Uncomplicated Relationships.....

[AGENT SHAGWELL]

Freak as far as what you saying about emotions...I want that...but I guess I need a person who is not so touchy (touchy feeling is good...but getting up set because your busy or don't call them, etc....thats not good)......Emotions Good......Being Overly Sensative....Bad....

Bottom line I guess like that one person said...relationships, involving relating...so if you find that person that you relate to the most, you can avoid alot of those complications......I guess I just don't relate well......

 

[Hannibal]

Just my opinion, but once you have established a SOLID relationship you don't have be with each other 24/7. I mean as long as you both KNOW your partner cares what else is there. Then when you are together it's that much more meaningful. Of course what do I know...just a single guy's perspective.

As for the original question...relationships take work as does anything else worthwhile. If it were "uncomplicated" then everyone would be happy, and it wouldn't mean as much when you find what you want. Sounds like you're getting lazy Shags

"There are no shortcuts to any place worth going."

 

[velvett]

DECIBEL!

i've been "going out" with a girl for almost two years now and it's the best relationship i've ever had. we're not "dating" per se, and we know we never will, so we're just really, really close friends. we love each other, but are not in love with each other. we call each other only maybe once a week and hang out either friday or saturday

What the hell??? Please explain the difference between going out and dating? What you can cheat and it's ok. Is that the difference?

No flame - I really would love to know how people think these days.

we both know that we fuck other people, we just don't talk about it. it works out great, i just hope she never gets serious with anyone because i don't want to lose her.

Can you say commitment phobic?
Is it me, or are you contradicting yourself in those statements?

And I wonder why I can't find a datable guy with similar values as to my own.

 

[Freak Show]

Freak as far as what you saying about emotions...I want that...but I guess I need a person who is not so touchy (touchy feeling is good...but getting up set because your busy or don't call them, etc....thats not good)......Emotions Good......Being Overly Sensative....Bad....

I see what you're saying now. I guess I misinterpreted what you asked the first time. I'd say its possible, but the longer something like that goes on the more difficult it will be to keep it that way. Eventually someone's gonna say, "hey, is this going anywhere?" or "why am I in this relationship?" Especially if you're at an age where "real commitment" is the next logical step. Eventually, MOST people want to get something out of a relationship so they don't feel it was a waste of time.

 

[Hannibal]

Re: DECIBEL!

And I wonder why I can't find a datable guy with similar values as to my own.

You must be looking in the wrong place

 

[rudedawg]

no...don't have HBO...so did those little trollups have any insightful relevations on the subject?

Nope.....the red head chick gave up dating and dudes for chocolate..... Carrie (Sarah Jessica Parker) has a fuck buddy working her..... The black haired chick that got married is back with her husband and he can fuck now in their bed (long story if ya don't watch it) and the blonde (slut type chick) is now a lesbian and eats pussy LOL.

I have had several so called fuck buddies but, it seems like I always stopped using them for straight sex at 1:30 am and started going at 9:00pm.......oh well ..... I am one that can't have a sexual relationship without some emotion involved......one night stands don't count.

 

[decibel]

velvett -- i don't know the difference. i just don't know what to call our relationship because she is the girl whom i love and who is the closest to me, but we're not commited to each other. we're definitely more than fuck buddies, though, because our relationship doesn't revolve around sex. we are always there for each other and i truly DO love her. i can just cuddle with her for hours on end without having sex and be in complete bliss.

commitment phobia? hell yeah. i'll agree to that. i've been close to getting married before and i'm not going down that road anytime soon. i'm enjoying my youth way to much.

 

[rudedawg]

Freak as far as what you saying about emotions...I want that...but I guess I need a person who is not so touchy (touchy feeling is good...but getting up set because your busy or don't call them, etc....thats not good)......Emotions Good......Being Overly Sensative....Bad....

Bottom line I guess like that one person said...relationships, involving relating...so if you find that person that you relate to the most, you can avoid alot of those complications......I guess I just don't relate well......

Sounds like the guys you have been dating are too clingy for ya.

And how the hell can you not have HBO???????

 

[AGENT SHAGWELL]

Sounds like the guys you have been dating are too clingy for ya.

And how the hell can you not have HBO???????

Clingy....lol...the last guy I dated hasn't called me in about a month...so not too clingy

HBO...I can live without....but I don't have ESPN Classic!!!!....life is so unfair at times.....

 

[velvett]

velvett -- i don't know the difference. i just don't know what to call our relationship because she is the girl whom i love and who is the closest to me, but we're not commited to each other. ...[snip for space]...commitment phobia? hell yeah. i'll agree to that. i've been close to getting married before and i'm not going down that road anytime soon. i'm enjoying my youth way to much.

Well, at least you are smart and if you both are comfortable with the arrangement who am I to judge. That is a good thing then.

I also have to commend you for knowing not to get married when you clearly know that is not what you are ready for at the present time.

I hope that you and your lady friend find yourselves together at the same time when you are both ready to make a serious commintment or that you may find someone to be her nearest equal.

Other than that - I am speechless.