What do you do to make the pain go away?

[plifter]

HOW DARE YOU JUDGE ME?!

You sure seem quick to judge (and insult) other people so I think you need to quit your whining.

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[Imnotdutch]

The only people I see BM insult are those that act like assholes either using their current nick or an old one. Give examples and I'll prove my point.....

You sure seem quick to judge (and insult) other people so I think you need to quit your whining.

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[big4life]

You sure seem quick to judge (and insult) other people so I think you need to quit your whining.

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I wanted to ignore your first post because frankly it was without
a doubt the most asinine remark I have seen in awhile.
But you choose to keep coming back, so tell us, what did she do that was so bad?
Did she hurt your precious little feelings?
Did she ignore you?

Better yet, don't tell us, I don't care what she did. There was no call for that first post, and you know it.

 

[plifter]

Okay, I said the words "lard ass" in one of my posts. It had nothing to do with her or anyone else on this board and she all of a sudden decides to take out her PMS frustrations on me. She DID a very thorough job of insulting everything about me without me ever mentioning her.

Hasn't anyone else noticed that I only attack people when I've been provoked. If the damn bitch wants to start shit with me then there's nothing wrong with me retailating is there?

 

[Johnny Zampon]

Monkey love, I hope that you continue on with your education BEFORE you decide to counsel people. I realize that you are not in possession of ALL the facts so I will not be as harsh and judgemental as you.

For your information: just because I do NOT disclose all of the details of why my marriage ended DOES NOT mean that it was not justified.

I HAVE A FINAL PROTECTION ORDER AGAINST MY SOMEDAY-TO-BE EX SPOUSE.

You HONESTLY BELIEVE that the reason I decide to end my marriage was because I "lost that loving feeling?"!!!

Dude, I was married for ELEVEN YEARS! I was ALWAYS treated like I was NOTHING and NO ONE. Why did it take me so long to realize this? Because I thought that that was all I deserved (Yes, childhood issues - MY ISSUES - that I am dealing with so that I do NOT repeat the cycle). It was when my children started treating me like nothing and no one that I finally woke up and realized that some changes needed to be made.

Counseling? A lot of good that does when your spouse REFUSES to accept HIS ROLE in the demise of a relationship. Yes, we went to several counselors, on several occasions before, during and AFTER the decay of our relationship.

As for your comments about my posts (I assume you are talking about THE ADULT BANTER on the between the sheets board.)

HELLO!!! I am a woman and an adult BEFORE I am a mother. My children ARE NOT privy to MY ADULT LIFE. So now, because I have children that means that I am now to remain celibate and play BARNEY all day long?! ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!

As for flirting on the board.... yes, so? If my children are sleeping or with their father or at school, who is harmed by this? DUDE - GET A GRIP. Have you read ANY of the posts about fitness and nutrition? Oh, I guess you can't get into my email or PM box.... so we will just leave THAT ONE ALONE.

So now, EXPLAIN TO ME ALMIGHTY SOME-DAY-TO-BE-A-THERAPIST: how is it that I can POSSIBLY even BEGIN to heal my children if I, MYSELF, am still healing? A parent must FIRST try and be the best they can be before they can give all that they are to their children... I must do both simultaneously! Have I faltered and committed grave errors in judgement?! DUH! I am flawed and human. But am I also learning from those mistakes and scraping together all that I have to try and push forward?! HELL YES!

I suppose since you are ALMOST a therapist you have all the answers.... please enlighten me. I welcome the information. But.........

HOW DARE YOU JUDGE ME?!

Are you married? Do you have children? Do you know what it is like to give your heart and soul and everything you are to someone and have it never returned?! DO YOU? I still love my ex in ways that I don't know if I will EVER BE capable of loving another man.... but when my head hit the ground, I knew that I could NEVER be with him again. And when he threatened to fucking kill the lowlife whore in front of OUR children .....I knew that my girls and I needed protection. He stalked me, followed me, opened my mail, put a camera on me in our home and acted like everything was "normal", he stole my emails and had them read aloud in a court of law, produced all kinds of documentation to "prove" that I was unfit and unstable .....to no avail - I HAVE PRIMARY RESIDENTIAL CUSTODY - YES, ME . If it were not for my generosity and seeing how much it hurt the children to not see their dad - HE WOULD ONLY SEE THEM INFREQUENTLY! By the way - I NEVER REQUESTED CUSTODY - THE COURT GAVE IT TO ME! I cried like a baby when I heard the judge's verdict because I knew how much the children would be hurt by this. See, I can put the needs of my children BEFORE my own needs.

I never asked for any of the treatment that I got. Bottom line was that he thought he could do WHATEVER suited him and it would be ok..... and for many years, it was. Why? BECAUSE I ALLOWED IT - YES, IT WAS MY FAULT!

You know so little, so little.

