Too Serious?

[Uh Oh]

Do you take things too seriously? Maybe just get too involved in situations? I've been thinking a lot along these lines lately. I have a tendancy to get myself into situations. I let myself get too attached or too wrapped up in it. Anyone else like this? And is this a bad thing? I've really been trying to figure that one out.

PHATchik

 

[Austin316]

yep, king of jumpin to conclusions right here, oh well just gotta say fuck it

 

[Uh Oh]

yep, king of jumpin to conclusions right here, oh well just gotta say fuck it

What if you can't?

 

[Austin316]

there is no can't when it comes to situations...you just convince yourself that can't exists, for you there should be only 3 things that REALLY matter, your health, family, and education..so long as it does not involve one of those three, then it is moot..It takes a lot to turn your back and walk away, some things its just the best thing to do no matter your feelings, bottom line, be selfish and watchout for yourself, its all you have

lord I don't know if this has anything to do with anything Im just rambling

 

[Uh Oh]

Lol. I don't know what this says for me, but I'm actually following along with what you were saying.

 

[Uh Oh]

Any other ideas?

 

[Austin316]

well its vague, so you can apply it to a number of things, the only other thing to add, is grinning and bearing it isn't the way to go either, too young to put up with situations not involving one of the threee things I listed above, something causes you stress, cut it out of your life, walk away, I used to let everything get to me, now I don't waste my time on situations I find annoying me or stressing me out, I just won't have anythign to do with it anymore, weather that be friends, relationships, etc 5 years from now, will any of these litte situations even matter? look at the end result and do what it takes to get there

 

[Uh Oh]

I never said I was stressing over things. I'm just curious about whether or not people let themselves get too deeply involved in situations and what they do. I have a tendancy to do this, and I'm not sure if it is a good thing or not.

 

[Austin316]

well then i guess Ill shut up, best advice I got is just those two wors though

Fuck it

 

[Uh Oh]

I've never been a fan of that philosophy. I'm not about to start now.

 

[Austin316]

do what ya gotta do, sorry I was of no help, oh well fuck it jk!

 

[big4life]

You have a heart and you care about others, there is nothing wrong with that. Just remember to place yourself first some times.

Also remember that you can't solve everyone's problems for them. You can be there for people, but you also need to be there for yourself.





BTW. I need to learn to follow my own advice.

 

[Night Fly]

I think that getting involved (or overly involved) in some situations shows that you care...and that's fine. BUT...you need to realize that there is a limit about how much you need to involve yourself in other person's problems. You can only do so much...and there is usually a point where you need to say...I've done all I can and it's up to the other person to help themselves. You sometimes have to 'not care'...especially if it is something that you can't do anything about. You will worry yourself sick if you allow yourself to care about every single thing.

Gosh...I am making NO sense. I have been studying WAY TO LONG today. LOL...hope that I didn't confuse you too much, PHATchik.

 

[Night Fly]

Okay, I think Big4life said it better than I did. That is what I was trying to say...lol.

 

[Austin316]

Gosh...I am making NO sense. I have been studying WAY TO LONG today. LOL...hope that I didn't confuse you too much, PHATchik.

lol I don't evemn have that excuse, I was talking to some girl from 300-730 in the morning last night so I missed, oooops oh well lol I rarely make much sense anywhoo

 

[Uh Oh]

Hmmm, I really meant involving yourself in situations that involve you. I don't mean getting in other people's stuff. I mean situations in which you know you should keep your distance, but it just doesn't work that way. I'm not good at this. Any of you like that?

 

[Austin316]

Hmmm, I really meant involving yourself in situations that involve you. I don't mean getting in other people's stuff. I mean situations in which you know you should keep your distance, but it just doesn't work that way. I'm not good at this. Any of you like that?

haha what do you think? Ive goten better bout it though

 

[Night Fly]

Hmmm, I really meant involving yourself in situations that involve you. I don't mean getting in other people's stuff. I mean situations in which you know you should keep your distance, but it just doesn't work that way. I'm not good at this. Any of you like that?

Ah, okay...I gotcha. I used to be that way. You just have to do what you can and take it from there. It is your own life and you have to deal somehow or another with every situation that you run into.

I think you need to be more specific. I'm getting lost in my own explanation....lol. What types of situations are you talking about?

 

[big4life]

I think you need to be more specific. I'm getting lost in my own explanation....lol. What types of situations are you talking about?

I think that I took a left turn when I should have went right.

 

[Uh Oh]

I basically just mean in general. No need to get into specifics. I guess I just mean with people and things that could potentially hurt you if you get too involved. Yeah, that's a good way to put it. lol

 

[Night Fly]

I think that I took a left turn when I should have went right.

You and I both!

 

[Night Fly]

I basically just mean in general. No need to get into specifics. I guess I just mean with people and things that could potentially hurt you if you get too involved. Yeah, that's a good way to put it. lol

Okay, that's a little bit better. I look at it like this...everything in life has the potential to backfire or to 'hurt' you. To me...life is about taking risks. If you decide to risk being hurt by getting to involved..then that is your choice. You may or may not get hurt. It is all a personal decision. If you are tired of getting hurt, then you will eventually quit getting too involved in things.

If you constantly are too involved in things and always manage to get hurt, then maybe you should look at that. Sometimes you can't fix everything...and it has taken me a while to realize that. Doesn't mean that I still don't want to...but I've got to become realistic.

 

[danielson]

depends

i spent 3 years of my life unwilling to take risks for fear of being hurt. now im a little better but unwilling to get burned

its all risk vs benefit.....do you need to get thatg involved.....does the person you are getting 'involved' with deserve that level of attention......will thy reciprocate, do u think they will rebuke your attentions, or manipulate your empathy to their gain.....try to asses the situation without letting your preconceptions of the person get in our way....the seemingly best of people can turn on you

 

[big4life]

I'm still confused, plus I just took a vicodine for my shoulder so it will only get worse.


You have a good head on your shoulders, you will figure it out.

 

[polarpixie]

I basically just mean in general. No need to get into specifics. I guess I just mean with people and things that could potentially hurt you if you get too involved. Yeah, that's a good way to put it. lol

It's hard to give advice when it's unclear what you're giving advice for....But, speaking from experience, in general, if you have a pretty good feeling that by getting yourself involved with people or situations which can hurt you, chances are, that is exactly what will happen. Then, after the whole mess, you will walk away from the whole situation kicking yourself because you knew how it would turn out badly from the very beginning.

So, the question to ask yourself before getting involved is, Is this experience/relationship worth it for me? Will I regret ever getting involved?


I hope that helps a little hon!

 

[Uh Oh]

Thanks everyone.