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He is a guy and if he is too tired to have sex than he is most likely getting it from somewhere else...
Sorry don't mean to be so forward about it... Unless he is on deca and is imbarrased because its a limp noodle!
Sorry don't mean to be so forward about it... Unless he is on deca and is imbarrased because its a limp noodle!
Well he jst recently came off of a cycle that made him shut down completely now he's on a dermacrine (I think that's what it's called) but he spends his time at work, with me, or at the gym there's no time in his day for him to be getting sex anywhere else. I mean we have sex we just don't have as much as I want lol.
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My guy had a weird spell after he came off a cycle too. It could take awhile for him to get his sex drive back. ITs hard not to take it personally, I know. If you trust him this is probably whats going on
life_is_good
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just start doing to him what you want. i dont know a guy that wouldnt love it for his woman to just start sucking his dick , sits on his face or just starts fucking him. my chick is awesome.
Melaina
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Don't feel like that, if you get into a "he doesn't want me depression" he's going to feed off that and it might make the situation worse. Keep working out, do what makes you happy and maybe try to spice things up a bit. Take a weekend trip, or even something simple like go to a sex store, pick out a toy together, have a date night and use the toy together. If it was a long period of time and he doesn't seem interested then he might be cheating or you two are not compatible anymore... but dont jump to that conclusion just yet 
captainahole
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Invite your bff over that'll get him going.
cryptosporidium
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Stryker1992
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Call me...I will fill in!
He's not into that and neither am I lol. He's just been stressed out lately and I think that's why he hasn't really been in the mood and plus his recent shut down.
captainahole
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He told you that. He lies.
On a serious note. Do something out of character for you that he hasn't seen or experienced it'll put some spark in his plug.
DJ_UFO
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The most common problem is weight. If you are not fit, get into it.
If that is not the problem, we go back to the root, the nature. Even though humans were created in a lab, we still share a percentage of Terrestrial animals. That make us beings of multiple sexual partners; not one. It is how our bodies are designed. By being with one person you are forcing your nature to something not normal. If you all just have an incompatibility like that, you'll have no other option than start fuckin the ups driver, fedex, pizza guy, etc...
Understanding that you are an average human, I apologize if I woke up mixed emotions, but that is the cold truth.
OR, since no one else will say it, i've been in a relationship before and we got it on like no other. Sure as shit, as I lost interest in her and realized that she wasn't what I was exactly looking for, the sex came to a damn near standstill. I gave the exact same excuses as your guy.
Now, i'm not saying that is what is going on here, BUT, you do have to consider everything that "might" be going on in his head. It took me months before I had a "talk" with her
Whiskey
Now, i'm not saying that is what is going on here, BUT, you do have to consider everything that "might" be going on in his head. It took me months before I had a "talk" with her
Whiskey
The thing is we have sex atleast twice a day maybe sometimes alittle more all depending on our schedule. If he was losing interest wouldn't their be other signs?
The thing is we have sex atleast twice a day maybe sometimes alittle more all depending on our schedule. If he was losing interest wouldn't their be other signs?
Didn't you say in the first post the sex pot has run empty? It's easy to NOT leave a person and then have to deal with the hassel of it all... just sayin
And I do hope i'm wrong and that he's either stressed or shut down. I've been there on the second and it's not fun. Especially when the girl keeps asking about it, nothing will make a guy feel like less of a man.
Whiskey
I do feel horrible because kinda hound him alot about it, but it seems as if I dont hound him or don't even mention he seems to get in the mood.
I am (WAS I mean... before I got preg) in better shape than my husband and he still had a low sex drive. It drove me crazy. If I didnt trust him so much (and also, why would he cheat on me?) I would think he was cheating.
He was fine when he was on cycle and then off cycle he has a low sex drive. Maybe its because he does not like his body when hes not on something? Who knows.
Low self esteem effects both men and women.
He was fine when he was on cycle and then off cycle he has a low sex drive. Maybe its because he does not like his body when hes not on something? Who knows.
Low self esteem effects both men and women.
Maybe he is geigh?
jk
jk
That sounds just like him. When he's on a cycle he's always so confident and ready to go but about a week or two after his cycle ends he just gets kinda mopey. Should I talk to him about this or just keep it to myself?
Have you tried masturbation?
well, I'd say something to him. It cant hurt. But at the same time, he could always be like this for the rest of his life. If its that big of a problem to you, I'd consider leaving the relationship.
Its not that big of a deal to me, but the problem does not get any better. We rarely have sex if he is not on something. Like once a week, sometimes less and thats childless without kids. It will be less once kids come into the picture. I remember a month last year where we didnt have sex at all. Could you live with that? Its hard not to take it personally.....
captainahole
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I think video's are in order here.
My sex life with my first wife wasn't the best either. She wanted it all the time but fact was she was ugly, shallow but a fact.
why did you marry her? That sounds cruel
captainahole
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cruel for who me yes it was.
