What do you consider marrying young?

[-SD-]

The problem with divorces is when it comes to "equitable" (or even worse, "equal") distribution of marital assets. The laws are quick to make things marital assets (i.e. salaries, properties, investment accounts).

My premarital agreement is simple in that it spells-out that assets are to be kept separate. So I have a checking account as does she. I own property as does she -- but it's all separate. There is a procedure for transitioning property between us and we have certain holdings that are explicitly marital (i.e. the joint checking account we opened to pay day-to-day expenses). But in the absence of an explicit transaction that turns a piece of separately-owned property into a marital asset, it will remain separate under all circumstances (divorce, death, etc. etc.).

It's a fairly short agreement, but it has been upheld in Tennessee many times.

i.e. plunkey gets castle and 5-axis processor and wife gets squat lol

 

[AFeedz]

I fully support prenups like that.

 

[AFeedz]

I also don't really have an age by which I need to get married, but I can say I prob wouldn't marry someone I hadn't been with for a while, like 5 years or so so I know we can handle a good number of things thrown at us as a couple.

I also know I'm not waiting til marriage to figure out if we can live together well, that's for sure. And also definitely not until/unless we're both financially secure. Too much stress to add marriage on top of money troubles.

 

[mrplunkey]

i.e. plunkey gets castle and 5-axis processor and wife gets squat lol

Well yes and no... If she does generate any income, it's all hers. Her family inheritance is/would be all hers too. Plus any assets that are transferred to her (i.e. cars, jewelry) become 100% hers as well.

There are more complicated premarital agreements out there, but they become messy because they amount to one party essentially being paid to stay married to the other (i.e. "vesting" of assets over time) -- to hell with that.

The beauty of a separate property agreement is that you know for 100% sure that they are marrying you because they want to be married to you. It insures there's no financial benefit in jumping from boyfriend/girlfriend to husband/wife.

P.S. And I would get to keep the 5-axis mill!!!

 

[miplank]

I also don't really have an age by which I need to get married, but I can say I prob wouldn't marry someone I hadn't been with for a while, like 5 years or so so I know we can handle a good number of things thrown at us as a couple.

I also know I'm not waiting til marriage to figure out if we can live together well, that's for sure. And also definitely not until/unless we're both financially secure. Too much stress to add marriage on top of money troubles.

Translation; I'd rather just send miplank noodz

 

[-SD-]

My decision to not get married gets more validated the longer i live

 

[mrplunkey]

My decision to not get married gets more validated the longer i live

There are a mountain of reasons not to get married. You are demonstrating outstanding judgement.

The only time it gets tricky is when you want to raise a family. Some people will want to share last names, legal custody of children, etc. etc.

I personally think a boyfriend/girlfriend combination would raise a child just as effectively as a married couple. I don't believe in the "magic" of marriage in the least. What you'll have to balance is societal expectations around how families are "supposed" (which I think is bullshit too) to be structured.

 

[EarthRider]

congrats on engagement afrrdz

 

[AFeedz]

congrats on engagement afrrdz

Not even close.

 

[miplank]

congrats on engagement afrrdz

Congrats on being a faggot, girthrider