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[MattTheSkywalker]

You want it, you got it. I don't know who locked the thread. I didn't want to unlock it, because I want to avoid a moderator pissing contest.

I am New York City born/raised. I went away to school and I have subsequently lived in Seattle, North Carolina, Atlanta, Louisiana, Florida, New Hampshire...before I came back to "Strong Island". I won't be here all that long, I don't think. I'm "New York-ed out".

You share what you want to share on the board. You've been fairly forthright. It's painfully obvious that you are quite high strung.

You are actually using your time and emotions on a guy across a computer screen. Why take it so personally?

This is my conclusion, and I'd like to hear yours: You are most likely very intelligent and attractive, and quite successful. You probably exist on mental and spiritual levels that most guys never have visited, and are incapable of understanding. (Like the sailing guy).

This probably scares the living shit out of most guys.

Dating and relationships expose the truth about people, because when you get close to someone, they see the real you. Most people display an aura of who they are (to others) and this aura makes it hard for them to get close to people. They just don't want to expose their true self, because they fear rejection.

You get assholes because they just see you as another sexual opportunity (they lack the depth to see beyond that). Guys who might actually have something to offer you are often apprehensive because of your success and other good qualities. Guys don't want to be thought of as inferior. Trust me on that.

Try to find someone that you are comfortable around. The girl I'm dating now is far from my intellectual equal, but she's pleasant, thoughtful, caring, and I enjoy her company.

I can't discuss Nietzsche with her, or analyze foreign policy trends, but as I realize how much I enjoy being with her, and how much she cares about me, I'm beginning to wonder if that is really an issue anyway.

Your thoughts?

 

[bignate73]

so what he's saying is MOVE TO CALIFORNIA. hehe.

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[Big Buck]

I'll agree w/ Big Nate......"and X gets the square"!!!

 

[cyberflash]

Matt ...

I agree with you ... spirituality does not have to be intellectualized ... in fact ... it has something to do with two hearts relating to each other.

It's seldom to find someone who can discuss descarte, kant, zen buddhism, existentialism and all that ....

 

[Anabolicum Mister]

Try to find someone that you are comfortable around. The girl I'm dating now is far from my intellectual equal, but she's pleasant, thoughtful, caring, and I enjoy her company.

I can't discuss Nietzsche with her, or analyze foreign policy trends, but as I realize how much I enjoy being with her, and how much she cares about me, I'm beginning to wonder if that is really an issue anyway.

Your thoughts?

Not being your intellectual equal can be an issue if you let it be. Obviously, it doesn't have to be. Of course if you are too far apart, bridging the gap may become a serious obstacle.

 

[smallmovesal]

kant is evil and he corrupted clement greenberg...

 

[PsychoSkitz]

NYC sucks anyways.

You can live in a ghetto part, an upperclass part, a gay part, etc. What's the point?

Does it make you tougher if you were born and raised in NYC as opposed to LI?

Hell no, it just means you paid less for Snapple growing up.

 

[velvett]

warning: long winded

Matt, I thought I had remembered reading from a conversation (w/ Shagwell??) that you were from Long Island, my mistake, I apologize. There is a difference perhaps it’s just me but I can see it in my friends while growing up in the City and those friends from the summers spent growing up in Long Island. Again, perhaps it’s just something more personal to me but it is something that I have noted and shared in opinion with others.

New York City doesn’t make you better or worse, strong or weaker but she does mold you differently and she can change you. New York City culture will find her way under your skin, into your blood, like oxygen and you just can't take it away; she'll penetrate your soul, suck and bleed you dry. She will offer you experiences you had never expected; she will intoxicate you and haunt you like a tentative yet unavailable lover that you will just never get over. She will shake you up and she will take you somewhere you hadn't planned and once you think you've become grounded and understanding of her ways, she'll spit you out and leave you standing bewildered and alone. And when you're longing for her all over again she'll mesmerize you and tease you with her seductive welcome all over again.

I took your comment personally for three simple reasons, one, I had already mentioned that it was “slow” (not too bright of me) to go on the boat in the first place, two, your response didn’t make sense to me. What was I doing that was so obvious to you and what made you think from my comment that I’m always looking? (Not that you would have known but that sailing trip was August of 2000) And the final reason being if I didn’t find any value in what you had to say I would have simply discarded the comment and moved on. So, yes, I took it personally and yes, I should make a note of not responding in the future, when all emotional about a few sentences. But you have to admit Matt, that the comment you made was a bit harsh and judgmental.

High strung? Hmm. I can’t say anyone has every described me as such. Yet, I will admit to being extremely frustrated with people in general and simply put, rather short fused as of late, which sadly is out of character for me. So if you mean “high strung” on those sort of terms I will have to agree with you and mention that I’m working on it but it’s been difficult lately. (Not that I’m excusing it.)
If you mean “high strung” along other lines, please elaborate because it could be something I just don’t see in myself and perhaps my friends are being to soft hearted to tell me so.

A lot of what you said makes sense, it usually does and while it gives supportable and logical answers it won’t change the situation. I know my strengths and weakness and I know who I am, I’ve always be honest, if not almost uncomfortably blunt about it. I have nothing to hide but at the same time if you’re not asking, I’m not offering. I believe this to be a fault and I believe this to be another reason why I am difficult to get to know and I take to being judged, especially judged in error so personally. Again, this ultimately is a problem that I’ve created for myself by being ultra protective of my feelings with others. (Another fault)

I don’t believe the superficial things like looks, success or money will guarantee you love or happiness in your life. It will buy you some nice things, a few friends and lesson some financials stresses but it ends there. I don’t know, maybe it’s me. It could be so many things, Matt, I moved from the City to the Hamptons for work and to escape the City; I packed in two days and bailed. I have no regrets but socializing in the Hampton all seasons in no picnic. (I have a feeling you might just know what I am talking about.)

Anyway, I’ve babbled on longer than I should have and I apologize for the tone of my “blow-up” but your comment hit an Achilles heel of always being judged for me and I responded with the emotion that erupted. Huh, I just can’t stay mad at you. Go figure.

 

[The Varnsen]

 

[HappyScrappy]

speaking of existentialism - anyone here read Rosencrantz & Guildenstern Are Dead?

very funny play that takes the two that have a small Shakespearian role (in Hamlet) and use them to demonstrate some existentialistic views...
I repeat - very funny

for those of you that don't read, there is also a movie of it with Gary Oldman and Tim Roth, both of whom are very high on my list of favorite actors.