what do you people do?

[flex123]

what type of shit do you do to keep occupied? out of work what do you do?

there isnt much to do but hang around the house not doing much at all. My days are looking dull and down now that the woman will be away for another 3 months. Today i worked and came home and ate and have just been sitting at the computer. I dont know what to do with myself cause I'm already lonely and bored with nothing to do.

most people here probbly workout, but besides that do you read, watch tv, go out boozin, what?

 

[flex123]

shit...I didnt realize I was on the anabolic board.

someone move this please

 

[majutsu]

of course, this'll be moved to chat . . . But I workout (of course), read, play guitar and play with my kids and be with my wife. With work, that's more than enough for me. Never booze or TV, used to in my 20s, but seems pointless now, no time.

 

[Razorguns]

argue all day with you bums.

Method to the madness though:

Gives me a chance to practice and improve my grammar, analytical, thinking and logic skills. Chalk it up as "exercising" my brain by learning and listening to others instead of merely blabbling about nonsensical stuff that means nothing. I do enough of that at watercoolers and on the phone at night with your typical snobbish, self-centered, self-absorbed la folks.

 

[solidg]

go to some parks
make conversation with people

 

[Luciano_]

I don't have a job right now, and I am a bit hyperkinetic.
Today I sand the stairs, about 6 hs ... Then I went to the gym and hit my shoulders ! Damn, I am tired now.
I also dig holes in the garden and fix whatever is broken or about to get brake.
I read before bed and sometimes I see a movie.
I spend a lot of time in the computer looking for a job ...

 

[jenscats5]

I'm not working now either, so I run errands during the day, play on the computer, clean the house, do laundry, do home improvement projects, do the bills, watch TV, work out, read....

 

[flex123]

I feel myself fall into deep depressions a lot and I think the reason is that I don't like being alone and doing nothing. I like being around people and have to keep myself occupied.

The thing that sucks is that during the week no one is usually around to do anything. If the girlfriend is away, which is the case a lot....than I just sit around the house alone and can't find much to do.

I'll probably be mentioning and bringing up the fact that I hate being away from my signifigant other, but I don't know how people that have a spouse in the military who leave for months at a time do it.

I'll try reading more to keep myself occupied.

 

[jenscats5]

I feel myself fall into deep depressions a lot and I think the reason is that I don't like being alone and doing nothing. I like being around people and have to keep myself occupied.

The thing that sucks is that during the week no one is usually around to do anything. If the girlfriend is away, which is the case a lot....than I just sit around the house alone and can't find much to do.

I'll probably be mentioning and bringing up the fact that I hate being away from my signifigant other, but I don't know how people that have a spouse in the military who leave for months at a time do it.

I'll try reading more to keep myself occupied.

Why don't you volunteer somewhere?? Or take some type of a class....

That'll put you around people.....You're prob. getting depressed so much cuz you have so much time on your hands to dwell on your situation.....

 

[vinylgroover]

Flex, it's not a good thing to be dependant on your girlfriend or significant other, places too much stress on a relationship IMO anf doesn't help your own self development.

You need to find interests bro...........i get out and go for a long ride(cycling), go to the beach, go to a park and kick the football around, go to the shops and go hunting for dance music.

Just get out and about and get some air, even if it's just for a couple of hours to break the monotony of the day

 

[flex123]

Why don't you volunteer somewhere?? Or take some type of a class....

That'll put you around people.....You're prob. getting depressed so much cuz you have so much time on your hands to dwell on your situation.....

yeah you're right....I do get depressed cause I dwell on things. My brother is a volunteer fire fighter and told me I should join now, because I was considering it already. Says that it would be good because my girl wont be around for awhile and she was what I occupied all my time with.

 

[flex123]

Flex, it's not a good thing to be dependant on your girlfriend or significant other, places too much stress on a relationship IMO anf doesn't help your own self development.

You need to find interests bro...........i get out and go for a long ride(cycling), go to the beach, go to a park and kick the football around, go to the shops and go hunting for dance music.

Just get out and about and get some air, even if it's just for a couple of hours to break the monotony of the day

I know Vinyle, I know.

I wish I was different but I'm not. I was actually telling her today that it is horrible that I'm usually an emotionally attached person in relationships. I dont enjoy going out with the guys nearly as much as I like just being with a woman and enjoying that feeling.

