Wait until marriage before having sex?

[solidspine]

This post could draw some flames, but I would like to know your thoughts,

I am 51 divorced and straight.

This is a survey and not meant to be judgmental.

This questions is for both guys and chicks,

Have any of you ever thought that sex is something more than a physical activity and should only be between a married husband and wife?
And that you should wait until marriage to have sex?

 

[solidspine]

I guess this is simply the wrong question for this board?

 

[pete ferguson]

Wait until marriage for sex

I guess in a perfect, biblical world that's the way it's supposed to happen. But we are human and have human passions. It's possible to remain "virgin" until marriage, I know a lady who is 43 and is still a "virgin", but she has done other things related to sex and she has never married. At what point does hugging and necking become sex? I see your point, I lost my virginity to the girl I married, but I still had sex before I was married.

 

[brianharper94]

My girlfriend is waiting until we're married and that's alright with me. I actually respect her for it. We still have oral sex, but no sex sex. I think it will really be something special when it finally does happen.

 

[theoak01]

i think love making is a sacred thing between two people who truely LOVE each other ,if it means nothing dont do it

 

[Stanknogger]

I think this is a pretty cool quote, it appliews to the situation too

each of us has to find out for himself what is permitted and what is forbidden - forbidden for him. It is possible for one never to transgress a single law and still be a bastard. And vice versa. Actually it's only a question of convenience. Those who are too lazy and comfortable to think for themselves and be their own judges obey the laws. Others sense their own laws within them; things are forbidden to them that every honorable man will do any day in the year and other things are allowed to them that are generally despised.

 

[Benzi]

This post could draw some flames, but I would like to know your thoughts,

I am 51 divorced and straight.

This is a survey and not meant to be judgmental.

This questions is for both guys and chicks,

Have any of you ever thought that sex is something more than a physical activity and should only be between a married husband and wife?
And that you should wait until marriage to have sex?

Personally, i think sex should be between only loving couples... slip ups will be slip ups but i don't see the point in waiting until your married. Love is love and there is nothing wrong with making love. Just try to keep the slip ups few in number.

 

[cladshirt]

Re

Nothing wrong with waiting. I feel its the right thing to do but I couldn't...

 

[solidspine]

Thanks for the posts,

there are some sincere folks on this board,

that is very refreshing.

 

[luv2workout]

I dont believe in waiting....You have to be compatible in all areas of your life and sex being a VERY important part of marriage....

my current husband was married before me - he waited till after he was married to have sex with his bride, she was a virgin....he explains it as the worst experience ever...Im not going into all the details, but after listening to his story - Im against waiting...

 

[painly]

dfd

a sluts suck ass, i cant get boners if im not with an unpoped cherry, or with my computer.

painly

 

[lonewulf]

HA! HA! HA! HA! This is a joke isnt it?

 

[Lostdog]

I love the commercials but i wouldnt buy a new car/or used one at that until I took it for a test drive and gave it a full inspection

 

[Wombat]

Its the silliest thing I have ever heard this day and age. With the divorce rate at what it is today not having sex is not really knowing your partner. I think people should know each other as much as possible before even considering marriage. Live together etc. Most people that hold out will in alot of cases only regret it when they sign there divorce papers 10 years later and then try to be single in a world full of sex. Are these divorcees going to hold out again while at the age of 35-40-45. Good luck finding a mate who at those ages would put up with someone like that.

 

[i2brew]

that would be all well an good....if you think there is sex after marriage. , just kidding, i think.

 

[epinephrine munky]

about waiting

My wife waited. And we waited like 2 years until we got married.

She knows that I wished and still wish that on our wedding night that I could say the same. I had sexual umm... "fluid contact" shall we say - with 6 girls besides her... if you want to look at it that way she is the lucky # 7. Lucky for me that is.

& it's not that we were saints because we were playing with fire by engaging in oral sex quite often. Her pheremones drove/still drive me crazy. How we EVER kept from getting our freak on for 2 years before our wedding is beyond me. Guess we wanted to "test drive" before we commited. That was 5 & 1/2 years ago.

Our relationship is still awesome in every area. One thing is certain with people who wait - when you are away from each other, you are not wondering if the other person is off cheating on you, since they used self-control in regards to you and you know you are the most important person in the world to them.

Did I just type all that? golly... so anyway, I have nothing but respect for those who decide to wait. Wish I did.

 

[tropicdude]

My future wife also waited until we got married, went together 2 years, had some oral, but nothing beyond that until we got married, at the time i wanted to go all the way but respected her wishes and didnt pressure, no regrets, although we divorced, sex was never the issue, even after seperation we still got together just for sex,

 

[Future One]

...you guys are all going to HELL!!! HAH HAH HAH HAH!!!!!!!

Honestly, I am still a virgin, and I guess proud of it is not the right phrase for what I feel. The thing is looking at it from a scientific point of view, sex is just a way for nature to force you to reproduce. Since I don't even like kids, why should I bother even looking for it? There's no point. If I ever get married (which is doubtful) then sure, but as far as I'm concerned, I give the finger to sex. It's one of those mind over matter things, which most of you can't posibly understand...