I suggest you stay in school for QUITE SOME TIME.

I hope you NEVER understand what my children or I am going through - NEVER. For those members who are going and have gone through it... I don't know what to say except I am so sorry for the sadness in your life.

And as for my girls.... guess what? A calm fell over the house when the POLICE finally removed their father that I can NOT explain. Yes, though they are saddened that mommy and daddy are no longer together - they were TERRIFIED and cried MANY MORE TEARS when they WERE TOGETHER! They haven't been this happy (sadly) in a loooong time.

And guess what else? They are proud of me. I hide nothing from them and am honest ABOUT EVERYTHING. I never, EVER want any information about me to come from anyone BUT ME. I am flawed and human. I NEVER HIDE THIS FROM THEM....in the hopes that when they are faced with the greatest of difficulties, when they make serious mistakes THEY KNOW THAT I WILL NOT JUDGE THEM, but lift them up and help them.... carry them if I have to - that is my job - I AM THEIR MOTHER.

What is this about stepdads and girlfriends etc? I DO NOT BRING MEN AROUND MY CHILDREN - PERIOD. Are you insane? How desperately do you think I NEED SEX that I can not get it on my own time?

As for wiping my children's (yes there are FOUR) tears and telling them that it is not their fault. I don't NEED YOU as a FUTURE SHRINK to tell me what is so painfully obvious that if a parent can not figure this out on thier own then they are the biggest FUCKING IDIOTS ON THE PLANET AND SHOULD BE FIXED ON THE SPOT!....Do you HONESTLY believe that I would even so much as down their father?! Why do you think that I hesitate to get into specifics even here? I do NOT have to put him down to bring myself up! All I tell people about my ex is that he was not a bad guy, just not good enough for me and leave it at that. Many can see that I have a stronger character than to run my mouth and speak ill of the man who I was married to for ALL of my adult life and who fathered my beautiful children. But there are some, LIKE YOU, who can not look past my exterior and AUTOMATICALLY ASSUME that well, the marriage ended because she was too busy pandering to other men, getting her photograph taken, working out etc. HELLO! My ex was also a bodybuilder and we spent EQUAL time in the gym. Yes, I flirt..it is my nature, but I NEVER EVEN FOR A SPLIT SECOND hid my commitment to my spouse OR my children. If anyone got out of line anyway - I LET THE SMACKDOWN IMMEDIATELY! I earn money when I am photographed so I don't see what the problem there is.

It never ceases to amaze me. If a woman "lets herself go" after the wedding then she is a cow and OF COURSE her husband was miserable. But if she takes pride in her appearance and god-forbid even works at it a little - then she is a selfish whore and OF COURSE her husband was miserable.

Does it offend you, Monkey love, that my arms may be a bit bigger than yours?......it doesn't hurt MY FEELINGS IN THE LEAST!

Class dissmissed....HAVE A NICE DAY!

this could possibly be the longest post in the history of elite.

 

[runner]

>> I was too busy contemplating suicide.


you say you are not depressed, but i must disagree. (based on my limited knowledge of things) i think you do need some therapy, or actually some medication. you're going through a tough time, there's no shame in medication if it helps you feel better.

i wish you well.

also, i'll be a bit cliche...but you said that you felt like you didn't really matter. i know it's only a stupid internet message board but i bet a lotta' people here would beg to differ and would agree that, even though it may be in a very small way, you make a difference to them.

 

[cm3504jm]

You cant make the pain go away. Just accept that it is part of life and realize that time will heal the wounds.

You will bounce back, but its not an overnight thing, probably months or even years, patience is a virtue very few folks recognize.

You have to go through the hurt, but tough times never last, tough people do.

 

[plifter]

I never noticed you had your own commercial website. WOW! You are one conceited bitch. No wonder your family iis falling apart. I think that monkey dude was right, you spend way too much time worrying about your muscles than your kids. You are quite muscular for a woman, I'll give you credit there. But muscles don't mean that much if you sacrifice everything else in life to get them. Anyway, large muscles don't look good on women anyway. Most men that aren't bodybuilders would find you repulsive.

And what the fuck is up with this schoolgirl picture! You look retarded! Do you think you're Britney Spears for god's sake? Sorry, but your age clearly shows in this pic and you look ridiculous in that plaid skirt!

 

[luv2workout]

Plifter

Hey dude....dont you think you picked the wrong thread to vent all the things you dont like about Bmom?? That's just down right cruel, IMO......have a heart for gods sake

 

[plifter]

Re: Plifter

Hey dude....dont you think you picked the wrong thread to vent all the things you dont like about Bmom?? That's just down right cruel, IMO......have a heart for gods sake

She obviously had no heart when she hurt my feelings for no reason. I guess it's ok to hurt a man's feelings because we're not supposed to be sensitive, well some men like me do have feelings.