Do you think that me expressing my feelings aboutbeing lonely and upset puts a strain on the relationship....I wouldn't like her to act like she is fine without me, if she really wasn't.

 

[jenscats5]

yeah you're right....I do get depressed cause I dwell on things. My brother is a volunteer fire fighter and told me I should join now, because I was considering it already. Says that it would be good because my girl wont be around for awhile and she was what I occupied all my time with.

Good idea!! Do something with your time........And as VG said, you need to maintain your own identity in a relationship & not be so attached that you lose yourself in the process.....maintain your separateness & your relationship will be that much healthier when she comes back!!

 

[vinylgroover]

Do you think that me expressing my feelings aboutbeing lonely and upset puts a strain on the relationship....I wouldn't like her to act like she is fine without me, if she really wasn't.

Depending on the two people involed it can, not always though.

That's why alot of relationships and marriages break down IMO...........one of the partners finally realises 'hey, what have i done outside of my relationship to grow as a person' and they leave their partner in order to find themselves.

I think the firefighting thing sounds great.......give it a go.

 

[calveless wonder]

I feel myself fall into deep depressions a lot and I think the reason is that I don't like being alone and doing nothing. I like being around people and have to keep myself occupied.

The thing that sucks is that during the week no one is usually around to do anything. If the girlfriend is away, which is the case a lot....than I just sit around the house alone and can't find much to do.

I'll probably be mentioning and bringing up the fact that I hate being away from my signifigant other, but I don't know how people that have a spouse in the military who leave for months at a time do it.

I'll try reading more to keep myself occupied.

i'm in the same boat bro, as i've stated before...

being away from your woman(especially if you really love her) is not easy, and its tonss worse when you have nothing to do. The past few months i had no job and i wasnt going to school (i dropped my classes) and all i did was think about my girlfriend and how much i miss her....it became very destructive because i would fall into depression and then my thoughts would all be negative (thinking she's cheating on me, thinking about her past bf's, etc ).

My friends and my work have been the best distraction, but even then it still can get to you.

Try to get out and meet more people or just hang out in places where there are other people (beach, park, etc...whatever). Even if it's to read a book or relax at least you're out and about and not sitting at home just constantly thinking.

playing video games is also a pretty good distraction/time killer

 

[calveless wonder]

Depending on the two people involed it can, not always though.

That's why alot of relationships and marriages break down IMO...........one of the partners finally realises 'hey, what have i done outside of my relationship to grow as a person' and they leave their partner in order to find themselves.

I think the firefighting thing sounds great.......give it a go.

yeah, that is true in a typical relationship
HOWEVER you gotta realize distant creates alot of stress in itself, and in a long distance relationship those things are almost neccessary to keep the relationship healthy. You kind of have to reinforce how much you mean to each other etc.....it's almost like you psyche yourself out into thinking that you can't live without that other person.

Distance is an entirely different variable.....and sometimes creates that "dependence" even when it doesn't really exist.

 

[RADAR]

besides from working out ,i get with some former band members & Jam (southern style of course)
Then there modifying my Jeep & Vette, Riding thru back country taking Pics, Chatting with the ladies here on EF ( My Fav)
Drawing & painting...etc i'm never bored!

RADAR

 

[jenscats5]

besides from working out ,i get with some former band members & Jam (southern style of course)
Then there modifying my Jeep & Vette, Riding thru back country taking Pics, Chatting with the ladies here on EF ( My Fav)
Drawing & painting...etc i'm never bored!

RADAR

A lady is never bored with Radar around....

 

[bulldog3434]

i don't do much of anything but chill. i'm on summer break from college, and i work about 1-2 days per week at a beer store. i play and coach baseball, so that occupies almost all of my evenings. during the day, i usually just play vidoegames or watch movies. i work out every once in awhile, though thats hard to do cause my arm is always sore from pitching

 

[Y_lifter]

Eating is always popular...

 

[Deterass]

Softball
Poker

 

[bulldog3434]

mountain biking can take up quite a bit of time also

 

[Dalonia]

Tempting Catholic priests candidates
is one of my favorite past-times

 

[Dalonia]

Tempting Catholic priest candidates
is one of my favorite past-times