. i have been trying to find myself, and i think i have. i finally picked my major, i thought you would be pround of me, Speech Pathology
and education. i'm going to work with little kids and help them learn how to speak right. i'm then going to go on to med school so i can work in a hospital, and help people who had cancer
and other medical conintions. and help them speak again. i think that this will be very good for me and iona has a great program, so i'm in luck. i got my wisdom teeth pulled on monday, talk
about the worst pain ever. they gave me valum and i had the worst reaction from in. i dreamed that everyone i had ever fought with in my whole life was in a room with me yelling at me. i
woke up crying. then later when i got home, i think i was it asleep and got up to get water, and fell over on the floor and pasted out. i'm better now, still need to take tylenol for the
pain.:( that sucked so much. its crazy but so many people that i went to highschool a re popping back into my life. i talk to carly yestaday, i don't know if you rememeber her, but i talked to her for hours on line. i think she mite come visit me. and i realized and college friends are great and all but there nothing like talking to someone who new you when.... you know what i mean.
anyway, thats been life for the pasted three weeks. schools going ok, swimming is great and thats it. i hope to hear from you soon
love
Michele

so I email her back

Hey,

Sorry to hear about your wisdom teeth experience, funny thing is somehow I thought about you getting them out…when I was walking 2 classes last week. I hope your Mom made you some tea and rubbed your head for the pain, did get to sit on the couch and watch any good movies (a least)?J. Anyway… that sounds like a perfect major for you, a program that includes all of your talents into one interest.

I have been busy here, meeting new people, doing my thing. I met this kid Adam who is a lot like me, he is a personal trainer, so I workout with him, and what not. It was homecoming at Delaware this weekend, which was interesting…this school gets caught up in everything. And I’m going to start working at a health club, during the week, plus I joined a flag football intramural team. My success in Comm. continues, we had a presentation today, which my group aced.

It’s crazy what’s happening in the world day by day (now their finding anthrax, everywhere) my prayers are with you and your family. It was good 2 hear from you,

And not only does she not read it for 2 days but then just deletes it... I would like 2 be friends after three years and talk of possible marrige but she is quickly makeing me hate her. ahhh i was so good 2 her what is wrong with woman (not all woman)
 
Geez man, this chick sounds like a real bitch

I can’t believe she just ditched you like that, it’s weird.

She must have some severe mental problems

Forget about her.
 
I always tried to be friends with x's you never know when you are going to catch a sympathy fuck or be able to play the role of "Rebound Man"....my favorite for quite a few years. LOL!!!
 
Why don't I just ask her, because she asked for her space...and I am trying to respect her wishes. She is only 20 so I can understand if marrige and a longterm relationship got to be to much...I was asking if its worth being her friend if shes just going to be a bitch to me, before this she was the sweetest thing on the planet.
 
I agree with a lot of what BOT said. All I can say is don't even try it. It won't work! You really are just FUCKING YOURSELF trying. I know it's hard, but cut her loose and get away.
 
OK ... sounds like a lot of things running thru this girl's head... Correct me if I'm wrong -- sounds like the story is you dated for 3 years in high school, she went away to college and you did also.

You both are pretty young and are getting your first exposure to the big wide world. Lots of pressure to make decisions like what to study, how to fit into a new culture, environment. In the excitement of the "new" world, there are still the ties to the "old" world that represent comfortable, familiar things that are now gone or in the past, maybe even feels like a different lifetime.

Aside from your feelings for her, are you experiencing the same feelings? Can you relate to them? (I.e. put yourself in her shoes)

So from your point of view, she just stopped talking to you for 3 weeks. Before all this excitement, had you both talked candidly about where you wanted the relationship to go? (Often assumptions can be completely off if nothing is said on the topic - trust me, I've been there....when communication breaks down its AMAZING what can happen.) If not, did you try to talk to her / communicate with her over the last 3 weeks and she just ignored you? For many people, the easiest way to say "i want out" is to not say anything. Then you can either give her the easy way out and just assume its over and be miserable in your unknowing state of non-closure, or you can ask her straight up what's going on and what she wants to do with the relationship. If she's already said she wants space, and ends up reiterating that, all u can do is say, OK call me when u feel like talking or tell her what u feel.