I've been like this for 4 years, I bitch about it but am learning to live with low sex.... (2-4 times a month)
That's usually when we have the most sex is when I don't bother him about it. So if I wanted to spice up our sex life what else could I possibly do to make him aroused??
Wear a very short skirt and no panties and bend over in front of him...
Holy shit, that is horrible.
The thing is we have sex atleast twice a day maybe sometimes alittle more all depending on our schedule. If he was losing interest wouldn't their be other signs?
twice a day seems prett damn good to me. i mean, jeez, what more do you want? there arent enough hours in the day to have sex much more than tha
lol twice a day is too much for me
^^^ sounds like she is looking for an exit point! I think she is cheating on him! Or she is a liar?
You're crazy. 24 hours a day, work=8. 24-8=16
maximum 8 hours sleeping. 16-8=8.
That gives you 8 hours a day to hump.
2-3 times a day is optimal.
When you wake.
Either before or after work.
Before bed.
Or in middle of night if both awake.
Shit, I could easily maintain a 5 a day habit
Whiskey
yes. the vagina is like a delicate flower lol
strictly poontang
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He's probably just getting alittle tired. When new, many times a day is easy. Back when I was 16/17, I'd pull 5, 6, 7 as many sessions as I could get in. After awhile, it becomes somewhat stagnant. I'd compare it to this: You experience a brand new flavor of ice cream that you just can't get enough of and gorge on it non-stop. Eventually, you tire of it and don't want it anymore. But, if someone else is at the controls and gives you just enough of of it here and there, you'll never lose the craving and always desire it. Same priciple.
On the other hand, if YOU need it so many times a day and he just isn't willing to provide, I'd consider that incompatability, and it's time to look elsewhere. Sexual compatability isn't the only factor in a relationship, but it's important enough of one to be a deal breaker IMHO.
On the other hand, if YOU need it so many times a day and he just isn't willing to provide, I'd consider that incompatability, and it's time to look elsewhere. Sexual compatability isn't the only factor in a relationship, but it's important enough of one to be a deal breaker IMHO.
The thing is we have sex atleast twice a day but the thing that worries me is that sometimes we don't have it at all and I'm not sure of what to think it is if it's me or the stuff he was taking that shut him down for awhile or stress. I'm not lying about any of this stuff all I'm trying to do is get advice from people who have either went through this or just knows alot about it.
strictly poontang
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Everyone's drive is different, but with mine (being off anything) goes in spurts. I am digging as much as I can get for 5 or 6 days, than couldnt care less for 4-5. Goes up and down. Everyone is a little different.
Bridger
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depends on whose vagina you are referring to
BNG
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Wow there's some mixed advice!
2x a day isn't that bad. If he's coming off maybe his PCT isn't working as well as it could.
As for wanting more, I'm like you, I love days when we go at it a few times, or have extended sessions. My wife has a low sex drive and it drives me nuts! If I talk to her about it she's defensive, and says I'm demanding. I've quit talking about it and have tried to initiate things and she's pushing me away. So I ignored her for a while, and viola! she's pissed and wants to know why. We have a big discussion and I tell her how I feel, she's seeing my side of things. Not that her sex drive is any better. It's just a difficult thing all couples seem to deal with.
Last, if you want dick you have to turn him on. It's not as much about mood for men as it is for women. Be sexy, play with his cock for no reason in line at the grocery store, kiss down his chest while he's on the phone & if he gets a chubby whip it out and suck it. If he end the call hop on! Pick some slut outfit to wear for him. Stimulate him. If it's always about banging every time he's in bed then leave him alone when he's resting and slut it up in other ways. Ask him if there's anything he wants from you. Maybe you are boring, (always missionary)maybe you've refused things that are really not a big deal, but it's what turns him on. Is sex always about you & what you want?
2x a day isn't that bad. If he's coming off maybe his PCT isn't working as well as it could.
As for wanting more, I'm like you, I love days when we go at it a few times, or have extended sessions. My wife has a low sex drive and it drives me nuts! If I talk to her about it she's defensive, and says I'm demanding. I've quit talking about it and have tried to initiate things and she's pushing me away. So I ignored her for a while, and viola! she's pissed and wants to know why. We have a big discussion and I tell her how I feel, she's seeing my side of things. Not that her sex drive is any better. It's just a difficult thing all couples seem to deal with.
Last, if you want dick you have to turn him on. It's not as much about mood for men as it is for women. Be sexy, play with his cock for no reason in line at the grocery store, kiss down his chest while he's on the phone & if he gets a chubby whip it out and suck it. If he end the call hop on! Pick some slut outfit to wear for him. Stimulate him. If it's always about banging every time he's in bed then leave him alone when he's resting and slut it up in other ways. Ask him if there's anything he wants from you. Maybe you are boring, (always missionary)maybe you've refused things that are really not a big deal, but it's what turns him on. Is sex always about you & what you want?
I just might kill to get 2x a day... hell 2x a week 
