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[Stan O'Zolol]

Velvett,

Nice post. BTW, I think you and Matty would make a good couple!!!

 

[Slice of Peach2]

I am so glad you two kissed and made up.

 

[PsychoSkitz]

New York City doesn’t make you better or worse, strong or weaker but she does mold you differently and she can change you. New York City culture will find her way under your skin, into your blood, like oxygen and you just can't take it away; she'll penetrate your soul, suck and bleed you dry. She will offer you experiences you had never expected; she will intoxicate you and haunt you like a tentative yet unavailable lover that you will just never get over. She will shake you up and she will take you somewhere you hadn't planned and once you think you've become grounded and understanding of her ways, she'll spit you out and leave you standing bewildered and alone. And when you're longing for her all over again she'll mesmerize you and tease you with her seductive welcome all over again.

So, Long Islanders who are in the city everyday for work and then again for the weekend don't truly grasp the strength that NYC has?

You're just pissed that we have beaches, cars, hard workers and quiet nights and you have airplanes, unemployed actors, smog and arabian terrorists who drive white people around in yellow cars for money

 

[Puc]

Funny, I always considered intellectual comparability paramount in a relationship. Or, at the very least, tantamount to looks, which is just about everything else.

Many mention personal and/or spiritual compatibility, but personality and spirituality are largely a result of acuity and erudition anyway, aren't they????

But, hey, I suck cock for crack. And, honestly, cum is yummy.

 

[velvett]

So, Long Islanders who are in the city everyday for work and then again for the weekend don't truly grasp the strength that NYC has?

You're just pissed that we have beaches, cars, hard workers and quiet nights and you have airplanes, unemployed actors, smog and arabian terrorists who drive white people around in yellow cars for money

That's not really what I meant to say. Growing up within the city is a different experience than LI and I am not putting down LI with that comment. In fact, I think that there are aspects of growing up in LI that are more positive than the City.

As for grasping the strength as you put it, some do, some don't. Not much to experience in a cubicle or a corner window office. Or public (hell) transportation for that matter. Talking about hell, the City is hell in the summertime and it is doubtful I would ever go back to live there.

I'm not pissed PsychoSkitz, I like LI (and hell ya, the best beaches are in LI), but growing up there and growing up in City creates different people regardless of the parenting. Only reason I see it is because I have lifelong friends from both areas and I see how they have grown and matured. One is not better than the other, just different, but I've already said that several times.

As for the beaches, I was one of those brats that had both a city apt and a 'summer house' with private beach in my backyard. Doesn't make me special, just a lucky kid. As for hardworking people, I work my ass off and if it wasn't for the freakin' bird's nest on the roof above my bed I would be able to sleep right now.

(talking about bird nest removal, anyone? any ideas? I haven't slept in two days. I will lose my mind by the weekend. sigh)

Oh and by the way, I am middle eastern.

Go figure.

 

[velvett]

Try to find someone that you are comfortable around. The girl I'm dating now is far from my intellectual equal, but she's pleasant, thoughtful, caring, and I enjoy her company.

I can't discuss Nietzsche with her, or analyze foreign policy trends, but as I realize how much I enjoy being with her, and how much she cares about me, I'm beginning to wonder if that is really an issue anyway.

Your thoughts?

I am not the person to answer this and that I do know. I've never dated anyone that I could get "deep" with on an intellectual level. I've had friends and crushes, crushes that have already had girlfriends, uh, or boyfriends but never my own beau. It has always ended up to become a problem after about 6-12 months depending on how often we were together or the intensity of the relationship.

(My, my. I am very chatty lately aren't I?)

In the big picture I am unsure if it's a problem that is person to person or is just an overall across the board type of consideration. (I need sleep) I must confess, it would be the biggest thrill to be able to be under the covers, in the dark having a "deep" conversation that has absolutely nothing to do with, how can I say, bed related actives. (how's that for a play on words?)

must.get.bird's nest.removed.

so so tired...

 

[kat]

This is definately damn entertaining.

Matt's given up finding his intellectual equal because there isnt one. There's male intellect and female intellect and men want the bod, the looks, the personality and someone who will be a MALE intellectual with them.

Ever seen the "talking head" shows? doesnt matter how well informed or brilliant the (usually)sole woman is, 99% of the time shes no match for the boys. They just run all over her, riducule her, and usually she lets it get to her. the one thing women can't usually get away from is that they will see things from a woman's point of view. In this world, that just isn't good enough.

I apologize for intruding on your somewhat kiss and makeup thread m'lady...I felt compelled to make that observation though.
Have a nice day

 

[Stan O'Zolol]

Kat,

I thought you were the intellectual superior in your relationship with "dumbass" I think you call him?

 

[velvett]

It really freaks me out to think that ya'll feel that this is/was a kiss and make up thread. Or is/was it? I dunno.

There is something to be said for less than intelligent women with smarter guys. (I see it all the time, smart guys with not as smart women.) I know when I need help with something (and I'll be damned before I ask for help) I just look at a guy tilt my head, get all doe eyed and stupid and they come to my rescue. (guys, guys why do you get sucked in by this?) It's quite nauseating actually and I am not proud to say the least.

And Stan, of course he would be, he's taken already. All the *perfect* guys for me are already taken. It's my personal MO, well no actually I am the *married guy magnet*. (sarcasm people, sarrrrrrcasm)


Oh I can't wait to see the replies on this one.

 

[kat]

Ayup Stan, you've got it...he's only a dumbass when he punches holes in the wall(fortunatley that seems to be a one time only event) or steals my dope or drinks my booze. He hasn't been a dumbass for a while now.

However, yes, his idea of an intellectual conversation is to inform me of how much torque is in a 1978 Chevy Camaro with a 357. Fascinating, yes, but I can gnash my political/philisophical teeth with others. He may be a few IQ points behind me, but in some ways he's 10 times the person I am and I still learn from him.

Velvett...Am I to assume from your comment you seem to hook up with the married ones? Hmmm...naughty naughty. Been the maligned other half..couldn't do it to someone else personally.