I guess my point is that right now you are not sure about what she wants, and you need a yes/no answer to the future. I'm a great proponent of getting a straight answer because I make myself miserable if I assume something and not actually bring up the issue to avoid a confrontation or to be nice or just not expose myself to the pain of an answer I may not want to hear. At least then you will know instead of sitting around, letting it eat u from the inside out to the point that you will hate her for something that she maybe didn't even intend to do to you directly -- she may simply be trying to figure out a big part of her life.

good luck. This is the downside of relationships, but that means there's an upside too and you are young and you have LOTs of experiences & new people ahead of you.
 
heres a little background,

Im 25 shes 20

We met when she was in H.S. I was personal training she was a life guard. She was 17 I was 22. I transfered to udel 2 years ago she spent one of those years in h.s. and one at her college. We had the perfect relationship, or a thought. But the relationship was seriouse not some H.S. bullshit. She was a very mature girl and openly expressed her desire to marry me. We had a perfect summer. She gets back to school for her sec year, and starts changeing. Because im older i had no prob being very committed and came back 2 ny ever 2 weeks to see her.

thats the background.
 
Sounds like you are ready and she isn't. Seeing someone every 2 weeks is like a long distance relationship -- its just damn hard.

Personally I think u need to ask her straight up where she wants the relationship to go. She's trying to figure out what direction she wants to take w/ her life, you may already know for yourself. The worst u can do is get an answer.... If she just started dating someone else, she's probably not ready to handle a serious committed relationship with one person.
 
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BOT speaks the truth.

Also, FUCK communicating with a bitch who acts irrationally.

Man, I read a lot of posts about whipped fuckers on this board who are confused because their girls treat them bad or weird.

It just gets to me to hear it I guess. You move on, and after a few experiences you cut your losses real quick and move on, and it doesn't even phase you. Eventually you don't even jump head first into anything anymore. Get used to loving you and only you, and get laid when you need to. Yeah it's a cold way to live, but at least you don't waste time and emotion on some chick that will drive you crazy eventually anyway.

I know this sounds harsh, but it's the truth.
 
~20 is too young to consider life decisions.

~If she didn't talk to you for 3 weeks, that is total disrespect for you, I don't think a lot of women would put up with that. plus, she dated someone else. Wack

~If you are in the settling down mode, dude, go out with an older woman.

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Peace.:)
 
Maby this would give everyone the best idea about were she is at, this was an email she sent to her friends 2 weeks ago
after reading this im sure your going to all tell me to screw her,
remember I put everything into this girl, she was a knockout


ok so where do i begin...these last two weeks have been great,
**** i've been swimming like a fish and partying like a rock star! lets just say.. weds was the first time i was not drunk in 5 days. i think acohol makes you swim faster! haha i've seen what i had been missing and i only wish i saw it before. time goes bye so fast now and there is no more bordem!. i do what i want when i want and i do have to answer to anyone. this kid i'm seeing is
so cool. he makes me laugh so hard i start crying. i have never met anyone so cool. i feel like a weight has been lifting and i am free! i love you all for being there for me you guys are the best! i could never ask for better friends.:) when we all come home we're going out!
i love you
****
 
any thoughts on the last email, is she just a bitch showing her true colors...

sorry to bring up this topic so much im just realing these days
need a little input
 
dude,
if she sent that last email to her friends then my advice is fuck it!!! clearly she has no thoughts of you and her being together. i'd say time get some much needed revenge and then move on.
 
Continue to befriend her, regardless of how she treats you. Take her out to eat as much as you can to fatten her up. Only feed high calorie foods and get her good and plump.

When the time is right, lead her into your kitchen...stuff her in the oven and cook her. Make sure to baste her in chicken broth...

Ever wonder what people taste like? I believe they either taste like pigs or cows. I don't think they taste like chicken, though. Anyway, let me know...or better yet, invite me--I'll bring the wine.
 
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